How to Improve Public Speaking

Let’s talk about how to improve your public speaking skills. We’re gonna talk about five ways that you can get better, so let’s get into those details.

I’m Alex Lyon, and we’re gonna talk about how to improve your public speaking skills. This is the second video in a three-part series that I’m doing this month. The first video is the importance of public speaking, and then the next one is how to practice a speech.

But in this one, we’re going to look at five ways that you can improve your public speaking skills. So let’s get into that. The number one way that you can improve your public speaking skills is to speak about a topic that you care about.

When you are passionate about a subject, you are going to put way more work into it because you’re motivated. And no one has to tell you to do it. You want to speak about this topic. And speaking about a topic that you don’t care about, you can still get better, but you will take your skills to the next level when you’re passionate about the subject because you’re like, oh, this is so important.

And I really wanna get this across. And you want your listeners to benefit the most. So, in my experience, when you care about a topic, your skills will go to next level completely. So figure out what you really wanna talk about and look for opportunities to speak about that particular topic.

The second way to improve is to watch great speakers. Identify some speakers that you admire, that you look up to, and watch what they do. Now, don’t copy them. Don’t imitate them. But watch two or three different kinds of speakers that all have their own skills and learn from them.

By watching a few different people, what you’ll do is you’ll see the general skills that cut across, and then you can pull out of that principle that you can then apply on your own. For example, I really admire Patricia Fripp.

She’s a very well-known professional speaker, and she is an amazing storyteller. And so I don’t tell stories the way she does. She has her own unique way, but I said I wanna get better at telling stories.

So when I speak publicly, I tell a lot of stories. I also like to be funny. Now, I’m not a standup comic by any stretch, but I like to watch standup comedians like Jerry Seinfeld, just to get inspired by their amazing skill to make people laugh with just a one-line joke.

That’s impressive. So watch great speakers. Pull out the general principles from them. And then put those into practice for yourself. The third way to improve is to prepare. And this might sound a little dry, but I can tell you that 95% of the way a presentation turns out is determined by how you prepare.

And that basically means making a clear outline beforehand, so you really have your thoughts in order, intro, a few main points, and a conclusion. And also, practicing from that outline a whole bunch of times, five, six, seven times.

I practice about 10 times or more for every presentation I give. I know some people who don’t practice at all. They just put out their whole outline, and then when they stand up to speak, it’s the first or maybe only the second time they have spoken through it.

And you can usually tell. In fact, I teach this stuff to professionals. I do workshops for companies, and I can’t tell you how many times someone, it’s their turn to go up and speak. And they say, you know, I’m just gonna wing it.

Well, you can tell what’s gonna happen ahead. I already know what’s gonna happen. The people who prepare always do much better than the people who say, I’m just gonna wing it. So preparation is really key.

Don’t underestimate that. Get alone in a room. Talk through your notes. Stand up the way you would really stand up, and power through it. You also may want to record on your phone your practice sessions.

That can be really motivating. It can identify a couple of things that you need to work on. So record yourself, and it’s almost like getting another person to give you feedback. The fourth way is to get more experience.

There are a lot of low-risk, low-stakes ways to stand up and present. Maybe you would run a short training session for example in your workplace around the people that you already know. That’s how I got my first start after college.

I had done public speaking in college, but then on my first job in Rhode Island, there was an opportunity to do a training session. And so I did a 20-minute session on listening skills. And I can tell you right now, it wasn’t good.

In fact, I remember looking out at a lot of confused faces in the room for that 20 minutes. But it helped me start. It was a starting place, and everybody was supportive. They were all my coworkers. They were all on my side.

Look for low-stakes opportunities, low-risk opportunities to speak. Maybe it’s announcements at church. Maybe it’s like running a training session. Maybe you can do a little meeting where it’s just four or five of you, but you prepare your thoughts in advance as if you were going to be speaking publicly.

Look for as many opportunities as possible to get more experience. And the fifth way is to take a class. So maybe you’re in college. Look for a public speaking class. Look for an advanced public speaking class after that.

Maybe on the job where you work there are opportunities and workshops and people that come through to teach communication skills. Take one of those. You can take an online course. And one of the great things about a course of some sort is that the instructor has already thought through some of the most common issues that people need to overcome, and so they’re gonna take you through a curriculum and move you forward in all those other areas.

Like I have a lot of people that say, well, I’m so nervous. If I could just get over my nerves, then I’d be better at this. Well, yeah, that’s a start but really learning concrete skills is going to help you get better, and a teacher can help guide you through that process instead of just guessing on your own what you need to work on.

Now, at the beginning of the video, I mentioned there are a couple of free resources that I wanted to tell you about. The first one is free. It’s an instant PDF download that you put in your email, and I send you tips to help you become a more confident and composed public speaker.

So you can look for the link to that in the description below the video. And the second one is a full course that I have created. It’s called Present Like a Pro. And the whole goal of the course is to help you become a top 10% presenter in your professional setting.

So I invite you to check that out. Again, links and descriptions are below. So question of the day, what do you think the best ways to improve your public speaking are? I’d love to hear your thoughts on what works best for you, and I look forward to reading those comments in that section below the video.

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Master The Art Of Public Speaking And Storytelling | Eric Edmeades

The quality of your presentation, plus the size of the audience, creates the level of attraction you create as a speaker. So the first thing we talked about this morning is the stage effect. The stage effect is the unfair advantage that you create.

For yourself, by standing in front of an audience, and I just want to give you a little bit more information about that. The stage effect is a really fascinating thing. The stage effect is kind of like it works like this.

The quality of your presentation, plus the size of the audience, creates the level of attraction you create as a speaker. Does that make sense? So what that means is that the bigger your audience, the more attractive that’s going to happen, and I’ve noticed this very much in my career, because when I go out on tour, when I launch in a new country, I might go on a tour in a new country and nobody knows me, and so I go there and some of the audience, some of the events might have 20 or 30 or 40 people, but then some of those people end up coming to one of my workshops.

Those people have a certain attitude toward me when they come to the workshop, as my career in any given country gets bigger, like when I came here to Tal some years ago, and I did an event, and there were about 2 500 people in the audience.

They treat me differently than the people who saw me with 30 people, because there’s something powerful about people watching you. The same thing applies to YouTube. Somebody sends you a video and it’s got four views, and somebody sends you another video and it’s got four million views. Which one are you going to watch? The views are the size of the audience, and so, if it’s got four million views, you’re more People are more likely to watch it if you’ve got five thousand people in the audience. It creates more attraction, and so what this means is that when you stand up in front of an audience and you deliver from your heart, you are creating a level of attraction that is far beyond what you can create one-on-one. If there are 10 people in the audience, it’s far more attractive than one-on-one.

This is so important because in marketing, there is no system of marketing that is more effective than personal contact. I’m not talking about effectiveness in numbers. There are many systems that can do better with numbers, but I’m talking about effectiveness when it comes to creating a lasting memory or impression with somebody.

Nothing will create a more lasting impression than face-to-face contact with somebody. But the problem is that face-to-face contact isn’t very practical. How many people can you meet and really connect with in a day? I mean, if you really have it back to back and you’re spending, I don’t know, if you live in England, you can kind of travel around pretty quickly and meet with a lot of people, because there are 60 million people living on a postage stamp.

But if you live in Canada, it’s a little different. I was working in Canada in Vancouver, and I had a client in England. We’d been doing business for a few years, but we’d never met before, and one day he called me and said, “Eric, we’re finally going to get to meet,” and I said, “Austin, what’s happening?” He said, “I’ve got a conference I have to go to and I’m coming to Canada.”

I said that’s great. I said, “What’s what’s the schedule?” He said, “Well, I’m flying into Toronto on Monday.” The conference is on Tuesday, and I’ve got Wednesday and Thursday free. So I figured we should get together for lunch, and I said, “Okay, um, when are you planning to come out to Vancouver?” and he goes, ” I have a rental car now.

Some of you will be aware of North American geography, but some might not. So I just want to put this in perspective. This is Canada for you. If you would like to drive from Halifax, Nova Scotia to Vancouver, Canada, and you have three friends to do the driving with you, the car only stops for you to put petrol in it, eat, and sleep in the car.

It will take you four and a half days. It’s just that you know it’s a big place. What I’m getting at is that face-to-face contact in our world today is not going to be the most effective because it takes so much time, but the good news is that face-to-face contact is even more powerful than face-to-face. It’s even more powerful.

I am well. Let me ask you, and if you already know the answer, I don’t need your answer. If you don’t know me, you haven’t met me. Am I introverted or extroverted? Who thinks I’m pretty extroverted? Whoever thinks I’m pretty extroverted seems to think I’m up here on stage doing whatever. How many of you think I’m more introverted?

So the fact of the matter is, I am significantly more introverted than I am extroverted. You will notice that I will walk around here. I don’t walk up and talk to people all the time and introduce myself. I wouldn’t say, “I’m shy.”

I’m just introverted, and one of the greatest tools of the introvert is learning how to be great at storytelling and standing on stage, because then you don’t have to go meet people; they come and meet you. It’s different.

You meet them all at once. It’s an incredibly powerful thing, but that’s social. But what about economics? If I’m a business consultant and I’ve got my friend Derek Eric and Derek, and we’ve decided to buddy coach each other, we’re going to try and get through our stuff, and what we’re going to do is go to a networking event and have a competition to see who can meet the most people.

So introverted business consultant Derek goes off to the event with a pocket full of business cards and he’s meeting all the people. “So good to meet you. I’m so happy to meet you. Here’s my card.”

Do you have a card with you? Do you have one? Do you have a card as well? Can I have and and and Derek is meeting them all, and at the end of the day, he’s got a pocket full of business cards. On the other hand, I am an introverted Eric business consultant too.

I don’t want to do all that. I call the organizer and say hi. I’d like to come and speak at your conference. Here’s my show reel, here’s my bio boom, and I got myself booked as a speaker. I walked on stage.

I spoke for 45 minutes. I make people laugh, maybe cry, maybe think I give them distinctions on who’s going to have the most business cards at the end of this conference. I probably am, but wait a minute.

Let’s call it a tie. Let’s say we get back to our hotel room. We take out our stacks of business cards, we put them down, and it turns out it’s a tie. Okay, so we have to go to the tie-breaker round of the tie break around.

How does that work? Well, what we do is start calling the people we meet. So Derek starts picking up the phone and saying, “Hey, do you remember how we met at the conference?” It was over by the Starbucks.

I was the blue shirt. Do they remember him? Barely a few. I might see if I call them, pick them up, and go hi. It’s Eric. You’re Eric. Calling from the presentation, I’ve created a deeper, lasting memory.

Is it true? So the tiebreaker is that I have as many business cards as I have, but these business cards mean something. They connect. Something now, let’s go to the next tie-breaker round, where one can charge more for the same consulting services.

I want you to hear me about this. This is not a small thing. This individual does not charge 10% more than this individual.This person can charge many times what this person can charge. I didn’t fully understand this.

Until one day, I was doing an event in Las Vegas, Nevada, and I did my presentation at this event. Many speakers were there. I spoke for about two hours, and then these guys walked up to me afterward. I was standing with my wife.

They walked up and said, “We’d like to buy you lunch.” What do I know at this point? They want something, but I’m hungry, [laughs]. So I accept the lunch, and so we go off for lunch, and we’re sitting there at lunch, and they start trying to hire me to work for their company in California.

I don’t want to live in California. I live in the Dominican Republic and just to put this in perspective for you, how many of you are familiar with kiteboarding? So how many are not familiar with kiteboarding, but you are familiar with wakeboarding? So I’ll describe kiteboarding for you.

It’s like wakeboarding, right? It’s like wakeboarding; you’re on a snowboard type thing and wake boarding. The boat is pulling you right, but with kiteboarding, it’s like you control the boat and the boat can fly.

It’s an incredible sport, and I live on a kite beach where there’s wind for 10 months of the year. San Diego is beautiful, but the wind is seasonal and the water is. There’s a technical term for this. Let me just say I have it here.

I have it on my phone. I looked it up. It’s freaking cold. It’s really cold, and so if I don’t need a wetsuit even in December, I’m not interested in going to live there. I didn’t want the job, but they kept trying to get me to do it, and I finally said, “Look, what do you really want from me?” They explained what they were looking for, and I said, “Um.”

“Well, could we hire you as a consultant?” they asked. Actually, no, I’m not looking. I’m busy. I have a full calendar, so I’m not. I want to spend time with my family. I don’t really want to, but I don’t like saying “no” either, so sometimes I’ll say “no” with a number.

This is one of the smartest ways that any of you will learn to raise your prices. So you deliver so much value that people want to do business with you, and then you say no with a bigger number, and so I decided to do that as well.

Could we have you come in for like one week a month for six months? I wanted to say no, but I didn’t. Instead, I said sure, it’d be twenty thousand dollars for each week. They said Okay, I said, and then I said, “Wait.”

Whoa, whoa, before you say, “Okay, I don’t fly on the weekend, I’m with my family.” I fly on Monday and I fly home on Friday. So it’s three days and twenty thousand dollars and they said okay and so for the next six months.

I did this before and I would have sold it for a fraction of that amount if I was open to consulting, which I wouldn’t have sold, because I didn’t want it, but all of a sudden I found the stage effect had an immediate and powerful financial return.

It helps you sell things, it helps you get a job, and it helps you get that promotion. It helps you get funding for your business and it helps you recruit people for your company. It’s the ability to leverage that’s so powerful now. In order for that to work, though, we have to have some skills.

We talked today about how to get more comfortable, but now what we have to do is talk about some skills. One of the most important skills you can develop as a speaker is the ability to go to a conference and deliver a talk that will appeal to the highest percentage of the whole audience.

Irrespective of the topic, because you will occasionally get asked to speak at conferences where there’s a wide variety of people in the audience and your topic might only appeal to half or a third of the people, is that possible, and so the trouble is, you’d almost They’d be better off if the other people would just leave, because if they stay in the room with their naysayers’ energy, if they stay in the room checking their Facebook, if they stay in the room talking to each other, they’re going to ruin the energy of the room and they’re going to distract other people from your presentation.

You know, they don’t all sit on their side, right? So you get the interested person and the disinterested person and the interested person, and then it just messes up the room and you can’t make them leave, and so what you need to do is keep their attention, and so in doing that, we use something.

That is what we call broad-spectrum appeal, which is to deliver with broad spectrum.’s to be delivered in a way where the audience likes what’s going on, even if the topic isn’t a direct match for them. So there are some keys to this.

The first key use stories We already talked about it this morning. Stories are the operating system of the human mind. You see, if you tell somebody something, they’re not going to remember it, but if you relay the information to them in a story that triggers emotion, they’re going to remember it. You see, your mind has too much stuff to process, and so what does it decide? What to hold on to and what it will hold on to is anything that has an emotion attached to it.

Does this make sense to you? You see if you have a day that’s completely boring and you have no emotions about that day, Will you ever remember that day? No, but if you have a day where you had an intense emotional experience, like when somebody drove into your car, are you going to remember that day? You had an intense emotional experience.

If you have no memory, sorry, if you have no emotion, there’ll be no memory. If you have too many emotions, you could end up with PTSD. That’s ultimately, what it’s about is that the emotion is so intense that it writes the memory in so solidly that it can’t be shaken out. Once we begin to understand that emotion is the glue that causes memories to stick, once we get that, then we know that we have to deliver things in a story format which is the operating system of the human brain.

People come and go now and then, Eric. That’s all fine and good. You’re up there telling your stories. I don’t have any stories. Does anybody feel a little like that? They don’t have so many stories, or the other thing they say is, “Well, Eric, but I have to.”

I have to just deliver the numbers. I just I’m an accountant, and I have to deliver numbers to the board of the company. How do I write that story? Well, what you begin to realize is that delivering a story is about the way you deliver anything and-and what I mean is that if I have to come and deliver the numbers, then I can walk out here, and I can say, ladies and gentlemen, of the board, I have the numbers. We projected 14 growth for the quarter, and in fact, we achieved 16.

Well done everyone; that’s how it’s done right. In fact, that’s somebody doing it quite well in our world. It can be done a lot worse than that. How many of you have been to a conference where you’ve been sitting in the middle row and you’ve been wishing? Were you on the edges? Has anybody been to that conference? Right, so I’ve been there and so what? If that’s the case, what if? I walk out and go.

Ladies and gentlemen, the board, I’ve got the numbers from the accounting department today and I’m really excited about this, because when we set the targets, you’ll remember, we projected 14 growth for the quarter, and you might recall, I wasn’t a big believer.

I wasn’t so optimistic about that and so this morning, when I got the numbers from the accounting department, I held the envelope in my hand. I just took a moment before I opened it, and then I tore the envelope open and read the report, and then I had to read it a second time, and I’m not kidding.

I had to read it a third time to understand what happened. We predicted 14 percent growth on the horizon and ended up with 16 percent.Is it different? I created suspense, I created drama, and I made it a story.

It didn’t even take much longer, but I did it in a way that you will now remember it. In fact, I will be able to walk up to some of you in three or four days from now and ask how much growth did we post and you’ll go, “Yeah.” It was 16, right, like you will, because I gave it to you in the story.

So the first thing you have to understand is that it’s not even that you have to have so many stories. You have to recognise that the information needs to be delivered in story format. When it’s delivered in story format, it becomes memorable.

The only way you’re going to get anybody to remember anything is by linking an emotion to it. How many people in this room did you have in school in your first 12 years of school? You had at least one or two teachers that to this day, you would love to have lunch with them and thank them for the contribution they made in your life.

Keep your hand up if they were a storyteller. Nine times out of ten, more like 99999 times out of a thousand, these guys are storytellers. Isn’t it true? They’re totally storytellers. And the teachers that didn’t tell you stories, you don’t remember what they taught you. These days, you don’t even remember their name.

Do you know that I moved? I grew up largely in Halifax, Nova Scotia, on the eastern side of Canada, and one of my teachers was When I was in grade three—and I know, every country uses different grades, but three means like eight years old, and so I was seven or eight years old, I was in his class, and he was brilliant at storytelling.

He understood everything about storytelling. One day, he understood the suspense. He used to sit in his chair and he would put his leg up on his desk. You know, kind of bad manners, don’t you think? So we often sat in our when he came into the class, and we’re eight years old, we’d put our feet up on our desks, and then he walked in one day, and he goes,

You guys, You think that’s funny, don’t you, and we’re like, yeah, you do it, so we can do it too, kid, thinking right, and he goes well. I’m going to tell you why I do it. He said one day, I was going out on my first date in my car, and I was driving along when I dropped my girlfriend off at her house after an incredible day, and then I turned around and I was so high.

I was so happy. I was so full of love from this experience. I’d gone out on my first date, my first in my car, my first time and I was driving along and I was heading low when suddenly something happened to the car.

Somebody had hit me a little bit from behind, and then the car started to slide, and it was sliding toward this tree, and I saw the tree, and it was the weirdest thing, because there was nothing I could do and the tree just kept getting closer and closer and it was almost like slow motion, and all of a sudden, I just slammed into the tree and then and then, and a little while later, I woke up on the road. The weirdest thing was that I’d never been able to do the splits before, but now I was doing the splits. The only problem was my knee was bent here and so this bone had been broken.

So badly that it was sticking out through the skin, and so now there’s a metal rod in my leg, and so when I sit at my desk while you guys are working, if I don’t lift my leg up on the desk, it becomes incredibly painful.

That’s why I put my feet on my desk. He says otherwise it’s considered incredibly impolite and I’m sorry I didn’t share that with you earlier. I was eight. I still remember that story.

Incidentally, I have not shared that story once on stage until this moment. I have never shared that story that I can think of. I still remember it from when I was eight. Then one day, he comes in and he goes, because one of the important types of stories to tell is metaphorical or allegorical, where you tell a story that the audience wants to hear.

This has broad spectrum appeal. You tell a story that the audience wants to hear, but that’s teaching something else. So one day he walks in and says, “Guys, it’s health class.”Does he have our attention? No, we’re

Eighth grade health class doesn’t get interesting until you’re 12. I mean, let’s be clear: 12-13 health class starts getting, you won’t admit it, but it’s starting to get interesting right. You’re eight years old, it’s not interesting, so he’s like, “It’s health class, nobody’s interested,” and he walks up to the blackboard and he takes out this thing and he’s like, “So he says all right now: does he have our attention?” Why does he have our attention? It was 1978.

No, it’s 1978. Okay, no matter how popular Harry Potter becomes, he will never have an impact on society.you watch any three hours of television in North America, any three hours of television news, any sitcom movie, you will hear a Star Wars reference.

That’s the way it is. He understood this in 1978 when, in 1978, he was drawing characters from the Star Wars universe and he did this. He goes now to this force field. Was he brilliant? This force field is your skin.

He says these are antibodies; they are defending you; and these are the germs and bacteria that are trying to get into your body and make you sick. When I was eight years old, that’s exactly what the blackboard looked like, because he understood how to tell stories.

Storytelling will change everything about the way you do a presentation. It will change everything about the way the audience receives it, and the beauty is that stories are broad spectrum automatically. The toughest audience I’ve ever had is the absolute toughest audience I’ve ever had.

I got this phone call. Eric, would you come and speak at this inner-city school in London? I will speak for schools pretty much unreservedly if I’m around. If I’m nearby, I’ll do it pro bono. If I’m around and it’s free, I’ll show up and do it.

The one thing is that when I’m doing pro bono speaking, I won’t always put in the same level of preparation as when I’m getting paid. I have things to do in my life, so if I’m speaking for free, I just kind of show up and wing it.

I’ve got enough stage experience that I can usually pull that off. It’s okay, and I get to the school and I haven’t done any research, and I walk in and the headmistress walks up to me and says, “Are you ready?” and I go, “Yeah totally.” I’m ready.

I said which kids I was speaking for, and she said all of them. I said, “Oh really, um.” What kind of school is this? Is it a high school because I could speak to all of them? You know, sixth, eighth, sixteenth, and eighteenth grades in high school.

I could do that, or is it a junior high? You know, thirteen to sixteen. I could do that, or is it like the last half of elementary school? You know, six to twelve, or you say, eight to twelve, or is it elementary school? I could do that.

“Six to five to eight or something I could handle,” I said, and she replied, “no, it’s a k-12.”I said k-12. That means for those who don’t understand k-12, It means that the youngest kids will be four years old and the oldest kids will be 19.

..They will be from 4 to 19 in one audience. I said really, how interesting. I said, “How long how?” How long do I have to speak for an hour and a half? They’re from 4:4 to 19. and I’m going to speak for an hour and a half? I said: “Okay, excellent, no problem,” and so immediately I started going through the system I was going through.

I have to if I’m going to create a wide range of emotions and feelings, which I need to figure out. What’s common to all these kids, like I’ve got it figured out, is the first thing that is common to all of them. All of them are common, all of them.

Now you have to tell the story slightly differently, but the fact is that four-year-olds do like stories. They like the same stories over and over and over again, and do 19-year-olds like stories? Sure they do.

In fact, telling layered stories is one of the most valuable skills you can develop in the world, and you all know this, even if you’ve never heard the term before: layered stories. This is what I’m talking about.

How many of you have ever watched a Disney movie with children and you’ve noticed that you suddenly realised as a child? You were watching a movie that was actually made for adults. Isn’t it true? You watch a Disney movie and there are weird little sexual innuendos and adult jokes that are all above the consciousness of children, so they’re telling two stories, and so this idea of being able to tell parallel stories or multi-layered stories is really valuable.

So I’m thinking, okay, I’ve got to tell a story and make sure it has four-year-old features and 19-year-old features in total. First thing, I decide, second thing: what else is common to all of these kids games?Do four-year-olds like games? Do 19-year-olds like games? Done deal. I’ve got it covered. Then I think about it.

I need one more thing. I require a thread.I needed some kind of thread that I could use, and I suddenly realised what it was, and I thought back to Mr. Kulczinski’s Harry Potter, because that was what was going on back then. If you were four years old, did you, like Harry Potter, damn right, you did if you were five or six years old.

Did you like Harry Potter? Absolutely if you were seven or eight, or nine, or 10 or 11 years old. Did you like Harry Potter when you were 12 years old? Absolutely if you were 13, 14, 15, 17. 18. 19. Did you like Harry Potter? You did, but secretly you read the books in a brown paper bag. You didn’t like them. But it was a bit, and by the way, if you were 20, 25, 30, 35, 40 years old, did you like Harry Potter? Damn right, you did. My wife and I lined up at a bookstore to buy the final Harry Potter book on release night at midnight, and we had to buy two copies because there was no way one was waiting for.

The other Harry Potter was pervasive, it was pervasive, and so then I went out and I delivered a talk for these kids, and I used stories. I played a game with them and I used Harry Potter references. I talked about guys. I’m going to show you some really cool stuff, and by the time I show you this stuff about your life,

All the other people will seem like muggles to you because you did that work for them, and at the end of my talk, the kids celebrated. I got a big clap from them. Everything was fantastic and normally, when I finish a talk, it’s the audience that wants to come over and say hello, take a picture, and do that fun stuff, but not this time.

This time it was the teachers, literally, and by the way, I just want to say that again, especially if there are any Americans here. Actually, I just want to be clear that you can’t have your head literally explode unless it actually explodes.

I just want to be clear about that. Something that bothers me every now and then is the teachers, literally. Which means they were actually right, literally cornered me. I’ve got my back against the wall and the teachers are surrounding me, and they’re going.

How did you do that? How did you do that? I can’t hold them for half an hour. One age group, I said, first of all, you need to relax. I said I only had to hold them once. I only had to hold them once, and I was new and I was novel, so you can’t blame yourself.

The first thing is, I only had to hold them once, and they were like, “Yeah, but still like.” I have to hold them for a whole hour for my class, and I just can’t do it. You held them for an hour and a half and all the age groups.

I said, “How did you do that?” and I broke it down for them. I said to you guys, it’s about storytelling. I told him about Mr. Kulczinski and no kidding. They immediately asked me if I could come back and speak at the school again for the teachers, because teachers are not being taught really effectively how to teach; they’re being taught how to babysit and how to run a curriculum.

Does this make sense, with such broad spectrum appeal? It all starts with the realisation that story is the ultimate language; it’s the ultimate operating system for the brain, and once you realise that, you make certain that your talks always include a percentage of story.

You know, you tell them some information and then you use a story to prove it, or you tell them a story and they get the information from inside the story. But the fact is that no emotion, no memory was done then.

The next thing you saw me do there is: what is the common thread among the audience? You always want to know. What’s the common thread of the audience as best you can figure out who your audience is and try to figure out? What’s common about them? And if you can’t find anything that’s common about them, that might be the common thing.

I will often come out here and do it right now. Shout out to some of the countries you guys are from. Let me hear it: Canada, United States, Mexico, UK, Brazil, Korea, Israel, Ukraine, Crimea, that’s that’s Russia! Now! Isn’t it that’s not funny? The point is, all of a sudden, I’ve found something where you’re all uncommon with each other.

Only I’ve made that common because you’re an incredibly international group and suddenly I can speak to you all about me. I’ve created something uncommon in common. Does this make sense? And so you want to look at what the common threads are in the company, in the audience, and then let’s get to delivery delivery.

It’s so straightforward, guys, and it’s not what most conference speakers are doing. How many of you guys were at the finals at the speaking academy? Okay, there were what, 14 or 15 speeches? Have you ever been to a conference where all 14 or 15 speakers appealed to you like that? What happened there? Do you know what many of you came up and said to me? Many of you walked up to me after that and said, “But why were they at a speaker course?” That’s what they came and said to me, “I’m like you, I should have seen him on that day.”

On Day One, some of them were very talented on Day One. Some of them were so shy and so nervous on the day, that if you handed them a microphone, it kind of looked like this, and that’s not what it looked like on the day.

Five did it, so one of the things that we showed them and that you saw was using a range of vocal techniques, not speaking in one tone. You’ve all been to that conference where somebody stands up and puts you to sleep for an hour, and they weren’t.

even a hypnotist, but they should have been. Ladies and gentlemen, and fellow toastmasters, I don’t mean, look, I love toastmasters. I truly believe that it is one of the things that each of you should do, which is to join a Toastmasters group and practice.

The challenge is that it’s a great place to practice, and what often happens is that people become formulaic speakers. If, if, if anybody ever comes up to me and says, “Did somebody do your course?” The only reason I want them to know that they did my course is because they were so much themselves.

You understand, and so when we talk about delivering, we’re talking about delivering with passion, about you delivering yourself to the audience, about you being who you are, about me being who I am.

I am not interested in the speakers that can come up and act really well. It can be fascinating, it can be wonderful. I saw a talk once. It was one of the best talks. I’ve never done I admire the speaker a great deal.

It was incredibly funny. It had hugely poignant moments in it, it taught really valuable stuff, and it was clinically perfect. It was one of the best talks I’ve ever done, but he’s just missing one thing: heart and soul.

It was perfect. He moved to the exact right place every time on the stage to say the right thing, and he did the right posture every single time for this thing that he did, and everything was clinical, and then when he wanted to go back and reference that story,

He went back to that same spot. This is all really powerful skills to have, but if the audience can tell that you’ve done this same talk a hundred thousand times, then it doesn’t feel genuine anymore and the heart connection is broken with the audience.

You should know your story so well that you can tell them with imperfection. You can tell them like you’re telling them at the dining room table. Yeah, I’ll be in the middle of a conversation. Sometimes I’ll be going.

You know, it’s like that time. You know, What is the archaeologist, Harrison Ford, Indiana Jones, doing? That’s right! What are the odds that I forgot Indiana Jones? What are the odds of that? They say that whoever you admired most when you were 11 years old is who you grew up to become, in Indiana Jones.

Go look at my website. I mean, I travel around the world, I’m interested in archaeology, and I’m in the bush with the animals all the time. There’s no way, I forgot his name, but I’ll do it right then.

Why? Because it breaks the story and makes it look like it’s fresh and coming out of my soul, it makes it and then the other thing is. Does it get the audience sitting on the edge of their chair going? We better pay attention because he sure isn’t right. It’s it.

It brings them in and the other thing that it does-and please hear me about this, because some of you have one of the greatest fears of speaking, and that is that you might one day be on stage and forget what you were going to say: who’s.

I’m afraid of that. It’s horrible that you’re standing up here and you’re going. Oh man, they’re never going to pay me now. It’s just that it’s horrible, but the good news is that the audience is paying attention. And so I will do my Indiana Jones trick every now and again to keep the audience alive and fresh, and then every now and again I will get distracted.

Something will happen and I’ll have how many of you have ever found yourself giving a presentation and your brain is talking to you back here. Yeah, every now and again, my brain will distract me and then I might forget where I was going and then I’ll go What was I going to do with that, and then the audience said, “You were going this way.”Isn’t it true? They will tell you that you never need to be afraid of it again. Don’t be afraid.

Just tell really compelling stories, and make sure they’re paying attention. Then you don’t have to worry about remembering ever again, because here’s the real funny part: in many of my trainings on speaking,

I will do that a few times, and then I’ll come to the part where I’m teaching that I do it. I’ll do it without showing them, and then I’ll go. How many times have I forgotten what I was going to say or where I was in the story, and they’ll say, “Oh, three or four times this morning,” and then I’ll say, “And then I’ll show them what I did,” and then I’ll say, “And how many of them were real and they have no idea.”

They have no idea, and I will tell you it does happen to me. I’ll tell you it’s ten percent compared to how often I do it, but it does actually happen to me and I’m never afraid of it. “Oh crap,” I think as I stand here.

Where was I going with that and I’ll look down at a section of the audience and they’re like, “oh, oh yeah?” Where was he going with that and then they’ll tell me and I’ll go? When I say thank you to them when they come up with the answer, how do they feel when I say thank you to them? Do they feel great? So you don’t have to worry about that.

You engage the audience when you tell stories. If you tell stories, you will have their engagement, but then you have to use the vocal range. You have to use your voice when it’s when a speaker stands up and does that, good evening.

Ladies and gentlemen, I’m so glad that you came here for my talk today. What I’m going to do is attempt to kill you through boredom. I’m going to use this one vocal tone the entire time, which some of you currently find pleasant, but within a short time you will stop hearing my words at all. Who has seen that speaker?

We all have, and now here’s the good news for you: how many of you think it would be really cool to become a speaker? How many of you would like to do that? Here’s the good news. How many of you have all seen that speaker? You’ve all seen them think about this.

If you’ve seen that speaker, that speaker is making money as a speaker. I’m not kidding you, it’s like the easiest place in the world to be the best. So if you just walk out and be yourself, they’re not willing to do it, and so you can walk into any conference and instantly be one of the top speakers simply by being yourself, using your voice and telling stories that it’s been done.

It’s absolutely incredible. I just received this incredible.Lucas is a young man who discovered me on YouTube and ended up signing up for and participating in our wildfit program.never met him before and he did our wildtip program, but then he got more interested in my stuff and it turned out.

I was doing my speaking academy programme in Calgary, and so he signed up for it. He’s like 23 or 24 years old. This is pretty proactive behaviour for a 23-year old and he signed up for it and he showed up and he was so quiet and so reserved and then, at one point, he got up to introduce himself and he told this whole story that none of us knew. My team didn’t know it.

None of us knew it. He says he found Eric on YouTube. I signed up for a wildfit. I’ve lost 35 to 40 pounds and I’ve given up alcohol and drugs. I’ve completely turned my life around because of WildFit, and so I knew I had to come out to this programme and learn about speaking and stuff.

So I got another video from him. I got it just yesterday. Actually, no, I got it this morning. I watched it. This morning he has, since doing the speaking academy, gone out and spoken in two speech contests, like in these big contests for speaking, and he finished in one third place and he finished in the other one in first place.

He had never done public speaking before coming into the program. He is so grateful for his ability to communicate, but here’s the kicker: those winning prizes were things that all that was for him was empirical evidence.

What really blew him away is that now, when he has to talk to the adults in his life, he’s able to communicate with them effectively. When he has to talk to the police, if somebody pulls him over for speeding or whatever, he’s able to talk to them effectively. He said it’s given him this ability to communicate and it’s fantastic.

It changes everything, do you know? I was driving along in Tanzania and had just finished. I used to run these leadership programmes where I would take people up Kilimanjaro to teach them leadership. Skills and state management skills and all this kind of stuff, and after the Kilimanjaro trip, we went to Zanzibar and a few of the clients came with us.

My mom was meeting us there because my mom does a lot of work in Africa and in Tanzania specifically, and my wife was there, so we’re in the car and I’m driving and I’m driving along and I’m not wearing a shirt because it’s Africa.

Okay, it’s very hot and I’m not wearing a shirt, and I come around the corner and there’s a policeman there with his car and he waves me down and says, “Excuse me, can I see your driver’s licence please,” so I show my driver’s licence and he In Tanzania, it’s against the law to drive a car.

Without your shirt, I’ve been to Tanzania several times: I’ve climbed Kilimanjaro seven times, and I’ve been to that country to not climb the mountain. I’ve been there. It is not illegal to drive without your shirt on, okay, but I know what’s going on. I go, “I don’t think it’s illegal to drive without your shirt on here,” and he goes, “Yes.”

It is. And I said, “Well, at this point in my head, I’m like, “No, it’s not a Muslim country.” Zanzibar is a Muslim area within a larger country that has a non-denominational approach to language and religion.

So no, I chose not to say that to him, and he said, “Well, you’re going to have to pay a fine,” and I said, “Fine, I’m okay with that, and I’m not going to pay a bribe.” That’s what he wants. He wants a bribe, and I won’t do that.

I’m not going to pay him a bribe, so he goes well. You’ll have to come with me, and it turns out that I’m right beside the police station, so we walk over to the police station. Now many of you will know-or some of you might not-that Tanzania used to be Tanganyika and it used to be under German control and think about when it was under German control, right like back in those days, you know, doberman, pinschers, and that kind of stuff-and so this building was clearly built back then, you could just see it had that gestapo look about it and I walk into this gestapo building and he takes me into a little room and it’s a gestapo room.

I walk into the room; it’s concrete, and I sit in the chair. There’s a desk, and there’s a guy behind the desk who is wearing a military style uniform, like he has ribbons and medals. I’m not kidding you, and this is all, by the way, designed to intimidate me.

I sit down, and, as I sit down in the chair, I realise that the lamp over here is aimed exactly at where my head is in the chair, still left over from when the gestapo was there. If I listen really carefully to the walls, I can hear that we have the face of getting the answers from you right now.

You know, and this is all by design to freak me out, but I just unfreaked out, so I’m just sitting there. I just made that up, so I’m sitting there having this, you know, conversation with him, and it goes well.

You know, you should be respectful and wear your shirt and blah blah. Well, yeah. I guess so, but I don’t really think it’s illegal. So I challenge you to write me a ticket and show me how it’s illegal and he’s like

Well, we might maybe be able to avoid the whole ticket thing and I’ll go. I think we should avoid the whole ticket thing and hope he goes well. Maybe you could make it worth my while to avoid the ticket thing, and I said, “Uh, no, write me a ticket,” and so we have this little banter in conversation and outside in the car.

My mom is in the car with a couple of my clients and my wife and one of the clients goes and they’re freaking out, because you know what, if you haven’t travelled a lot and and the guy you’re travelling with just gets hauled away by the police in a military uniform, you know you’ve watched CNN, you know what’s coming up, you know something bad, and so they turn to my wife and my mom and they go, “Mrs. Edmuts,” which she hates because, like she changed her name back after the divorce again, “Eric” and she said she’s in the passenger seat of the car and she goes nope.”

I’m worried about the cops, and true to form, about four minutes later, I walk out with both cops with me. The one cop comes up and opens the door. For me, He opens the door for me, I get in, he closes the door, and then he hands me a hand-drawn map that he’s made to get me to the spice market.

No fine, no bribe because I was comfortable communicating. Being comfortable communicating is your right. It is your right, and so one of the ways that you become comfortable with it is by recognising that you’re already comfortable with it.

You are, you just forget every now and again. Here’s one of the ways you remind yourself: it’s called alcohol, isn’t it? I mean, I’ll tell you, I’m not a super big fan of alcohol myself. I haven’t had alcohol since I was 21 years old.

I have no judgement about people having alcohol. In fact, some of my friends are much better people after one drink. You know, they’re just more fun, but the fact is that what happens when we drink alcohol.

Our inhibitions are reduced somewhat, and-and I remember seeing this commercial. It was actually a radio commercial. So I didn’t see it. When I heard it, it was a radio commercial in Canada, and what they did was they had the sounds of a party full of eight-year-olds, and then they had a ten-year-old party, and you could hear the eight-year-olds, ten-year-olds,

You know, partying and doing their thing and then a sound with adults having a party as well, and you can hear the difference-it’s a big difference. Then they said now. Here are the eight-year-olds after the cake and the sugar and the ice cream. Where the eight-year-olds are different completely. It went like nuclear blah, blah, and you’re yelling, and then you can hear it.

It was just incredible, they said, and now here’s the party with the adults after four bottles of wine have been consumed by them, and what you could not tell the difference between was the children and the adults, the children on the sugar and the adults on the alcohol, you couldn’t tell the difference between the sounds.

The pitch was slightly different, but everything else was the same. Now, what’s happening is that when we drink alcohol, it’s like, it gives us permission to be a little louder than we normally are, or a little quieter than we normally are, or a little bit more vocal and use bigger hands.

Is it true? So what I’m saying to you is that you are already a good communicator, but sometimes we need a rule or a mechanism or a chemical to help us get that out, and so what I want to suggest to you is that it doesn’t have to be that way and and you can watch this like at our workshops-you’ll see me-do this. I’ll have somebody up on stage and they’ll be delivering like an adult.

I would like to tell you a story about the time that I went to Disneyland and they. I just stop talking like that, and I just stop for a minute. Tell the story like the audience is full of 12-year-olds. What do they do on the stage before they go? I’d like to tell you a story about the time I went there.

They know what to do. They know what to do. They start using their full vocal range, and so I want to share with you what that looks like there. There are some different communication frequencies in our population, so there are some people that are largely more visual in the way they communicate. They’re largely more visual.

So what does this mean? It means that they think in pictures, and a picture is worth a thousand words. So they stop. They talk quite quickly because they have to get all the pictures out, and since they are so visual, people tend to talk really quickly and loudly, and they speak like this.

There are some speakers that are quite well known for being very visual. Anybody have any names? You know, if you want to create massive action in your life, you have to make a decision, and then once you’ve made the decision, you have to take action, and once you’ve taken action, you’ve got to check the results. If you’re not getting the results, you want to change your approach.

There are other speakers that are more auditory. They have a more steady tone. They talk with a predictable cadence. They speak in a way that is quite pleasant to listen to for a short period of time, but is also somewhat hypnotic.

They use words like sounds. Listen to me. I’d like to share with you that they have this kind of different energy about them. Then you’ve got another group of people that are a lot more kinesthetic in their delivery or feel centered, and they talk really quietly and use long pauses.

They give you time to process the things they’ve said. They use words like “feeling,” “warmth,” and “connection.” Those are the visual people. It’s driving them crazy. So the fact is that all of those ranges-and if you really look back at everything that I’ve done so far today, I’ve used all of them.

I’ve used all of them and yet most speakers will come out and they will deliver their talk right here. Good evening, ladies and gentlemen and fellow toastmasters. I’m going to continue to speak like this for another hour and a half, and as I continue to speak like this, I’d like you to know that the cabin is deep pressure depressurized. In the event that the cabin depressurizes, oxygen masks will drop from the ceiling.

Ah, so these people are louder and faster. These people have more cadence, more predictability, better pronunciation. These people have soft long pauses. These people use words like “vision,” “destiny, “see it done.” These people are crazy; they say things like “can’t.”

You understand what I mean: you’re not a cartoon, and these people here use words like “listen” and “click.”For me, I like the sound of that, that resonates, and then when these people talk about it’s in their gut, I feel really warm.

Is it true, but here’s the good news: your audience includes all of those people, not just 30% of them.30. 30. It’s not like that. That’s the way it’s taught very often. If you’ve studied neurolinguistic programming or psychology, they’ll often teach that there are some people that are like this, and there are some people.

No, don’t do that. It’s a thermostat, it’s a thermostatic range. So there’s some people that are here and here and here and here and here and all the way up-your whole audience is made up of these people, and I learned this because I’ll tell you it’s not just useful on stage, it’s useful in your entire life.

The first time I learned it, I was 22 years old and I was in another category just slightly above this one called global thermonuclear visual. It made Tony Robbins look very quiet. I was so fast and so excited about everything, and I was always basically

I was like this: I was terrified to be on stage, but with my friends I was nuclear visual, and then I went off and I learned this stuff, and I was in sales and I was on telesales, and I would pick up the phone and I’d call people and go hi.

This is Eric. I’m going to sell you some stuff today and-and I did very well-I had the highest call levels in our company. I had the highest closing average in our company. Then one day, I learned this stuff and I sat down at my desk and I was ready to make more calls than I’ve ever made before. The average sales person in our company was making 35 calls a day.

I was making 50 a day, which was making the most money for me, but I had made a commitment to get to 75 a day. Now I was not going to have a moment of peace. I was going to make calls every second and I went down and I went to make my first call.

I picked up the phone and there’s Marilyn and I’m going, “Oh damn it.” I don’t want her to be the first call. Today a woman never takes my call, never returns my call, but we didn’t come here for this to be easy. Did any of you come into this life for it to be easy? Because I just want to tell you that sometimes you want it to be easier, but if video games were any easier, people would stop playing them. If books were any easier, you wouldn’t read them. And I just want to tell you that the next time your life’s a little difficult,

You should rejoice in that because you came here for that. Didn’t you? I’ll prove it to you. How many have ever had that breakup? You know the one! The really soul-destroying breakup who’s had the soul-destroying, crying-awful breakup.

What kind of music did you listen to? Okay, you came here because it’s delicious, even the pain is delicious. That’s why we listen to that. So glad you made it. I will just sit here and cry myself to sleep.

We like it. Okay, What was I getting at, Maryland, Maryland?I actually forgot about that time. And so I pick up the phone and I call Maryland. I’m going to break through. I’m going to get through my I think, I’m throwing because millennials back then had to press buttons and before that, we actually had to dial You, you might not know this when we talk about dialing a phone number. It’s because we used to have to dial anyway, so I press the buttons and then Marilyn does not answer the phone because she never does, but her voicemail comes on hi.

This is Marilyn and, uh, I’m not here to take your call, but if you feel like it, you can leave a message. You know, after the beep, I’m going to beep, hey Marilyn. This is it. That’s not what I learned, and I deleted the message.

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Public Speaking: 12 Rules for The Perfect Speech

Public speaking is a skill useful in school, at work, or if we want to convince a group of people. Investor Warren Buffett called it the most important skill. We can learn to advance in a career. Here is a short guide to mastering the most powerful weapon.

If we want to bring change to the world, Take one issue. You really care about it. When you study it, you are intrinsically motivated to learn it deeper and put in the extra effort. Later, it gives you passion.

You need to inspire your audience. When we speak in public, passion is probably our most powerful force. It shines through our eyes and straight into the hearts of the audience. One simple message: every issue has many angles from which we can highlight them.

But the audience has a limited attention span and many other issues in life. So if we say too much, they will lose interest. To make a message Stick Chris Anderson recommends boiling it down to one idea that is worth spreading.

A speech is good. If it plants one creative seed in the heads of the audience, that seed can then grow into a sprout that can change lives and be shared with others. structure. Over 2000 years ago, The Greek philosopher, Aristotle, established three simple rules for good speech.

Establish credibility. Ethos Give good arguments, logos, and convey emotions. Pathos, But you can also tell a personal story or present a problem and then offer a solution. GET HELP. A good method is to use note cards.

You can use one card per argument and keep the deck in your hands, alternating them. As you speak, Politicians often read their speeches from a teleprompter. Professionals often sell their ideas with the help of slides. When you have a product to show, demonstrate it.

If you try to memorize your speech and you have one hour, spend 20 minutes studying and 40 minutes practicing to recite it. That’s usually the best ratio. They speak their language. It doesn’t matter what we say; it matters what they hear.

According to Nerdwriter, Donald Trump speaks in a way that any fourth-grader can understand. Him. Guy Kawasaki recommends using what he calls “salient points.” People don’t want to know how large a battery is.

They want to know how long they can use it. When preparing, ask yourself, how does my issue matter to this particular audience? PRACTISE Before you present, practice your delivery. It’s important that we stand with arms raised, palms open, facing out.

We should speak loud and clear and make eye contact with our audience. One way to practice Try to speak in front of friends who don’t know the topic. Then you will see if they get your point. Alternatively, you can also record and watch yourself on video.

Check your stage. How big is the room? How many people will listen? Will you need a microphone? Professionals will want to walk onto the stage diagonally from the left-back. Apparently, it’s the most dynamic way to make an entrance.

Also, always have a glass of water. It’s next to you, so you can take a sip whenever you’re losing it. Don’t be afraid. Everybody can experience speech anxiety, also known as glossophobia. It’s natural and sometimes actually helps us achieve excellence.

Mahatma Gandhi called it “the awful strain of public speaking”. For years, It prevented him from speaking up, even at friendly dinner parties. But in 1942, Gandhi convinced 60,000 people with his “Quit India Speech” to join a peaceful revolt against British colonialism.

..He spoke up. The people followed his words, and the British left, open for sympathy. When you enter the limelight, wait until you have everyone’s full attention. Then play to win. Sympathy is also called capitation benevolent.

..One way to do that is to excuse yourself. You can say, “you are a smart audience, so I don’t really know what I can still tell you.” Obama opened his 2008 speech in Berlin with the words “I have to admit that I have developed a special place in my heart for the German people.” And they loved it.

Build Curiosity Once they like you, grab their attention by building curiosity. Provide a fact. Statistics or a study Or start in the middle of a story with “On my fifth birthday, my father started crying.”

It was the day he lost his job.”Dananjaya Hettiarachchi, a champion of public speaking, asked,” raise your hand. If you have an emotional mother, “and everyone did,” But you can also do something funny or open with a crazy stunt.

Deliveries Your message Now make your arguments, share those personal stories, and deliver metaphors that create images in the minds of your audience. If you forget what you wanted to say, don’t worry.

, andNobody understands what you were trying to say. In 1963, Martin Luther King gave a speech in Washington. In the middle of it, he stopped reading from the script and started to improvise. He delivered one of the greatest speeches of the twentieth century, “I have a dream.” CLOSE After you are done, summarise your arguments or repeat the core message.

But you can also leave them with a quote: “Share your dream of a new future or close.” Your speech, like our videos, should end with a specific call to action. Here it comes. Write a speech about an important issue such as education.

Open with sympathy, build curiosity, and then bring in your convincing argument. In the end, it closed cleverly. Limit your speech to 200 words and post it in the comments below. If you want to learn to speak in public, you should also practice your speech.

For example, the next 5 days. 15 minutes each. Ideally, record yourself on your phone so you can track your progress and learn from your mistakes. Upload. The last try of each day on Youtube and share the link in the comments.

Then we can see how you progressed and applaud you for trying, failing, and doing it.

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How To Master The Art of Public Speaking

This is kept hanging and welcome to master the art of public speaking the webinar. This is five minutes early and as we’re getting in, I just want to say: welcome, happy birthday, happy Thursday, I’m also on my phone checking the the app out of GoToWebinar to see how it actually looks like from the app so you’re watching from the app.

Let me know how it goes, but welcome. I’M very I’m very excited that you are here today to improve and work on your public speaking skills, and one thing I do have to say: if you are reaching watching a replay of this, we will get started in five minutes.

If you are live with us right now, I just want to welcome the people. That’S on with us: hey Cynthia Jenny, Nerissa, no VC, my apologies! No VC! You have Sarah Suzanne welcome everyone. I know most of you are tuning in on the computer, and one thing I have to say is that I made a little boo-boo when I was registering this event, so we we could have chosen on the go-to webinar page, something called a webcast or webinar, and They said a webcast people don’t have to download as many things so I chose webcast, but one of the downsides to webcast, as I found out that I was doing my live webinars yesterday, or that people cannot actually chat in the chat that you can only see And so, as a speaker, how do you adapt to these different situations? You have to be able to know that you still have to go on, and so one thing that I would love to say is that later on, we will have a practice session in the middle of this webinar, and so I always like to get audience interaction.

So I am going to put down my phone number, eight five, seven, seven, five, three, eight two one one and I would love for you to text me later on, but also, if you have some time right now, it’s to put my phone number in your phone And save my name to it because – and this actually turns out better because later on, I will love for you to go: hey Cerie text, kit, okay and they’ll, say what do you want to say during this part or have your own Android? During this part, I actually want you to speak in because we will have a practice part, and so he can actually speak in and the text will go in or you can also text me too, but just to try something right now.

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You might, of course I want you to use your phone. You might have all these other things there, but Tanuja is try to get all your distractions away as much as possible, because if you are investing your time to improving your public speaking skills that I’m gonna say how can you be here? A hundred percent? Okay.

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Thank you for texting. Okay, it is 11:00 a.m. let’s get started promptly. So again the chat is not working. Please text comment and interact with me on my phone at eight five, seven, seven, five, three, eight two one one and one of the best lessons that you know just from learning of this chat situation.

I was listening to a podcast and on the podcast they were interviewing Penn & Teller. You know that the magician, and so they asked them. Well, what do you do if your magic tricks fail on stage like what do they do and they said they had to keep their composure and literally just say: hey, you know all magic tricks doesn’t work.

Let’S move on to the next one right, the best speaker if they know how to take their failures or the things that might mess up in a moment but fit and treat it like nothing happened, but the show has to go on so, let’s get started everyone.

I’M excited that you are here. Let me know how you’re feeling by texting me at eight five, seven, seven, five, three, eight two one one so welcome everyone to master the art of public speaking. You can become a confident, clear and compelling speaker to maximize your career growth and the Robie down to how you communicate and how you speak in public.

So you are in the right place. If you are someone looking to advance your career, but maybe you’re feeling held back because of your public speaking skills, maybe you get stuck in your head. Maybe you get a little bit nervous or maybe it’s something about speaking up.

Maybe it’s just finding your voice. Maybe you don’t feel you can be your authentic self in these situations. Now it doesn’t have to be a public speaking to a hundred people situation. It could be maybe you’re in a meeting right and you’re in the right place.

If, for example, you have an upcoming presentation and you do not feel a hundred percent prepared – and maybe you do need some help getting ready for it, and maybe you have received some feedback from others – maybe your boss, your colleagues, your friends or even even your family Member and they said hey, we think you should.

You know work on your public speaking or maybe you just feel out of place and out of practice, and you just want to beef up your skills just to blow it up blow it up right. So I just want to say thank you for taking the time here today and right now.

If you are really invested in improving your public speaking, please get rid of the distractions that you have try to tune in as much as possible, because I want to give you a lot of good nuggets and good information today that you can take away and use.

So here’s what you’ll learn today number one: how to develop your mindset to speak with confidence and authority number two, the number one secret that great speakers and presenters have in common and later on, during the middle of our webinar.

This is really really fat this. So I want to give you some actionable tips to be more memorable, engaging in persuasive and yes, you can also write in your notebook, but what I would love later on is for you to really interact with me and really practice this, because look if you want To get better at public speaking, it’s kind of like riding a bicycle: you have to get on the bike and do it number four, let’s help you build a speaker gameplan, and I will also let you know how we can also continue to work together.

If you would like to to continue your growth in public speaking and at the the last 15-20 minutes, I want to open this webinar up for Q & A so. If you have any questions along the way, please text me again: eight five, seven, seven: five 381.

One because when we get to the Q & A, I would just love to jump into the questions. So just a little bit about myself, I never used to teach public speaking, of course, that I did not grow up thinking.

Oh, I want to teach public speaking because if we have not met before you probably don’t know that I’m an introvert this this one t-shirt, I’m planning to get it says introverted but willing to discuss cats.

I always used to be shy back in college. I in high school, you know just growing up if I was at sitting in the classroom. Just like this. Just like this photo and of the teacher were to say, hey who wants to speak up, I would hesitate every single time to just try to raise my hand or just speak up, because I thought, oh maybe I had an accent.

Maybe I didn’t know what to say so really I hesitated to speak up almost every single time and I was beating myself up and also back then I did not tell stories for me. I thought stories were for the movies for Netflix.

You know for public speakers. I thought my life was mundane, I thought well, why tell stories. I just have a normal life and also when I come to persuasion and influence. I did not even think that was possible.

I didn’t occur to me in my mind that people can actually learn these things, such as persuasion, and so there was one day I was walking across campus and there was a flyer that for a public speaking competition and on Miss flyer, it says: okay, three thousand Dollars for the winner, and of course I did it for the money, so I entered the competition, but I never practiced as hard as I did for this.

I spent almost a week from like 5 p.m. or 10 p.m. to going up to 2 a.m. almost every single day preparing for that competition and and and and during the practice. For example, I would say I would go to the the chapel where it was held and I would do my body language over and over again.

So, for example, I’m turning on the video I would say to myself and I will try to look out to the audience and even the introduction I would say hey my name is Kip hang and I would do that motion over and over again, and I would Do this for the whole speech, I was a good morning.

Everyone. My name is Kip pang, it’s kind of like choreography good morning. Everyone, my name is Kip ping. I would. I was also playing with the voice to. I was just not memorizing it, but I I the way I practice was good morning.

My name is Kip Aang. Now, if I did not like this, the way that sentence sounded, I would say it in a different way. Maybe I said it faster good morning. My name is Kip pang, maybe I slowed it a little bit down, so it just wasn’t memorizing it.

But when I got on stage during the day of something magical happened to me, I time kind of slowed down and I felt like I was in the zone. I looked at people in the eyes and I saw them looking back at me.

I saw the heads nodding, they were smiling and they seemed very enthusiastic about what I was saying and in that moment I felt it. I’M not sure if you ever felt like you were in the zone, but I felt I was in the public speaking zone and that experience actually transferred over to all my other areas of life.

Speaking up in class, helping me to speak to people even starting. My business I felt like because I was able to find my voice public speaking, changed my life, but what you have to what I realized was that public speaking actually started my life.

It was it it was like a second life and thanks to public speaking and that’s why I’m doing the things that I’m doing now, I love to help people with improving your public speaking skills. I was lucky enough to even give a TEDx talk on listening in.

In the middle picture, you can see that right now I love and I enjoy public speaking so much not just because it’s good to be in the spotlight, but it’s it’s. So it gives me a lot of joy to be able to help and transform others.

No man matter of this is and and a business setting or an informal setting, but the ability to to be with others and be here in a moment and help others grow to mean. That is that gives me fulfillment and what I realized after helping a lot of different people in different organizations.

It’S that we all have the same challenges when it comes to public speaking and so maybe you’re here today, because when you register for the webinar there was a question at the end and says: what’s your biggest public speaking challenge, some people might say it’s nervousness or Maybe it’s a lack of focus.

Some people said to it my contact or it’s the delivery. It’S it’s a ability to persuade others to take action right. So no matter who we are ranked does not matter money does not matter. There are some people like CEOs they’re in a high position, but there’s still super nervous when they have to speak each time or maybe you’re looking to rise up in your career and you’re comfortable, maybe maybe right now.

Your next step is to work on your persuasion skills, so there are actually five levels to master when it comes to public speaking, the first level. I call these people with the stuck in your head speakers right now.

What they need is that self confidence. Yes, you might be confident in other areas of life, but when it comes to public speaking, what happens to you? Sometimes you get stuck in your head now it doesn’t have to be public speaking standing up, maybe you’re in the boardroom, and there are other impressive people or maybe at some meeting and there’s some impressive people, and then you start thinking or what.

If I mess up. Oh, what if I do this right so when I was younger, I was in the middle school. I was trying to tap this this this this beat to this music. You know doing stuff like this and this kid came over and the kid said to me.

I was not exactly this, but he was like well. Why are you making that noise? Well? What is that – and I remember I’m like oh I’m, trying I’m trying to tap out this this this beat to the music. That’S played and he’s like.

No man, not that’s not it is this tapping random stuff out, and so he did. He did his version right, which was to the music, and then he did my version and here’s the thing. My version, I had a beat inside my head that I was tapping.

I was actually not listening to what was going on in the environment. I was actually kind of stuck in my head and I thought this was what was real to me, but to everyone else. It was not real, and this is what happens to the stuck in your head speakers.

All these things happen, but is not happening in reality, right that the art of overthinking is the art of creating problems that don’t exist. Okay, the next level is, the attention grab. Grab a speaker: they these people start developing their presence.

If you see these people, they will have good body language, their voice is very powerful or they start working on the voice. For example, I have a friend who is a voice actress and last time I was in a meeting with her this.

This one lady was speaking, but then my friend who’s a voice, actress that started speaking, but she started speaking everyone’s had to start a turning. It is because that the power of her voice can pound them.

So if you have great presence, if you have great delivery, if you have that good body, language and voice that will grab attention right from the beginning in the next level, the valuable speaker – and this is what I want to talk about being clear and memorable.

Most of the time we are so strapped fatah for time we go to meetings or presentations and we do things last-minute. When we get there, we actually do not know what our takeaways are. Do you know what I mean it’s like we’re, trying to figure it out along the way and then and then the other people are trying to figure it out along the way too, and so sometimes during presentations.

We don’t know what really? What are we trying to get across most of the time people don’t know, and if our ideas are not clear for us, how would it be clear to other people now, when I say being clear to is actually just not the specific word choice that you use Really can you in the last ten minutes that I spoke, can you repeat back a certain sentence that I said verbatim: it’s good, it’s very hard, but I want to show you that, sorry that the idea is out there.

So here’s the thing about being memorable nowadays. It’S really important to be memorable, because if you took two weeks or two hours to prepare for a presentation and you go into that meeting what if they don’t remember anything you just took two weeks or two days or two months to prepare for this, and nothing Is sticky enough that the audience is saying Wow? I will remember this, and this happens more often than you think.

Maybe you’ve been into a bunch of presentations and you’ve seen a 60 minute presentation. But then, when you walk out the door or read or even right after the presentation, you go on your phone and you forgot all about it.

You’Re like okay. What’S that takeaway right, maybe sometimes they give you too much information and you don’t even know what is sticky in your head. So when you are clear – and you are memorable, people will say wow that content is valuable.

Thank you so much the next level and I hope you go. I hope you are liking this. So far, the next level you become the heartfelt speaker. You start resonating with the audience. It’S just it’s just not education anymore, but again it’s not just opening people’s minds.

You know something sometimes people say wow. That blew my mind. Well, if you are a heartfelt speaker, people will say wow that blew my heart away. Wow right, they don’t even have words to express it because it touches them.

People will be thinking, wow, you’re speaking directly to me to my heart. Thank you so much. It’S like watching a good movie you’re like wow, emotionally you’re laughing one second you’re, crying the Knicks and and these heartfelt speakers they really get to you deep inside again.

It’S just not education anymore, now, they’re reaching a different level, so after you’re able to speak to people’s hearts to resonate with them to relate with them. The next level you influence. This is what I call the level that transform of speaker, because it could be hot felt.

It could be clear, but if you are transformative speaker, people will start taking action based off of your perspectives. Okay, now I’m not saying influencing them to do bad stuff, but it’s influenced them influencing them to help them progress in their life or if this is a business situation, people are adapting your perspective and it’s growing the business.

Okay, it’s growing it’s helping as they like. Your solution, or they like their ideas for that problem on this opportunity, and so these are the five levels to master when it comes to public speaking, that all individuals will come across no matter if you, if they make a lot of money, no matter what the Ranks are, it varies, and these the next thing I want to talk about on the biggest mistakes that most people do in each of these levels number one when it comes to self-confidence, it’s not listening to now.

What did I mean by that again when, when, when that Rene is a certain situation, we get in our heads when we get into our heads we’re not in the moment I have a my yoga teacher said when you’re stuck in your head, you’re dead.

Also, my meditation teacher said we have two kinds of thoughts, thoughts in the past and thoughts in the future. When we’re here, we have no thoughts. Really. The best speaker is the best presenters they hear creating the moment with you.

So when we get in our heads what happens we’re not really paying attention to what’s going on in our reality? Just like that example, I gave you earlier of me tapping out the DES beat to the music. I was so in my head.

Nothing was going on that that music was not playing. I mean that that music was playing, but I wasn’t listening to it right. I wasn’t listening to that now. I was just listening to my head. The second mistake: when it comes to presence people, don’t know how to work the room most often is because people are stuck to technology.

Well, what do I mean by their being stuck to technology? Let’S say they have a pot. Let’S say they have a pump for my slide, maybe they so they have to say. Oh, I have to keep on looking at this PowerPoint slide or maybe they’re just stuck to the podium itself.

I’M not saying you have to move around and walk around and rock the room, but the best presenter is a feels like hmm, even if they have a PowerPoint, they have that presence in the room because they know how to keep eye contact.

They know how to do the body language, it feels natural, so they work in the room; rather they can walk around or even if you’re, on a webinar. There are some people who shine really really well, because if this is on video, they know how to just talk to you.

Maybe they’re looking at you go through the camera and you can feel their presence with you in a way and that’s what I mean by work in the room that people, sometimes they don’t have that good delivery that, like all men, what do I do? I have all these technology issues.

Oh man, I have all these notes. You know sometimes they’re stuck in the notes, they’re stuck in the technology and so and the other thing too. It’S working the room is adapting to the room. If things messes up mess up, how can you just adapt to the moment so the next mistake, no planning or having a structure to your content, and this will really help help you be more clear and memorable again.

The planning is taking the time to know what your ideas are, and but here’s the thing too, when people make presentations and feels like people are doing it every single time with a different way. Now it doesn’t have to be that way.

It’S kind of like baking. You know once you bake it, you have a recipe for it, but people feel like. Oh I’m gonna make muffins I’m gonna start doing this muffin recipe, I’m gonna. Do it differently every single time.

Sometimes people treat presentations like that. I said. Oh this. Next presentation: it’s like making a new muffin. What do I have? What do I need, and so what I help my clients with in my programs, are all the basically step-by-step structures or open structure that you can use to make your presentation great, every single time but being clear memorable is all about planning and having good structure when It comes to real estate, you know what they say: real estate is about location, location, location, public speaking is all about planning planning, planning, okay planning.

What you’re, gonna say, planning how you’re going to say it, because if you do that, when you’re getting really most people are nervous because they don’t take the time to plan. Therefore, when they get into a situation.

They’Re, like oh, I just spent ten minutes on this. Oh, I don’t know my content. I really have to really just you know, work it out the next biggest mistake when people try to resonate with others, it does come back to knowing how to use the art of storytelling, but when people sometimes tell stories, they have no point.

I know many of you have sat in meetings or presentations and maybe you’re thinking, that’s a good story ten minutes ago. But what do you actually want to tell us with that story? Maybe they go off into a tangent? Maybe – and you know, when you talk too much, you know when you talk too much, and sometimes you even want to stop yourself, but then you don’t stop yourself in the moment, so people when they try to resonate with others.

Sometimes they share too much or people. Don’T understand why the sharing in the first place and lastly, when it comes to influence many individuals, rather focus on giving a lot of content and education rather than making them decide to take action.

Here’S what I mean have you ever tried to email, someone and say: hey. Can I pick your brain or maybe someone asks you on coffee, they say hey. Can I get your advice, or can I pick your brain on this and maybe you’re at that coffee chat and for that thirty minutes or for that one hour or two hours or even longer, sometimes you give them your best content.

You say: hey here’s! My experience. Here’S the advice, here’s the content, do this, do that and in the meeting they’re shaking their heads and then okay, one year later, you see the same person again and you asked him hey.

Did you take action on this? This is listen this. What’S my feedback valuable and they said? Oh hey, you know thank you for your time, but I decided to go on another route and you’re like hey. You know that the two hours thirty minutes, whatever time I took you to you know you gave them your content.

Your advice, but they didn’t use any of it and I’m sure this happens on a more daily basis and the thing is sometimes they has a thing. They did not decide to take action based off of your education, so if you really want to help influence people, it’s helping them decide to make a decision sometimes well in our life right now we have Google, we have YouTube.

We have all the information that we want, but it’s the inability to take action on the right steps. That’S when we get paralyzed and not grow. It’S kind of, like you know, having a wish list on on Amazon.

People will put a bunch of things on there, but they will probably never buy them because they make the decision that they need it right now in their life, so people who can persuade they help others and say hey.

This is so important in your life. Right now you need to take action on it and that’s kind of maybe why you’re here today, maybe because public speaking is important to you and you decided to take action on it right.

You need to be able to say hey. I have yeah, of course, we’re so busy, but as making, for example, public speaking you’re one of your priorities in in your life right now, and so as I’m saying this, if any of you have any questions along the way, please again feel free to text me.

Eight five, seven, seven, five, three eight two one, one, four for Q & A a little bit later on and again the chat is not working so also you can also text me. Where do you think you are I’m going back to the structure? Really you text me: where do you think you are at this this these levels? Right now, maybe you’re, maybe you’re the stuck in your head speaker? Maybe you have great presents in delivery, maybe you’re working on taking the time to plan, or maybe you feel like.

Oh yeah, I’m imaginating. Of course we can all work on every single one of these, usually in these steps. Usually these are the steps that people take to to build off one another. We will go back and forth as an individual self confidence being able to.

You know influence, but ultimately, there’s being to that level, where you can become a transformative speaker where you can influence others. Let’S talk about your mindset for success when it comes to your mindset for success, it’s like that picture that you see the person that is speaking on left these situations, no matter if you have to speak on camera or you you’re the networking event, and then people Go around the room, then you have to introduce yourself or maybe it is that presentation where you have to do at work or another presentation that you have to do, and this is when the mindset comes in you’re like oh, hey, there’s a situation, that’s happening and We might get stuck in our heads.

One thing I want you to realize is that, for example, Olympians: they need to use their nervous energy all that energy to help them run ten times faster, to lift ten times more. The differences between great speakers and an average speakers is that great speakers or athletes or whoever they are, they know, and they need that energy to make them do that much better okay.

So when it comes to, when it comes to mindset for success, let’s say right now: you’re freaking up and people say you have to do this thing and you’re not ready. The first thing you really have to focus on is your breath.

What do I mean by your breath? There’S a great artist that once said, how do you know who’s the most confident person in the room, the person who knows how to control his or her breath? Because you know what happens, listen you’re, sitting around in the room and instead of a lion being in the room that that lion is public speaking, your body will start doing things like this, because you have this energy and maybe you don’t know how to release it.

It’S kind of like the guy was in yoga class, everyone is doing, they know the downward dog and the pump, and the instructor said please and everyone in the room you can hit them inhale exhale, because during a moment of tension, your your heart has your heart Is pumping adrenaline, you know, there’s adrenaline pumping boom boom boom boom boom, and so the unnatural way to really solve the nervousness is actually to take a pill and what this display do.

It stops adrenaline from pumping into your heart. So if you take this pill, I have a lion. Came in you’re gonna say: oh hey, kitty, nice kitty, nothing happens same thing of public speaking, but don’t do it there’s a lot of side effects.

Okay, the natural way to do this is to breathe. So whenever you feel like, oh you know, your heart is pumping. What I do is I’m manually, I put my hand on my heart and I tried to slow it down, and I still do this on.

Like the like two days ago, I was doing this story story slam and I get nervous myself too and so right before, even though I’m in the audience, sometimes you know a view and a work environment you’re not going to say pledge allegiance to America.

You know you’re, not gon, na put your hands on your on your heart, but how can you get focused back on your breath because what happens when you, when you believe you get back into the moment you get back into the now and it’s very powerful? And I know I know you probably know this too, but again it’s that constant reminder when you have that thought.

What, if I mess up, that trigger should be hmm instead of thinking. What, if I mess up, I’m just gonna focus on the breath. Right now, the second thing, if you want to set yourself up for for success, is to use your body language.

What do I mean by body language? I have a client and my client, for example, and she said whenever I sit in a room full of all men. Do you know what she does she hikes her chair up, so it’s the highest in the room or at eye level of everyone.

I was there because she said she said kid. How would how would I feel? How would I feel when I’m lower than everyone else, but it’s kind of like having a power outfit. You know when you have that power outfit on.

You feel good, and so that’s the same thing with your body language. So right now, if you’re sitting down or you’re driving when you’re standing up, maybe you just make your body a little bit taller right and in these moments when were anxious or nervous, or maybe we’re just freaking ourselves out? How can we make our body bigger kind of like well like when animals when they get frightened or when they fight they? You notice they make the body bigger to show confidence right, even though they might be freaking out inside in the head.

They’Re like oh man. This we have this bigger animal is gonna, come attack us well, they make themselves bigger and say: hey, I’m making myself, because I can seem more confident. So I can so. You can seem like I’m confident as well same exact thing with your body language.

So this will also knock you back into hmm knock you back into this moment, because if you have to fix the body language, you have to move something in your body and that will get you out of your head.

The last thing get a buddy. What what do I mean by body? It’S an external force? Okay, when I was at my so I do CrossFit. So every single time when I do CrossFit, there are a few moments. When I’m saying to myself, I only got two more reps and me nah man.

This is so heavy, but once in a while the coach will walk by it is and say kid do. Five more. You got it. Kit go, go five more! You got this. You got this, you know, keep on going, you got it and do you know what I do now? I only not do five more.

I might do like ten more so sometimes we need someone to knock us out of our mindset, because what we believe in might not be actually true right. Sometimes we need a friend. You need a support person.

Maybe it’s a colleague to say: hey, you got this, keep on going, keep on breathing, keep on pushing you. Maybe they need a shake. You shake you around. Sometimes we need to external force to help us get out of a hot mindset.

So the next time. These three things focusing on your breath, your body, language, head. Oh hey! Something too about the buddy, I’m not you! Don’T you don’t have to have an actual person. Maybe you can listen to a motivational youtube, video or maybe it could be a podcast to to get your mindset for success.

It could even be music. You know like like athletes before they go to the championship game. There might be on the bus listening to motivational music to pump themselves up for success right and so the next time you experience.

Maybe a shift in your mindset and you’re not feeling the best try. One of these things might your breath body language grabbing a buddy. So, let’s move on the number one secret that all great speakers have in common.

What do you think that is take a moment guess, but before we get into this, and I just want to read a few things that have been coming in hey Lila Lila said, I feel like I’m a little bit everywhere on the list of five levels.

Not quite yet transformative it’s when off the cuff. Yes, when Lila gets stuck so well, really, it’s good to know where you get stuck wheeler, because these are the things where you can just keep on working at it.

Another person said it might be due to trauma. I love public speaking, and this is something that goes a little bit deeper and thank you for for for for sharing this right, and so there’s a lot of moments where it might not even be just public speaking.

Something happened in our lives that might trigger into the way we speak for the way we handle ourselves when we are in front of others. So thank you for sharing and another person said and much eye contact.

I contact for them. You know everyone every new level. There’S a new devil, especially with public speaking. It can throw you a curveball just like that. But how can you here knows all these little tiny devil? It’S each time ends and stomp stomp up down? Okay, so the number one secret that all great speakers have in common.

If you look at the picture, it’s all about the audience. Well, what do I mean by that? Okay, most of the people that come to my workshops or my clients. Do you know what they ask like no there’s nothing wrong with what they ask the questions that they ask are mostly me related, I related.

How can I become a better speaker? How can I make better eye contact? How can I now there’s nothing wrong with asking? I we have to develop ourselves. That’S why you’re here today, but the best speakers there’s the speaker fence that I have for the most the speakers that are at the top of the game.

What I’ve noticed all the questions are audience related. For example, they might be asking hmm: how can my audience really get more takeaways from this presentation today? How can my audience feel more connected with me in the next 10 minutes? Is it because I have to give them? Why eye contact? You see you see the questions they’re asking or more audience related, but how can my? How can my audience really feel happy during my presentation? Because, because look if you were the audience right now, really think about it? Okay, if you’re sitting right now you’re if you’re watching this live on camera, will you be asking the questions of hey? Will kit look at the camera today and look at me or hey? Will kids be confident to give this presentation to me right more than what the questions that you have are probably how can I learn a little bit more about public speaking, so I can be more confident.

How can I you know these are the questions that you, the audience are asking no, probably never ask. What’S what’s kid doing with this hands motion, okay with Rick, where house house kids are set up for his webinar today you know you know I want to show you guys like I’m at home.

I have my computer on top of my a six shoe box. You know you were probably never asked these questions well, how its kids set up today. Did you see when it comes back to me? My question is: how can I give you the best one of the best presentations that you can get away it well and the question is: how can you stay throughout the whole presentation today? How can I engage you so that you can get more takeaways, and so when it comes to presentations before we get to practice time before when it comes to presentations, ask audience related questions and the best thing to, and if you noticed something about me, I like To get very interactive the best speakers, they use their audience to tell them what they need to do for the next steps, because some great speakers they look into people’s eyes when they speak or when they chat over them, and they can read the room.

Of course. That’S another skill by itself, but they know how to pay attention to the room, and I feel like that, what that’s what they have to do next, for example, when you have you ever sat in a presentation and your butt is hurting, do you know what happens When your butts are hurting, the speaker can also feel that everyone’s butts are hurting too.

But those speakers who just keep on going on and when they know everyone’s butts are hurting. They keep on going on, look they’re, prepared information. They forget to adapt and read the room because they forget to know how to use the audience.

The audience is there to help you not to know not to smush you the audience, even if, even though your presentation may be failing right did they’re there to like push you, you know like hey. You got this they’re, not that they’re the throw eggs at you right, so one of the best things that you can do if you need to start shifting.

Your mindset, like one of my mentor, has told me the quality of your life depends on the questions that you ask. Well, the quality of your presentation depends on the questions that you ask about your audience.

Okay, it’s like kind of being like an FBI, the more you ask questions about your audience, the more you can be engaging to them, the more you know about them. Therefore, the more you can speak to them at a heart level, influence level the head level, but we’ve all this said: let’s get down to my favorite time practice time.

Okay, so right now I’m gonna say this again: either you can text me. You can say hey, say text kit thanks, so either you can write in your notebook. Okay, because, okay, look, you can watch this webinar.

You can listen to it, but if you don’t take action to practice how you gonna get better. The first thing is something called prep, and this is what I one of my favorite things impromptu speaking. Presentation write this down, because this is not in the webinar.

The P stands for point which stands for your opinion. Okay, P is your opinion and I’ll demonstrate this later reason is your logic, your y example, your story. Okay, examples are your stories and you go back to your opinion.

Okay in the first place, so I want to give you a topic. I’M gonna demonstrate this for us. So let’s say I’m talking about the grocery store. Okay, PR ep: the point is man. You can finish this in for synthesis.

The grocery store that you go to really reflects back on your values and the reason it is some. You know some groceries, grocery stores are healthier than others because they sell different types of food.

For example, the other day I was really hungry and my wife said kit – do not go to Stop and Shop, because if you go to Stop and Shop they have those Lay’s potato chips or those chocolates and whatever else that they have.

I know you’re gonna get them, so let’s go to Whole Foods and get the things that we need right, and so you know it’s that it’s tiny, but the different types of grocery stores ruins your the way you want to live, and so the next time You go to a grocery store, really doesn’t reflect back on who you are? Maybe you want to be more healthy? Maybe you do want to have a little next time and you’re gonna star market.

Oh, I go to stop and shop for my Lay’s barbecue chips. So try that prep PR EP the topic is coffee. Okay, you can text it to me. You can write it down in your notebook and never share with me. You can see it just a serie and then still text it to me.

I would rather you say: hey kit, hey, say text kit coffee is one of the best things to have in the morning. The reason is, it will energize you. I remember the other day. I know you guys know what I’m getting to and what seriously start talking and then you can text it to me afterwards, but this is this is practice time, just like a fitness class you’re lifting right now, one of my participants who came to one of our Workshops, so I’m not sure if she’s on now, I don’t think he’s on so he gave me a cat basket and because she knows I love cats, so advice from the cats.

As you are doing this, I’m gonna read some of this advice from the cats focus on the cans, not the cants stay curious pounce on opportunities, think outside the box. So, as their examples are coming in, I’m gonna move on to the next practice, but really you’re taking this time to practice hair.

Oh I’m gonna give you another topic. If you finished that one another topic: cats, okay, try, the pep chants PEP or okay. Now you say: okay, this is so random. If you want to put this into more realistic terms, do it on one of your topics if you have a presentation coming up what’s so I get.

The point is your opinion? What’S that mini idea, or that I didn’t want to get a class right if this is work-related, maybe the idea is that well, everything is streamlined. We are in a good position.

Okay. That is the point right. You can say to everyone for the past six for the past year. Our our marketing has been really really good, then drop. The reason didn’t drop the example, but what’s the idea you want to get across, you see how we have to get clear on our ideas.

The reason and the example is only there to make your idea more memorable at the end of the day or do you have to use? Do you have to use this prep in the order? P re P? No, you don’t have to. You can go example.

First reason later point a little bit later, but as I sip some water, please take the time to to text me to write this out. I would love to read some of your responses a little bit later. I know it takes a little bit more time to text on the phone.

So again, I just want to say thank you for everyone. That’S that’s doing here any Carmen Cynthia, welcome person, Jenny, Hey Joe, how to go and Joe Joe Neal Lila. Thank you so much Lila you’re, awesome.

Everyone you’re awesome, Lucia Nick thanks for popping on Tony in Yaffe. Thank you so much. Okay, the next thing. Okay, here we go. This person says you can also text me, your name. You need passion to pursue your dreams without passion.

You will quit when things get difficult bill gates, wouldn’t work 17 hours a day, consecutive consecutive consecutively. If he wasn’t passionate about his work, oh hi, powerful. So again you see, there’s popkins is pool, go really really quick.

So, thank you for that. So I’m gonna I’m gonna move on to the next thing. So next thing is, I you and me. So what do I mean by that use? Different pronouns, I’m just gonna break down this example really quickly.

I’M gonna share I’ll talk about cats. Okay, I’m going to share everything about I and then same contexts use the word. You same content use the word. We are now we’re not going for perfection. We just were just practicing here.

So I have three cats and these three cats. They all have different personalities. I love my first cat because she’s like a princess, the second cat, she’s kind of like all over the place she had butts everyone in the third case he’s kind of like in the middle and at the beginning I thought cats would scratch.

I thought cats would bite. I thought there would be just oh, you know aloof, but they’re, not at the end of the day. I really started loving my cats. Now I’m gonna start over use. The word you I’m not sure about you or if you have any cats, maybe you think cats will scratch.

Maybe you think cats are just. You know, don’t bother me, but the thing is after after having cats, you have to realize some cats. They might just go up and headbutt you. You know how that would feel when they had, but you’ll feel loved that day.

That know it. You can cuddle with cats no matter if, for example, this these cats with their different personnel personalities, maybe one’s ester princess, maybe that princess it’s just like you – may be another one.

It’S all over the place. Maybe it’s like, like you too, so you have to know that cats are kind of like human beings. Just like you, so the next time you you see, cats, you can say: hey, I’m going to see you in a different light.

Okay, I must start over use the same content we all have maybe have seen. We all have seen cats in our lives and character, one of the most popular animals nowadays and I think they’re increasing both dogs and I I don’t think we all have cats, maybe some of us we do, but for the for the ones that we don’t.

I really want us to really think why don’t we have animals in our lives? Maybe it’s because you know in our space. Maybe it’s because we don’t like cats, but I want us to consider that if we don’t have cats, maybe consider the possibility of what they can do in our lives.

Okay, so again, that’s just a little practice. I want you to do the same thing. Okay, if you have your notebook or you can even think about this out loud okay, how can I use the word eye? How can I use the word new, the best speakers? They transfer this back and forth.

So maybe you maybe one person, said I’m going to Toastmasters at 12 o’clock news. I you and me when you’re doing your Table, Topics use a lot of you maybe have a pitch coming up. You use the word new later.

I gave this for prep and she talked about cats Lena. Thank you for this cat, though cute are /, evil, reason being the quiet and they move. Quite you know in a sneaky way an example of this. I had a cat a few years ago.

Who would wait under the bed for you to sit down and once you sat down he scratched and bite your ankles and make you leap off the bed? That’S why I believe cats are evil Lila that was convincing. You see how.

Why is that prep? Why do I like crap because, usually and our minds, you may have all these thoughts going on, but when you use a structure it gives your audience a good flow to just understand really quickly.

Okay, the last thing magic number three. What do I mean by man? Magic number three say things and just think of the number three you can use your you can use your creativity, here’s three ways that I use it.

I use the one earlier real estate, you know what they say. Real estate is about location, location, location, location, public speaking is about planning, planning planning. You see how I said it three times.

Well, you know what. If the King said, I have a dream. I have a dream. I have a dream. Okay, see the same thing three times. Cats are fun, fun, fun; okay, it doesn’t matter what it is repeat. It repeat, it repeat it another way you can use.

The magic number three is to say things. Three and three different ways: okay, this way you will be a little bit more convincing, look get the new iPhone because there’s not a new iPhone, get the new iPhone, because it looks really good hey.

I know you were taking you like to take photos and you like to improve on your your photo taking skills. Did you know the new iPhone? Have these three new cameras that you can try out? Okay, this another way: oh hey! The iPhone came out with this new color, that is a favorite color yellow you want to give it a shot and get that iPhone so again say it in three different ways.

Usually most people would say: hey get this iPhone. Get this iPhone get this Apple. We have one way of saying it, and, and usually it doesn’t hit people in the head, so use the magic number three. It can become really really powerful, and so, if you would love to get some practice time in try magic number three.

Okay, what are some three things that you can say maybe have a meeting coming? Maybe you have to meet a client later? What is that again, these things is to serve the idea. Okay, you can say things three times, but what’s the purpose of saying these things? Three times like, I want to tell you that public speaking is about planning, planning, planning, okay, let’s say you’re meeting a client, and you want them to understand that you want to build relationships right, there’s a relationships that matter maybe you’re.

Talking to that client – and you can say to them, pay our main focus our relationships, relationships relationships whatever it is right it just it we’re so busy. Nowadays, people have to get sticky things at the end of the day as this room that person’s about relationships, relationships and relationships.

I hope you are liking this so far. Okay, game plan, game playing game playing game plan. Where are you right now at these levels? Okay, where are you right now? I want to help you get from point A to point B, most of the time, people actually don’t know what to do with the public speaking.

So I need you to choose a point, a and then choose a point B. Maybe you are stuck in the head. The next step would be work on your presence. Okay, maybe you don’t take time to you, don’t take, maybe uses you want to be at clear memorable.

Maybe it’s being really good at being clean memorable. Maybe that’s the a and B right now, okay, so where is your a and where is your B and one of the best things about these game plans are when you hone down and when you know what you need to work on just work on these things.

For example, if you need time to become clear and memorable, don’t focus on the stories, you know don’t focus on try to influence people, yet you know, take small wins one at a time. Like anything else, you learned in life, it was probably the small wins that got you to where you are, and so like presence.

Maybe you have to work on your body language, your vocal variety. You can every single day just be a little bit more over there of you know your body language, and so you know, I think I think you showed up today because you’re frustrated about where you are with your public speaking.

Maybe you are stuck in head and it could be that you are so busy. You don’t have time to plan and you can’t be clear memorable or maybe that it’s just maybe some other people gave you feedback, and I said okay, you have to work on your public speaking.

Well, maybe you just wanted to hang out today, but I’m thank you. If you just want to hang out today, I just want you to know again that public speaking, it can really transform your life or the organization that you’re working with at the same time, because it’s just more than presenting to people, they even asked Warren Buffett.

What do you think is that one skill people should learn to become more successful in life and he said without a doubt mastering your public speaking skills will raise your value by 50 %, and I believe that, if you’re, you know if you’ve been on this call.

This webinar up to this point: you have what it takes to excel in public spec. You know public speaking, and this is something that you can get started with now. I know and you’ve been presenting before, but this is really the time to really step up your game.

I said to people it’s almost 2020 right. How can you really work on your public speaking game so that in 2020 you can be one of the best speakers that you can be? You know start trying to, and I want you to know that nothing that I shared with you here today is fluff and in theory this is exactly what I’ve done with my clients and myself to to really become a good public speaker, especially even just going back To the breath, I used that day in and day out and hopefully – and you can take a breath right now and after I helped so many different individuals with the public speaking even like you’re looking at these five levels right now, it is these five levels that People have to go through no matter if, if you are newbie or you’ve been at this game, it’s about taking baby steps again, it’s all about baby steps that can increase you, your love, o to the next public speaking, I’m gonna, say public speaking experience is

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How to SPEAK UP with Confidence 7 TIPS

We’re going to look at seven tips that will teach you how to speak up with confidence. And we’ll not be using one of these things. We’re going to teach you how to do it in a group setting because that’s usually where people struggle.

So let’s get into it. (upbeat music) Before we get into these tips, be sure to look at some of the free resources in the description below the video, including a PDF download about the five essential communication skills that all professionals should have.

As we look at these tips, you’ll probably notice that these are the exact behaviors that people who already speak up confidently do. In other words, this is what confident people sound like and look like when they speak up.

So let’s learn from them and develop our own skills. Here are seven do’s and don’ts. Don’t sit back in your chair or lean away from the table. You want to literally lean in. When you are pushed back or leaned back in your chair, it’s more difficult for others to see you and make eye contact with you.

Now, I will admit that this sometimes feels more relaxing and makes it seem like the world is at my command but it doesn’t come across that way to others. When you are sat back from the table, you’ll look like you are voluntarily casting yourself in a minor role.

You might be taking up more space but you’re taking up space away from the action. Instead, you want to push in your chair so your body is up against the edge of the table and even lean forward a little bit.

This puts you non-verbally in the mix. This sends the signal to yourself and to others that you are in the game as an active participant. It puts you in a great nonverbal position and posture to speak up even if you haven’t said anything yet.

Number two, don’t ask for permission to speak. Assume they expect you to speak. I’ve heard many people over the years say things like, “Can I say something?” Or, “Is it okay if I ask a question?” So asking for permission like this implies that you are a lower status person compared to the others.

And that’s a question that brand new employees sometimes ask. You don’t wanna sound brand new. Also asking for permission is another way of communicating that you don’t think you have the right to speak.

And that can undermine what you say and can hurt your credibility. If you are attending a meeting, assume you already have permission to speak and that everybody wants and even expects you to speak. The truth is if you’re not speaking up, at every meeting people will begin to wonder what kind of value you are adding.

So don’t ask for permission, it sends the wrong message. Number three, in the same way, don’t wait for an invitation. Just wait for a short pause. So don’t wait for someone to say, “Sarah, what do you think?” So I’ve been in hundreds, maybe thousands of meetings and I can count the number of times I was directly asked for my specific opinion on one hand.

Now, if somebody looks in your direction in the discussion, that’s about as close as you’ll get an invitation most of the time but don’t wait for that. The expectation in almost all professional settings is that if you have something to say, you will say it.

But if you’re not waiting for an invitation, then when should you jump in? Well, the way confident people speak up is on the pause. As you’re getting ready to speak, you can usually hear that a pause is coming.

That somebody is winding down what they’re saying. And what confident people do is when they hear that somebody’s talking turn is winding down, they ramp up and begin to speak in that micro-moment, just as the first person is finishing.

So a big part of this is timing. Anticipate somebody is about ready to finish, get ready and start talking as soon as they pause. And number four, don’t assume that other people know you wanna speak. Clearly signal that you’re about to talk.

So people don’t typically look around the room and see if anyone else wants to talk before they jump in. You have to send the right signals. So here’s how to do it. As the person before you is finishing their talking turn, send these three clear nonverbal signals.

First lean forward, second, inhale audibly through your mouth, and third, lift your finger. And I mean this finger, not the one next to it. So if you have done these three non-verbal behaviors at the same time, most people will recognize that you are about to speak and they will look at you and they’ll wait.

I’ve done this many times just as an experiment and you can practice it with me right now. (deep breathing) And almost every time, people around you will stop and they’ll look at you. And sometimes somebody will speak before I do in a situation like that.

What I’ll do in that situation is I’ll remain leaned in and make eye contact, maybe even keep my finger up subtly until they acknowledge me. And then I’ll get to speak next. So usually what they’ll say is one of two things.

Sometimes they’ll say, “Oh, sorry Alex, go ahead.” Or they’ll say, “Sorry Alex, just let me finish this point.” And as long as I remain leaned in and I’m making eye contact with the person speaking, I don’t think I’ve ever been denied the opportunity to speak next.

Number five, when you speak, don’t get long-winded or cluttered. Make your point clearly and concisely. Boil down your statement to its essence and just say that. So you get in, you get out, don’t use fillers or qualifiers.

Don’t apologize. Just say what you have to say. Clear and concise sounds confident. If you boil it down to just a couple of sentences, you are more likely to hit your target. So if you tend to ramble, you may want to jot down some keywords right before you speak or practice it once or twice in your head.

Number six, when you speak, don’t be dramatic. Stay composed. Don’t burst in other words. Sometimes we finally speak up, it can feel like a big deal because we’ve been bottling something up for a while.

But stay cool, don’t explode. If you are the type of person who tends to bottle it up and then burst, that means you waited too long to speak. So speak up earlier in the meeting before you feel your emotions getting pressurized.

Number seven, don’t send weak nonverbal cues. Show confidence. So here’s the way confident communicators look. I was recently looking at some research that showed that high-status people tend to make direct eye contact with everybody at a meeting, especially eye contact with other high-status individuals.

Low-status individuals tend to avoid eye contact, especially with high-status people. So if you want to signal that you have high status, look directly at the leaders in the room when you speak. Next, after you speak, keep your eyes up and listen attentively to whoever speaks next.

One common mistake that people make is to say something and then look immediately down at their notes or at a computer. But this can make you look defeated, not confident. Confident people look up when they talk, and they continue to look up and make eye contact when the next person starts talking.

So keep your eyes open and go 100% back to active listening mode. So this moment right after you speak is critical, because this is what we’ll leave that last impression. So let’s step back and talk about the big picture.

If you follow these seven tips, you’ll look and sound more confident when you speak up. However, a little note here. It may not immediately feel confident on the inside. People frequently look and sound more confident to others long before they feel that self-assurance inside.

Question of the Day: Which of these tips do you find most helpful? And feel free to add your own tips and comments in that section below the video. I look forward to reading them. As mentioned, I have some free resources like a PDF download on the five essential communication skills that all professionals should have, as well as some other resources.

I will put links to all of that in the description below this video. Until next time, thanks, God bless and I will see you soon.

How To Speak With Confidence & Authority (3 EASY TRICKS!)

Why are you so shy? Come on, speak up a little, be more confident. That’s what people used to say to me when I began my journey, and I heard that from teachers girls, you name it left to right and center and tell you insider it wasn’t until I discovered these three things.

I’m gonna share with you today, especially the final one things began to change. People began to treat me seriously. I was able to increase my wealth, my relationship, and so forth as a result, and that’s why I’m so excited to share my view.

These three points so make sure to pay close attention without further ado. Let’s go into the first thing, which is to stop making your statements sound. Like a question, you gotta share what you believe in with absolute conviction.

The only way that happens is this by you. Not going like this, would your tonality such as is that making sense instead you go down. Is that making sense more certainty? Compare this? This is a great pen.

This is great pen notice, the difference so you’ll notice, insider just by tonality, going up or down. It makes a huge difference in regards to how something is perceived now. This is where I struggled a lot with, because my background, I suffer from social anxiety for many years, severe social anxiety, whilst homebound pretty much every single day.

I was just locking myself in my room as a result, I was always looking to people please. I was always looking for validation from other people. As a result, when somebody asked me my opinion, my tonality always used to go up because subconsciously if you’re somebody who can resonate with being shy, we seek validation and that’s what we were scared.

We’Re scared of going down we’d rather go up, and that way we are less likely to tread on other people’s toes and talk about treading on other people’s toes. That goes perfectly onto the second point realize this insider, even if you’re the most perfect speaker on this planet with a perfect tonality cadence, you name it all of the BS stuff that you may have come across, which some of it, I don’t agree with, even if You’Re, the most perfect speaker realize that the best speakers that have changed history or best entrepreneurs that I’ve created billion-dollar companies they’re not essentially the best speakers in the world and yet they’re able to create huge amount of success.

Why? Because they drop low the truth bombs. They know what they believe in and they’re willing to stand up for it when you find the thing insider that you’re willing to stand in front of a bus for to defend it and you’re able to speak with that amount of conviction, people naturally believe in you.

People think wow this person’s confident. Why? Because confident people, one of the things I learned from studying a lot of confident people, because I used to be very shine, confident people believe in their message, so much believed in themselves so much they are not people pleasing they’re not looking to please others.

They speak up for what they believe in look at all of influencers insider. You follow online, which you agreed. They drop low, the truth bombs. Would you agree. This is why you like them, because they’ve given up the need to be liked, give it up because realize this, you think people care about you, but in reality people really don’t they’re too busy worrying what you are thinking of them.

Everybody features in the movie called my life, walking around thinking the cameras all on us lights on on us, but realize your next-door neighbor everybody around you they’re all thinking, actually the cameras all on me, so everybody walks around in the movie called my life you’re.

The main act in your movie, I realize the person next, you they’re the main actor. Nobody cares about you to speak up for what you believe in. Naturally, that makes you appear really confident. Naturally, that is the one thing that makes you a great speaker.

So be sure to own that the third is use the power of pause. I talk about this a lot pausing, but today I’ll get a little bit deeper in regards to why you should pause, realize that we’ve got an awkward meter in our mind, depending on how self-conscious shy you are you’re.

Awkward meter is going to be maybe milliseconds before you feel the need to fill in the blank um like you know what I mean by filling the blank, these random words you just kind of chuck out there, because you don’t like pauses.

Firstly, if you look at any president’s talking, what do they all do they pause? Why? Well? There are two reasons. The first reason it allows the audience to think about what you’ve just said. Second reason: it allows you to think about what you’ve just said as well, and what you’re gonna follow up with if you’re gonna just speak, like this, hey insiders how you doing today, I’m gonna be sharing the three things you got to know in Order for you to become a confident speaker and then gonna feel at the end of it you’re gonna be like it’s absolutely amazing.

You’Ll, be like. Oh, my god, Tim I’ll, come at you. I come at you We’ll connect all of the thoughts cuz you’re speaking so fast you’re like I’m. What can I just seem in here, but the moment I pause.

You now think, if you’re somebody who self-conscious right now, something like me, okay, because by the way, I’m quite self-conscious, believe it or not, I’m still shy to this day. I just manage it quite well.

You want to begin to stretch this muscle where you are extending this pause time. I jump onto a stage nowadays, people give me a massive round pause right when I go on and then I stand right at the front of the stage and I just look at them.

I don’t even say a word just look at them with a big smile and I’ll look at each one in the eyes and ten seconds. It shows absolute certainty before I even begin to say anything use the power of pause, get rid of filler words if you’ve got the tendency to use filler words like um, like that is a very bad low status, behavior that people will perceive you as shy.

If you were to keep on doing that, so make sure you pause instead. Is that making sense by the way? Was this pretty awesome, but I hope you found this video helpful insider if you have be sure to click the like button comment below: what’s been your biggest takeaway and I’ll, be sure to get back to you and also insider if you’re new to our channel we’ll Be sure to click that subscribe button because we got awesome content coming your way.

I’ve created video insider. Where I talk about confidence, how you can increase it in less than five minutes. I put it up right now on the screen and, as always, follow your heart. My friend and take action I’ll see you on the next video take care.

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3 Daily Public Speaking Exercises

You become what you consistently practice so practice consistently for the person you want to become public speaking is one of those things that is very hard to hold yourself accountable to if you’re running a marathon with a friend, there’s a clear goal run the marathon and if Your friend knocks on your door at 5:00am

Are you going to get out of your house and run that marathon, but with public speaking? It’s a lot trickier because it’s harder for you to do those types of exercises without that clear goal, and that’s exactly why this week’s episode of the master talk will be elaborating on my three daily exercises to help you master your talk on a daily basis.

Hi everyone, I hope, you’re having a fantastic week Brendan from the master talk here and today we are talking about the daily practices. So, let’s get into number one. The random word exercise. I absolutely love this drill, because, if you can master it, you’ll be in the top 1 % of public speakers.

The random exercise is simple: all you do is you have a friend give you a random word in the dictionary that you need to then build an introduction from this is very interesting, because, if you’re able to master this you’ll have a lot less stress in presentations, you’ll also learn to think on your feet.

Faster and you’ll be able to give presentations like spontaneous ones, specifically out of the cusp. I know this is recording and I might be cheating, but let’s use the camera as an example to demonstrate these shots.

The shots that you take don’t just picture their experiences. Their moments don’t just last for yesterday for today or even tomorrow, but for a lifetime of shots, as you can see from the way that I just created a random introduction from the camera.

You can then use that for multiple different words and practice. Five words for five minutes: every single day, number two forced silence, drills. The biggest difference between great speakers and exceptional ones, is their ability to use silences as a way to make their present better and for silence.

Drills help you make those differences by making your silence is better and more strategic in your presentations, so the exercise is very simpler and it’s a lot easier to do with the partner. All you do.

Are you have a partner record. You give a presentation right so you’re, giving the presentation for a minute or two and then in the second recording of the presentation. Your partner is then going to point at you at specific parts of the presentation where he wants you to pause like so and then, as you’re speaking when you watch both recordings, you will be shocked to see that the second recording sounds so much better with silences.

In them, this done on a daily basis will help. You believe that silences will make you better and will also help you strategically weave them into your presentations. So you can become world-class number three.

The endless gaze building upon my last tip about for silence, drills exceptional speakers can pause not just for two, three, or five seconds, but for a long period of time, whether that time happens to be 30 seconds or even a couple of minutes.

So the endless gaze exercise is very simple: the next time you’re practicing silence drills with your partner. Don’t just pause them for a couple of seconds, but pause them for very long periods of time since you’re the only member of the audience.

Your partner is forced to just look at you for that period of time and not make it look awkward and just keep looking at you endlessly, and that way by mastering your endless gaze you’ll be able to gaze into the eyes of your audiences for an indefinite Period of time, as always, if you enjoyed this week’s episode of the master talk, be sure to smash that, like button and subscribe to the YouTube channel as well, to see more videos like this and if there’s anything I’ll leave you off with its this, you become what You consistently practice so as long as you use these tips to get better on a daily basis.

I believe you’ll be 10 steps closer to mastering your public speaking. Everyone has a fantastic week and see you next time.

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How To Become A Master In The Art of Public Speaking (Part 2 of 2) | Eric Edmeades

So the first thing we talked about this morning is the stage effect, so the stage effect is the unfair advantage that you create for yourself by standing in front of an audience – and I just I want to – I want to give you a little Bit more information about that the stage effect is a really fascinating thing.

The stage effect is kind of like it works like this. The quality of your presentation, plus the size of the audience, creates the level of attraction you create as a speaker. Does that make sense? So so what that means is that the bigger your audience, the more attractions can happen, and I’ve noticed this very much in my career, because when I would go out on tour when I launched in a new country, I might go on a tour in a new Country and nobody knows me, and so I go there and some of the audience, some of the events might have 20 or 30 or 40 people, but then some of those people end up coming to one of my workshops.

Those people have a certain attitude toward me when they come to the workshop, as my career in any given country gets bigger. Like I came here to Thailand some years ago, and I did an event – and there were about 2,500 people in the audience when those people come to my events, they treat me differently than the people who saw me with 30 people because there’s something powerful about people Watching you, the same thing applies on YouTube.

Somebody sends you a video and it’s got four views and somebody sends you another video and it’s got four million views which one are you gonna watch. The the views are the size of the audience, and so, if it’s got, four million views you’re more likely to watch it.

If you’ve got five thousand people in the audience, it creates more attraction. And so what this means is that when you stand up in front of an audience and you deliver from your heart, you are creating a level of attraction that is far beyond what you can create one-on-one.

If there’s ten people in the audience, it’s far more attraction than one-on-one, this is so important because in marketing there is no system of marketing that is more effective than personal contact.

I’M not talking about effective in numbers, there’s many systems that can better with numbers, but I’m talking about effective when it comes to creating a lasting memory or impression with somebody. Nothing will create a more lasting impression really than face-to-face contact with somebody.

But the problem is: is face-to-face contact isn’t very practical. How many people can you meet and really connect with in a day eight, if you really have it back to back and you’re spent, I mean I don’t know and look if you live in England, you can kind of travel around pretty quickly and meet with a Lot of people, because there’s 60 million people living on a postage stamp.

But if you live in Canada, it’s a little different. I was working in Canada and Vancouver and I had a client in England and we’ve been doing business for a few years, but we’d never met before and one day he calls me there was Eric we’re.

Finally, gonna get to meet and I said awesome what’s happening, goes I’ve got a conference I have to go to and I’m gonna come come. I’M coming to Canada. I said that’s great, I said: what’s what’s, the scheduling goes well, I’m flying into Toronto.

On Monday, the conference is on Tuesday and I’ve got Wednesday and Thursday free. So I figure we should get together for lunch, and I said okay and I were you planning to come out to Vancouver and he goes.

I have a rental car now. Some of you will be aware of North American geography, but some might not so I just want to put this in perspective. This is Canada for you. If you would like to drive from Halifax Nova Scotia to Vancouver Canada – and you have three friends to do, the driving with you and the car only stops for you to put petrol in you, eat and sleep in the car.

It will take you four and a half days. It’S just you know it’s a big place. What I’m getting at is face-to-face contact in our world today is not gonna, be the most effective because it takes so much time, but the good news is is that face-to-face contact is even more powerful face to faces it’s even more powerful.

I am well. Let me ask you and if you already know the answer, I don’t need your answer. If you don’t know me, you haven’t met me, am i introverted or extroverted how many people think that I’m pretty extroverted who thinks I’m pretty extroverted seems so I’m up here on stage whatever? How many of you think I’m more introverted.

So the fact of the matter is, I am significantly more introverted than I am extroverted. You will notice, I will walk around here. I don’t walk up and talk to people all the time and introduce I mean I wouldn’t say: I’m shy, I’m just introverted and one of the greatest tools of the introvert is learning how to be great at storytelling and standing on stage, because then you don’t have To go meet people they come and meet you it’s different.

You meet them all at once. It’S an incredibly powerful thing, but that’s social. But what about economic, and so the example I often use economically, is that if I’m a business consultant – and let’s say I’ve got my my friend – Derek Eric and Derek and – and I am the introverted business consultant and he’s also an introverted business consultant and we’ve decided To buddy coach each other we’re gonna try and get through our stuff, and what we’re gonna do is we’re gonna go to a networking event and we’re gonna try and have a competition to see who can meet the most people.

So introverted business consultant Derek, goes off to the event pocketful of business cards and he’s handing out business cards and he’s meeting all the people so good to meet you I’m so happy to meet you.

Here’S my card. You have a card with you, you and you have a card as well. Can I have an and Derek is meeting them all and at the end of the day, he’s got a pocket full of business cards. I, on the other hand, introverted Eric business consultant to I don’t want to do all that.

I call the organizer and say hi I’d like to come and speak at your conference. Here’S my show real here’s, my bio boom and I get myself booked as a speaker. I walk onstage, I speak for 45 minutes. I make people laugh, maybe cry, maybe think I give them distinctions.

Who’S gonna have the most business cards at the end of this conference. I probably am, but but wait a minute. Let’S call it a tie. Let’S say we get back to our hotel room, we take out our stacks of business cards, we put them down and it turns out it’s a tie.

Okay, so we have to go to the tiebreaker round the tiebreaker round. How does that work? Well, what we do is we start calling the people we met. So Derek starts picking up the phone and saying hey: do you remember how we met at the conference yeah? It was over by the Starbucks yeah yeah.

I was the blue shirt. Do they remember him? Barely a few might what if I called him, I pick up them ago: hi, it’s Eric, oh you’re, Eric calling from the presentation. I’Ve created a deeper, lasting memory.

Is it true? So the tiebreaker is that I have as many business cards, but these business cards mean something they connect something now, let’s go to the next tiebreaker round, which one can charge more for the same consulting services.

I want you to hear me about this. This is not a small thing. This person does not charge 10 % more than this person. This person can charge many times what this person can charge. I didn’t fully understand this.

Until one day, I was doing event in Las Vegas Nevada, and I did my presentation at this event. Many speakers were there. I spoke for about two hours and these these guys walked up to me. After it I was standing with my wife.

They walked up and they said we’d like to buy you lunch. What do I know at this point? They want something but I’m hungry. So I accept a lunch and so we go off for lunch and we’re sitting there at lunch and they start trying to hire me to work for their company in California.

I don’t want to live in California. I live in the Dominican Republic and just to put this in perspective for you how many of you are familiar with kiteboarding anybody, so how many are not familiar with kiteboarding, but you are familiar with wakeboarding, so I’ll describe kiteboarding for you, it’s like wakeboarding right.

It’S like wakeboarding you’re, on a snowboard type thing and in the wakeboarding the boat is pulling you right, but with kiteboarding it’s like you control the boat and the boat can fly. It’S an incredible sport and I live on kite beach and there’s wind ten months of the year.

San Diego is beautiful, but the wind is seasonal and the water is there’s a technical term for this. Let me just I have it here. I have it in my phone, I had looked it up, freaking cold, it’s really cold and so alright, if I don’t need a wetsuit even in December, I’m not interested in going to live there.

I don’t want the job, but they keep trying to get me to do it, and I finally said to look what do you really want from me and they explained what they were looking for, and I said no, I really, I don’t want it and they said Well, could we hire you as a consultant? Actually, no I’m not look.

I’M busy. I have a full calendar, I’m not. I want to spend time with my family. I don’t really want to, but I don’t like saying and so sometimes I’ll say no with a number. This is one of the smartest ways that any of you will learn to raise your prices.

You you, you deliver so much value that people want to do business with you and then you say no with a bigger number, and so I decided to do that. They go well. Could we have you come in for like one week of the month for six months, and I want to say no, but I don’t.

Instead, I said sure it’d be $ 20,000 for each week they said. Okay, I said oh [, __ ] and then I said well before you say: okay, I don’t fly on the weekend, I’m with my family. I fly on the Monday and I fly home on the Friday.

So it’s three days twenty thousand dollars, and they said okay and so for the next six months. I did this before that. I would have sold days for a fraction of that amount if I was open to consulting which I wouldn’t have sold, because I didn’t want it, but all of a sudden I found the stage effect has an immediate and powerful financial return.

It helps you sell things. It helps you get a job, it helps you get that promotion. It helps you get the funding for your business, it helps you recruit people for your company. It is the ability to leverage it’s so powerful.

Now, in order for that to work, though, we have to have some skills, we talked today about how to get more comfortable, but now what we have to do is talk about some skills. One of the most important skills you can develop as a speaker is the ability to go to a conference and deliver a talk that will appeal to the highest percentage of the whole audience.

Irrespective of the topic, because you will occasionally get asked to speak at conferences where there’s a wide variety of people in the audience – and your topic might only appeal to 1/2 or 1/3 of the people – is that possible? And so the trouble is, is you’d almost be better off if the other people would just leave, because if they stay in the room with their naysay or energy, if they stay in the room checking their facebook if they stay in the room talking to each other.

They’Re gonna ruin the energy of the room and they’re going to distract other people from your presentation. You know they don’t all sit their side right. You’Ve got the interested person in the disinterested person and the interested person, and then it just messes up the room and you can’t make them leave, and so what you need to do is keep their attention and so doing that we use something.

We call broad spectrum appeal that is to deliver with broad spectrum it’s to deliver in a way where the audience likes what’s going on, even if the topic isn’t a direct match for them. So there’s some keys to this.

The first key use stories we already talked about it this morning. Stories are the operating system of the human mind. Look if you tell somebody something they’re, not gonna. Remember it, but if you relay the information to them in a story that triggers emotion, they’re gonna remember it you see your mind, has too much stuff to process, and so what it does is it decides what to hold on to and what it will hold On to is anything that has an emotion attached to it.

Does this make sense to you see if you have a day, that’s completely boring and you have no emotions about that day. Are you gonna remember that day? No, but if you have a day where you had an intense emotional experience like say somebody drove into your car, are you gonna? Remember that day you had an attention motional experience, if you have no memory, sorry, if you have no emotion, there’ll, be no memory.

If you have too much emotion you, you could end up with PTSD. That’S ultimately, what it’s about is that the emotion is so intense that it writes the memory and so solidly that it can’t be shaken out now, once we begin to understand that that that emotion is the glue that causes memories to stick once we get that, then We know that we have to deliver things in story format, that is the operating system of the human brain.

Now sometimes feel company go well Erik. That’S all fine and good you’re up there telling your stories. I don’t have any stories. Does anybody feel a little like that? Don’T have so many stories or the other thing they say is well Erik, but I have to.

I have to just deliver numbers. I just I’m an accountant and I have to deliver numbers to the board of the come. How do I do that story? Well, what you begin to realize is that delivering a story is about the way you deliver anything and – and what I mean is is that if I have to come and deliver the numbers, then I can walk out here, and I can say, ladies and gentlemen, of The board, I have the numbers, we projected 14 percent growth on the quarter and in fact we achieved 16 percent.

Well done everyone! That’S how it’s done right. In fact, that’s somebody doing it quite well in our world. It can be done a lot worse than that. Right how many of you have been to a conference where you’ve been sitting in the middle row and you’ve been wishing? You were on the edges, anybody been to that conference, okay, so I’ve been there and so what? If? Instead I walk out and go.

Ladies and gentlemen, the board I’ve got the numbers from the accounting department today and I’m really excited about this, because when we set the targets you’ll remember we projected 14 percent growth on the quarter and you might recall I wasn’t a big believer.

I wasn’t so optimistic about that and so this morning, when I got the numbers from the accounting department I held the envelope my hand. I just took a moment before I opened it and then I tore the envelope open and I read the report and then I had to read it a second time and I’m not kidding.

I had to read it a third time to understand what had happened. We projected 14 percent growth on the corner and what we actually achieved was 16 percent. Is it different? I created suspense, I created drama and I made it a story.

It didn’t even take much longer, but I did it in a way that you will now remember that. In fact, I will be able to walk up to some of you three four days from now and go how much growth did we post and you’ll go yeah? It was 16 percent right, like you will, because I gave it to you in story.

So the first thing you have to understand is it’s not even that you have to have so many stories. It’S that you have to recognize that the information needs to be delivered in story format. When it’s delivered in story format, it becomes memorable.

The only way, you’re gonna get anybody to remember anything is by linking an emotion to it. How many people in this room you had in school in your first 12 years of school, you had at least one or two teachers that to this day, you would love to have lunch with them and thank them for the contribution they made in your life.

Keep your hand up if they were a storyteller nine times out of ten more, like nine thousand nine hundred and ninety-nine times out of a thousand. These guys are storytellers, isn’t it true, they’re, totally storytellers and and the teachers that didn’t tell you stories, you don’t remember what they taught you and these days you don’t even remember their name.

Do you? No, I moved. I grew up largely in Halifax Nova, Scotia in the eastern side of Canada and one of my teachers. When I was in grade three – and I know, every country uses different grade, three means like eight years old, and so I was seven or eight years old and I was in his class and he was brilliant at storytelling.

He understood everything about storytelling. He understood the suspense one day we were putting he we used to sit in his chair and he would put his one leg up on his desk. You know kind of bad for him, don’t you think so we often would sit in art and when he would come into the class and we’re eight years old and we’d put our feet up on our desks and then he walked in one day, and he goes You guys think, that’s funny, don’t you and we’re like yeah, you do it, so we can do it kid thinking right and he goes well.

I’M gonna tell you why I do it. He said one day I was going out on my first date in my car and I was driving along and I dropped my girlfriend off at her house after an incredible day and then I turned around and I was so high.

I was so happy. I was so full of love from this experience. I’D gone out on my first date in my first in my car on my first time and I was driving along and I was heading alone and then suddenly something happened to the car.

Somebody had hit me a little bit from behind and then the car started to slide and it was sliding toward this tree and I saw the tree and it was the weirdest thing, because there was nothing I could do and the tree just kept getting closer and Closer and it was almost like slow motion and all of a sudden yeah we did, I just slammed into the into the tree and and and and then and then and then a little.

While later I woke up on the road I had been flung out of the car, and I woke up on the road and the weirdest thing is – I had never been able to do the splits before, but now I was on the road and I was doing The splits only the problem was my knee was bent here and so this bone had been broken so badly that it was sticking out through the skin and so now there’s a metal rod in my leg, and so when I sit at my desk, while you guys Are working if I don’t lift my leg up on the desk, it becomes incredibly painful.

That’S why I put my feet on my desk says. Otherwise, it’s considered to be incredibly impolite and I’m sorry I didn’t share with you share that with you earlier I was 8. I still remember that story. Incidentally, I have not shared that story once from stage ever until this moment.

Never have I shared that story that I can think of. I still remember it from when I was 8. Then then, one day he comes in, he goes because one of the important types of stories to tell are metaphorical or allegorical stories, where you tell a story that the audience wants to hear.

This is broad spectrum appeal. You tell a story that the audience wants to hear, but that’s teaching something else. Do you understand, and so he walks in one day and he goes guys it’s health class. Does he have our attention? No we’re 8 health class doesn’t get interesting until you’re 12 right.

I mean, let’s be clear: 12:13 health class starts getting a little, you won’t admit it, but it’s starting to get interesting right. You’Re, 8 years old. It’S not interesting! So he’s like it’s health class, nobody’s interested and he and he walks up to the blackboard and he takes out this thing and he’s like he says all right now.

Does he have our attention? Why does he have our attention? It’S 1978, its 1978, and I don’t know how many you guys are Harry Potter fans. Okay, however big Harry Potter got, it will never hit society the way Star Wars did not ever you watch any three hours of television in North America, any three hours of television news, sitcom movie, you will hear a Star Wars reference.

It’S the way it is. He understood this in 1978 in 1978, he was drawing characters from the Star Wars, universe and he did this. He goes now this force field. Was he brilliant? This force field is your skin.

He says these are antibodies, they are defending you, and these are the germs and bacteria that are trying to get into your body and make you sick. I was eight years old, that’s exactly what the blackboard looked like, because he understood how to tell stories.

Storytelling will change everything about you away. You do a presentation, it will change everything about the way the audience receives it and the beauty is stories are broad spectrum automatically the toughest audience I ever had the absolute toughest audience I’ve ever had.

I got this phone call. Eric would you come and speak for this inner-city school in London? I will speak for schools pretty much unreservedly if I’m around, if I’m nearby and I’ll, do it pro bono, if I’m around it’s free I’ll, show up and do it.

The one thing is is that when I’m doing pro bono speaking, I won’t always put the same level of preparation as when I’m getting paid. I I have things to do in my life, so if I’m speaking for free, I just kind of show up and wing it.

I’Ve got enough stage experience that I can usually pull that off. It’S okay and I get to the school and I haven’t done any research and I walk in and the headmistress walks up to me and she says: are you ready and I go yeah totally? I’M ready.

I said which kids am i speaking for, and she said all of them. I said oh really. What kind of school is this? Is it a high school because I could speak to all of them? You know high school, 6. 8. 16 to 18.

I could do that or is it a junior high? You know 13 to 16. I could do that or is it like last half of elementary school? You know six to twelve or you say eight to twelve or is it elementary school? I can do that.

Six to five to eight or something I could handle that she goes no it’s at k-12. I said k-12. That means for those you don’t understand. K-12. It means that the youngest kids will be four years old and the oldest kids will be 19.

They will be from 4 to 19 in one audience. I said really how interesting I said how long, how long do I have to speak for an hour and a half there from 4 to 19 and I’m gonna speak for an hour and a half.

I said: ok, excellent, no problem, and so immediately I start going through the system I’m going. I have to. If I have to create broad spectrum, feel I got to figure out. What’S common to all these kids, like I’ve got to figure it out.

First thing that is common to all of them stories stories are common, all of them. Now you have to tell the story slightly nuanced, but the fact is, for you do four-year-olds like stories. They like the same story over and over and over again and do 19 year olds like stories sure they do.

In fact, layered stories is one of the most valuable skills you can deliver up in the world, and you all know this, even if you’ve never heard the term before layered stories. This is what I’m talking about.

How many of you have ever watched a Disney movie with children and you’ve noticed that you suddenly realized as a child? You were watching a movie that was actually made for your adults. Isn’T it true? You watch a Disney movie and there’s weird little sexual innuendos, adult jokes and they’re all above the consciousness of children, so they’re telling two stories, and so this idea of being able to tell parallel stories or or or multi-layered stories is really valuable.

So I’m thinking, okay, I got to tell a story and I got to make sure it’s got four-year-old features and it’s got 19 yield features and all between first thing I decide second thing: what else is common to all these kids games? Do four-year-olds like games? Do 19 year olds like games, done deal, I’ve got it covered, then I think about.

I need one more thing. I need a thread I need. I need some kind of thread that I can use and I suddenly realize what it is, and I thought back to mr. kolchin ski Harry Potter, because that was what was going on back in and if you were 4 year old.

If you were 4 years old, did you like Harry Potter? Damn right, you did if you were 5 or 6 years old. Did you like Harry Potter, absolutely if you were 7 or 8 or 9 or 10, or its 11 years old, if you’re a 12 years old? Do you like Harry Potter? Absolutely if you were 13, 14.

15. 17. 18. 19. Did you like Harry Potter? You did but secretly you read the books in a brown paper bag right. Yet you didn’t you liked them, but it was a bit and by the way, if you were 20, 25, 30, 35, 40 years old, did you like Harry Potter? Damn right, you did my wife and I lined up at a book store to buy the final Harry Potter book at the bookstore unreleased night at midnight, and we had to buy two copies because there was no way one was waiting for.

The other Harry Potter was pervasive, it was pervasive, and so then I went out and I delivered a talk for these kids and I use stories. I played a game with them and I used Harry Potter references. I talked about guys.

I’M gonna show you some really cool stuff and by the time I show you this stuff about your life. All the other people will seem like muggles to you did that work for them yeah and at the end of my talk, the kids celebrated.

I got a big clap from them. Everything was fantastic and normally, when I finish a talk, it’s the audience that wants to come over and say hello and take a picture and do that fun stuff. Not this time.

This time it was the teachers, the teachers literally and by the way I I just want to, especially if you guys are any Americans here literally means. Actually, I just want to be clear that you can’t have your head literally explode unless it actually explodes.

I just wan na be clear about that, something that bothers me every now and again so the teachers literally, which, which means they actually write literally they cornered me and I’ve got my back against the wall and the teachers are surrounding me and they’re going.

How did you do that? How did you do that? I can’t hold them for half an hour. One age group and I said first of all, you need to relax. I said I only had to hold them one time. I only had to hold them one time and I was new and I was novel, so you can’t you can’t blame yourself.

The first thing is, I only had to hold him the one time and they’re like yeah, but still like. I have to hold them for a whole hour for my class, and I just can’t do it. You held him for an hour and a half and all the age groups.

How did you do that and I said, and I broke it down for them. I said guys it’s about storytelling. I told him of a mr. katimski and no kidding. They immediately asked me if I could come back and speak at the school again for the teachers, because teachers are not being taught really effectively how to teach they’re being taught how to babysit and how to run curriculum.

Does this make sense, so so broad spectrum appeal? It starts with the recognition that story is the ultimate language. It’S the ultimate operating system for the brain, and once you get that, then you make sure that your talks always contain a percentage of story.

You you, you tell them some information and then you use this story to prove it or you tell them a story and they and they get the information inside the story. But the fact is no emotion, no memory done then.

The next thing you saw me do there is: what is the common thread of the audience? You always want to know. What’S the common thread of the audience as best you can figure out who your audience is and try to figure out? What’S common about them and if you can’t find anything, that’s common about them, that might be the common thing.

I will often come out here and do it right now shout out some of the countries you guys are from. Let me hear it: Canada, United States, Mexico, UK, Brazil, Korea, Israel, the Ukraine, Crimea, that’s that’s Russia! Now! Isn’T it that’s not funny? The point is all of a sudden.

All of a sudden, I found something where you’re all uncommon, with each other. Only I’ve made that common because you’re an incredibly international group and suddenly I can speak to you all about me.

I’Ve created something uncommon in the common. Does this make sense, and so you want to look at what the common threads are in the company in in the in the audience and then let’s get to delivery delivery.

Is so straightforward guys and it’s not what most conference speakers are doing. How many of you guys were at the finals at the speaking Academy, finals? Okay, there were what 14 or 15 speeches have you ever in your life been to a conference where all 14 or 15 speakers appeal to you like that? What happened there? Do you know what a many of you came up and said to me? Many of you walked up to me after that and said, but why were they at a speaker course? That’S what they came and said to me: I’m like you, should have seen him on day.

One some of them were very talented on day one. Some of them were so shy and so nervous on day, one that, if you handed them a microphone, it kind of looked like this and that’s not what it looked like on day.

Five did it so one of the things that we showed them and that you saw was using a range of vocal techniques, not speaking in one tone. You’Ve all been to that conference where somebody stands up and for an hour puts you to sleep and they weren’t.

Even and hypnotist, but they should have been. Ladies and gentlemen and fellow Toastmasters, I don’t mean, look, I love Toastmasters. I really do it’s one of them. Every one of you should go, join a Toastmasters and get practice.

The challenges is that it’s a great place to practice, and what often is happening is is that people are becoming formulaic speakers. If, if you, if anybody ever comes up to me and says, did somebody do your course, the only reason I want them to know that they did my course is because they were so much themselves.

I don’t want everybody coming out being the same. You understand, and so so when we talk about delivering, we’re talking about delivering with passion with with you delivering yourself to the audience with you being who you are.

I am. I am NOT interested in the speakers that can come up and act really well, it can be fascinating, it can be wonderful. I saw a talk once it’s one of the best talks. I’Ve ever done. I admire the speaker a great deal.

It was incredibly funny. It had huge poignant moments in it, it taught really valuable stuff and it was clinically perfect. It was one of the best talks I’ve ever done, but it’s just missing one thing: heart and soul.

It was perfect. He moved to the exact right place every time on the stage to say the right thing and he did the right posture every single time for this thing that he did and everything was clinical and then when he wanted to go back and reference that sore and He went back to that same spot.

This is all really powerful skills to have, but if the audience can tell that you’ve done the same talk a hundred thousand times, then it doesn’t feel genuine anymore and the heart connection is broken with the audience.

You should know your story so well that you can tell them with imperfection that you can tell them like you’re telling them at the dining room table yeah I’ll, be in the middle of a talk. Sometimes only going.

You know it’s like that time. You know what are the the archaeologists Harrison Ford Indiana Jones, that’s right! What are the odds that I forgot Indiana Jones? What are the odds of that? They say that whoever you at my most, when you were 11 years old, is who you grew up to become Indiana Jones.

Go look at my website. I mean I, I travel around the world, I’m interested in archaeology, I’m in the bush with the animals all the time. There’S no chance. I forgot his name, but in that moment I will do that.

Why? Because it breaks the story and makes it look like it’s fresh and coming out from my soul, it makes it and then the other thing is. Is it gets the audience sitting on the edge of their chair going? We better pay attention because he sure isn’t right.

Like it’s it, it brings them in and the other thing that it does – and please hear me about this because some of you have one of the greatest fears of speaking, and that is that you might one day be onstage and forget what you were going to Say who’s afraid of that it’s horrible you’re standing up here and you’re going.

Oh man they’re, never gonna pay me now it just it’s horrible, but the good news is the audience is paying attention, and so I will do my Indiana Jones trick. Every now and again to keep the audience live and fresh and then every now and again I will get distracted.

Something will happen and I’ll have how many of you have ever found you’re, giving a presentation and you’re saying words out loud, but your brain is talking to you back here yeah every now and again my brain will distract me and then I might forget where I Was going and then I’ll go? Where was I going with that and then the audience is like you were going this way? Is it true? They will tell you, you never need to be afraid of it again, don’t be afraid.

Just tell really compelling stories make sure they’re paying attention. Then you don’t have to worry about remembering ever again, because here’s, the real funny part, is in many of my trainings on speaking.

I will do that a few times and then I’ll come to the part where I’m teaching that I do it I’ll do it without showing them and then I’ll go. How many times have I forgotten what I was planning to say or forgot where I was in the story and they’ll say: oh, it’s been three or four times this morning and then I’ll say and I’ll show them what I did and then I’ll say how many Of them were real and they have no idea, they have no idea, and I will tell you it does happen to me I’ll.

Tell you it’s ten percent compared to how often I do it, but it does actually happen to me and I’m never afraid of it. I’M just standing here and I go oh crap. Where was I going with that and I look down in a section the audience and they’re like oh, oh yeah? Where was he going with that and then they’ll tell me and I’ll go? Thank you, and by the way, when I say thank you to them when they came up with the answer, how do they feel they feel great? So you don’t have to worry about that.

You engage the audience you tell stories. If you tell stories, you will have their engagement, but then you have to use the vocal range. You have to use your voice when it’s when it when a when a speaker stands up and does that good evening.

Ladies and gentlemen, I’m so glad that you came here for my talk today today. What I’m going to do is attempt to kill you through boredom. I’M gonna use this one vocal tone, the entire time which some of you currently find pleasant, but within a short time you will stop hearing my words at all who has seen that speaker.

We all have, and now here’s the good news for you, how many of you think it would be really cool to become a speaker. How many of you’d like to do that. Here’S the good news, Helmut you’ve, all seen that speaker you’ve all seen them think about this.

If you’ve seen that speaker that speaker is making money as a speaker, I’m not kidding you, it’s like the easiest place in the world to be the best. If you just walk out and be yourself and they’re not willing to do it, and so you can walk into any conference and instantly be one of the top speakers simply by being yourself using your voice and telling stories that it’s done.

It’S absolutely incredible. I just yesterday got this incredible video from Lucas Lucas as a young man who found me on YouTube and he ended up signing up and doing our wild fit program. I never met him and he did our wild tip program and then he got more interested in my stuff and it turned out.

I was doing my speaking Academy program in Calgary, and so he signed up for it he’s like 23 or 24 years old. This is pretty proactive, behavior for a 23 year old and he signed up for it and he showed up and he was so quiet and so reserved and then he at one point he got up to introduce himself and he told this whole story that none of Us knew my team didn’t know it.

None of us knew it. He says I found Eric on YouTube. I signed up in a wild, fit I’ve lost 35 40 pounds, I’ve given up alcohol and drugs. I’Ve completely turned my life around because the wild fit, and so I knew I had to come out to this program and learn about speaking and stuff.

So I got another video from him. I got it just yesterday. Actually, no I got it this morning. I watched it this morning. He has since doing the speaking Academy gone out and spoken in two speech contests like in these big contests for speaking, and he finished in the one third place and he finished in the other one first place he had never done.

Probably speaking before he came into the program, he is so grateful for his ability to communicate, but here’s the kicker, those winning prizes, things that all that was for him was empirical evidence.

What really blew him away is that now, when he has to talk to the adults in his life, he’s able to communicate to them effectively now when he has to talk to the police, if somebody pulls him over for speeding or whatever he’s able to talk to Them effectively, he said it’s given him, this ability to communicate and it’s fantastic.

It changes everything do you know. I was driving along in Tanzania and I had just finished. I used to run these leadership programs where I would take people up Kilimanjaro to teach some leadership, skills and state management skills and all this kind of stuff and after the Kilimanjaro trip we went to Zanzibar and a few of the clients came with us.

My mom was meeting us there because my mom does a lot of work in Africa and in Tanzania specifically and and my wife was there and so we’re in the car and I’m driving and I’m driving along and I’m not wearing a shirt because it’s Africa.

Okay, it’s very hot and I’m not wearing a shirt and I come around the corner and there’s a policeman there with his car and he waves me down and he said scuse me. Can I see your driver’s license please.

So I show my driver’s license and he goes in Tanzania. It’S against the law to drive the car. Without your cert shirt. I’Ve been in Tanzania like several times: I’ve climbed Kilimanjaro seven times, and I’ve been in that country to not climb the mountain.

I’Ve been there. It is not illegal to drive without your shirt on okay, but I know what’s going I go, I don’t think it’s illegal to drive without your shirt on here. He goes yes, it is. This is a Muslim country and I said well well at this point in my head: I’m like no, it’s not a Muslim countries and savart is a Muslim area within a larger country that has a non-denominational approach to language and religion.

So no, I chose not to say that to him and and and he says well, you’re gonna have to pay a fine, and I said fine, I’m okay with that and I’m not gonna pay a bribe, that’s what he wants. He wants a bribe and I won’t do that.

I’M not gonna pay him a bribe, so he goes well. You’Ll have to come with me and it turns out that I’m right beside the police station, so we walk over to the police station. Now many of you will know – or some of you might not – that Tanzania used to be Tanganyika and it used to be under German control and, if think about, when it was under German control right like back in those days, you know Doberman, Pinschers and, and that Kind of stuff – and so this building was clearly built back then you could just see it had that Gestapo look about it and I walk into this gestapo building and he takes me into a little room and it’s a Gestapo room.

I walk into the room. It’S concrete and I sit in the chair and there’s a desk and there’s a guy behind the desk, who is wearing a military-style uniform like he has ribbons and medals. I I’m not kidding you and – and I this is all by the way designed to intimidate me.

I sit down and, as I sit down in the chair, I realized that the lamp over here is aimed exactly at where my head is in the chair still left over from when the Gestapo was there. I can, if I listen really carefully to the walls I can hear we have face of getting the ancestor miu right now.

You know, and and this is all by design to freak me out, but I just unfree countable, so I’m just sitting there. I just made that up so so I’m sitting there having this, you know conversation he goes well.

You know you should be respectful and wear your shirt and bla bla. Well yeah. I guess so, but I don’t really think it’s illegal. So I challenge you to write me a ticket and show me how it’s illegal and he’s like.

Well, we maybe we could avoid the whole ticket thing and I go. I think we should avoid the whole ticket thing any goes. Well, maybe you could make it worth. My while to avoid the ticket thing – and I said no write me a ticket, and so we have this little banter and conversation and in outside in the car.

My mom is in the car with a couple, my clients and my wife, and one of the clients goes and they’re freaking out, because you know what, if you haven’t, travelled a lot and and and the guy you’re traveling with just gets hauled away by the police.

In a military uniform, you know you’ve watched CNN, you know what’s coming up, you know something bad, and so so they turn to my wife to my mom and they go missus head meets, which she hates cuz, like she changed her name back after the divorce.

So Jan mrs. head means drives her crazy, mrs. head means, are you worried about Eric and she just said she’s in the passenger seat of the car and she goes nope. I’M I’m worried about the cops and true to form true to form about four minutes later.

I walk out both cops with me. The one cop comes up opens the door. For me, no kidding opens the door for me, I get in, he closes the door and then he hands me a hand-drawn map that he’s made to get me to the spice market.

No fine, no bribe because I was comfortable to communicate being comfortable to communicate, is your right. It is your right, and so one of the ways that you become comfortable with it is recognizing you’re already comfortable with it.

You are you just forget every now and again here’s one of the ways you remind yourself: it’s called alcohol, isn’t it I mean I’ll, tell you I’m not a super big fan of alcohol myself. I haven’t had alcohol since I was 21 years old.

I have no judgement about people having alcohol. In fact, some of my friends are much better people after one drink, you know they just they’re more fun, but the fact is what happens is when we drink alcohol.

Our inhibitions are reduced somewhat and – and I remember seeing this commercial, it was actually a radio commercial. So I didn’t see it. I heard it, it was a radio commercial in Canada and what they did is they had the sounds from a party full of eight-year-olds, and then they had me and you should hear the eight-year-olds ten-year olds they’re.

You know partying and doing their thing and then it’s sound with adults having a party as well, and you could hear the difference – it’s a big difference. Then they said now. Here’S the 8 year olds after the cake and the sugar and the ice cream, where the 8 year olds different completely.

It went like nuclear bomb, aha, you’re yelling and there you can hear it, it’s just incredible and then they said and now here’s the party with the adults after four bottles of wine and soon buy them, and what you could not tell the difference between was the Children and the adults, the children on the sugar and the adults on the alcohol, you couldn’t tell the difference between the sound.

The pitch was slightly different, but everything else was the same. Now, what’s happening is that when we drink alcohol, it’s like it gives us permission to be a little louder than we normally are, or a little quieter than we normally are, or a little bit more ver and use bigger hand.

Is it true, so what I’m saying to you is that you are already a good communicator, but sometimes we need a rule or a mechanism or a chemical to help us get that out and, and so what I want to suggest you is is, it doesn’t have To be that way, and – and you can watch this like at our workshops – you’ll see me – do this I’ll – have somebody up on stage and they’re delivering like an adult.

I would like to tell you a story about the time that I went to Disneyland and they’re. Just talking like that, and I go stop for a minute tell the story like the audience is full of 12 year olds. What do they do on the stage they go? I’D like to tell you this story about the time I went they.

They know what to do. They know what to do. They start using their full vocal range, and so I want to share with you what that looks like there. There are some different, like communication frequencies in our population, so there are some people that are largely more visual in the way they communicate they’re, largely more visual.

So what does this mean? It means really that they think in pictures and a picture is worth a thousand words, so they thought they talked quite quickly because they got to get all the pictures out, and so visual people tend to talk really quickly and loudly, and they speak like this.

There are some speakers that are quite known for being very visual. Anybody have any names now, if you, if you want to create massive action in your life, you have to make a decision and then once you’ve made the decision, you have to take action and once you’ve taken action, you got to check the results and if you’re, Not getting the results, you want change your approach.

There are other speakers that are more auditory. They have a more steady tone. They talk with a predictable cadence. They speak in a way that is quite pleasant to listen to for a short period of time, but is also somewhat hypnotic.

They use words like sound, listen to me, I’d like to share you know they have this kind of different energy about them. Then you’ve got another group of people that are a lot more kinesthetic in their delivery or feeling centered, and they they talk really quietly and they use long pauses.

They give you time to process the things they’ve said they use words like feeling and warmth in connection. Those are the visual people, that’s driving them crazy. So the fact is that all of those ranges – and if you really look back at everything that I’ve done so far today, I’ve used all of them.

I’Ve used all of them and yet most speakers will come out and they will deliver their talk right here good evening, ladies and gentlemen and fellow Toastmasters, I’m going to continue to speak like this for another hour and a half, and as I continue to speak like This I’d, like you to know that the cabin me deep pressure, deep pressure is in the event that the cabin depressurizes oxygen masks will drop from the ceiling, so these people louder faster.

These people more cadence, more predictability, better pronunciation, these people, soft long pauses, these people use words like vision, destiny, see it done. These people are crazy, they say stuff. I can’t you see what I’m saying: no you’re, not a cartoon right and these people here they use words like listen that clicks.

For me, I, like the sound of that that that resonates, and then these people they talk about it’s in my gut. I feel really warm. Is it true, but here’s. The great thing is that your audience has all of those people in it, and it’s not that there’s thirty.

Thirty percent. Thirty percent. Thirty percent – it’s not like that. That’S the way it’s taught very often if you’ve studied neuro linguistic programming or psychology they’ll often teach that there are some people that are like this and there’s some people.

No don’t do that. It’S a thermostat, it’s a thermostatic range. So there’s some people that are here and here and here and here and here all the way up – your whole audience is made up of these people, and I learned this because I’ll tell you it’s not just useful on stage it’s useful in your entire life.

The first time I learned it, I was 22 years old and I was in another category just slightly above this called global thermonuclear visual. It made Tony Robbins, look very quiet. I was so fast and so excited about everything, and I was always a silly.

I was like this, I was terrified to be on stage, but in my friend my friends I was nuclear visual and then I went off and I learned this stuff and I was in sales and I was on telesales and I would pick up the phone and I’D call people go hi.

This is Eric. I’M gonna sell you some stuff today and – and I did very well – I had the highest call levels. Our company, I had the highest closing average of our company. I was the best in our company consistently and then one day I learned this stuff and I sat down to my desk and I was ready to make more calls than I’ve ever made before the average sales person our company was making 35 calls a day.

I was making 50 a day who was making the most money me, but I had made a commitment to get to 75 a day. Now I not gonna have a moment of peace. I was gonna make calls every second and I went down and I went to make my first call.

I picked up the phone and there’s Maryland and I’m going ah damn it. I don’t want her to be the first call today. Woman never takes my call. Never returns my call, but we didn’t come here for this to be easy.

Did we did any of you come into this life for it to be easy? Cuz III want to just put to you that sometimes you want it to be easier, but if video games are any easier people stop playing them if books are any easier, you wouldn’t read them, and I just want to put you that the next time, your life’s A little difficult you should rejoice in that because you came here for that.

Didn’T you well I’ll, prove it to you how many you’ve ever had that break up. You know the one, the really soul-destroying break up who’s had the soul-destroying crying awful break up. What kind of music did you listen to? Okay, you came here because it’s delicious, even the pain, is delicious.

That’S why we listen to that so glad you made it. I will just sit here in Brazil. Just leave. We like it! Okay. Where was I going with that? Marilyn Marilyn? I actually did forget that time. You got me Marilyn, and so I pick up the phone and I call Marilyn I’m gonna break through I’m gonna get through my, I think, I’m throwing gggggg cuz Millennials back then we had to press buttons and and before that we actually had to dial You, you might not know this when we talk about dialing, a phone number, it’s cuz.

We used to have to dial you anyway, so I I press the button and then Marilyn does not answer the phone because she never does, but her voicemail comes on. This is Marilyn and I’m not here to take your call, but if you feel like it you you can leave a message.

You know after the beep I’m going be hey Marilyn. This is it that’s not what I learned and I delete the message. I put the phone down I step back from the desk. That is not what I learned that it’s not what I learned.

That is not what I learned. Okay, I know what I learned: , softly pressing the buttons hi. This is Marilyn.

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How To Become A Master In The Art of Public Speaking (Part 1 of 2) | Eric Edmeades

I want to tell you something real quick before we jump in. A friend of mine called me in the middle of a speaking tour that I was doing in Europe, and said, “Eric, you need to come to Poland. “There’s a big marketing conference, “and they need you to come and speak as a favor.

” And I said, “I’m on a tour, I don’t have any time at all.” And they said, “Well, do you have any days off?” And I said, “Well I have one day off just to recharge “my batteries, but I’m speaking every single day.

” And they said, “Well, what’s the day off you have?” And I said, “It’s this day.” And they go, “Well, that’s the day they want you to come.” And I said, “No.” I said, “No, problem.” “It’s a problem, I’m not doing it.

” And then another friend of mine called me, and he turned out to be doing some consulting work for the same marketing company. And he called me and said, “Eric, they really need you “to be there, would you do it as a personal favor to me?” So now I have two of my friends asking me to do them a favor to go to this event in Poland, and I’m not interested in doing it.

But now two friends have asked me, I agree to do it. So I fly off to Poland, I get to the airport. I get to my hotel, and they tell me that a car is going to come pick me up at my hotel. And when the car picks me up at the hotel, it’ll take me to the conference center.

I’m supposed to be on stage at 12:00, and they tell me the car’s going to pick me up at 11:00. That’s not ideal. It’s not ideal, but look, they’re running the show, I do what they tell me. The car comes to pick me up at 11:00, but they don’t send a car, you understand.

They don’t send like a car, they send a taxi. Now, I’m not snobby, I’m okay to go in a taxi, the trouble is is that the taxi, when we get there, doesn’t know where to take me. So we get to the conference center, and it’s one of these giant conference centers where there’s halls.

And some of the halls are bigger than this entire building, and I don’t know which hall even I have to go to. And it takes us about 35 minutes to get there. So now I have to be on stage in like 20 minutes, and the taxi just drops me.

And it’s like, it could be a 20 minute walk away, I just don’t know. And so I’m running around, trying to figure this out, thinking, “Why did I do this favor for my friends? “I should be relaxing right now.

“I should be recharging my batteries. “I should be putting on my own oxygen mask.” Is that true? – [Audience] Yes. – Absolutely. So I finally find the hall, I run in. I find the hall, I run in, and there’s a registration area.

And the registration area says like, regular tickets, VIP tickets, and speakers. So which lineup should I go to? – [Audience] Speakers. – Clearly. But I go to that lineup, there’s nobody in it, but there’s nobody working at that part of the table.

So the woman who’s right there working at the VIP section, I say, “Hi, I’m a speaker, I need to register.” She goes, “Oh, that person’s on a break, “just join the line for the VIPs.” Well, there’s like six people in that line, and I’ve been watching her, and it takes her about four minutes per person to register them.

I go, “Okay, I can do that, but it’s taking you “four minutes per person to register. “And that’s going to take you 24 minutes, “and I’m supposed to be on stage in eight minutes. “What do you think we should do?” She goes, “Maybe I should register you right now.

” So she registers me, and then gets a woman to come over. And the woman comes over to take me to the main hall where the conference is. We get over there, I have to pretty much walk onto the stage. We get into the room, it’s this huge theater-style room with the elevated seating, and the control booths at the top with people in them.

But the one thing was missing. The audience. There was like nobody in there, there was like 12 or 15 people. And by the way, were they all sitting right here? – [Audience] No. – No! Two over there, one over there, one more over there.

Like, they’re scattered around. And I turn, and I go, “Where are the people? “I’m here doing you a favor, where are the people?” And she goes, “Oh, they’re expecting you, “they’ll walk in once you get started.

” I’m like, “Really?” And I know that they have all the networking area, and the display booths. There are people out there, there’s 1,200 people there, but they’re not in here. And I go, “Well, when did the conference start? “The speaking part.

” And she says, “This morning.” I said, “Oh, are we on a break right now?” And she goes, “No, it’s happening right now. “There’s a woman on the stage.” I’m standing down here, and there’s the stage, it’s much higher.

And that’s the first moment I look up, and that’s the moment I realize that there’s a woman on the stage speaking. I’ve been in the room for five minutes, and I couldn’t even notice, and neither could the 15 people.

The 15 people are checking on Facebook, they’re looking for the bottom of the Facebook wall. Have any of you found it? Anybody? They’re looking. They’re looking for it. They’re going to injure their thumb looking for the bottom of the Facebook wall.

And so that’s when I realized that the woman is on the stage, and I’m going, “There’s 15 people, I want to leave. “I do not want to be here, I’m doing these people a favor. “I’m not charging a fee. “I don’t have programs and stuff in Poland to be marketing.

“I’m really there as a favor, and I just want to go.” But I’ve agreed to be there, so I’m going to go, I go, “Well, where’s the microphone?” I’m scheduled to speak for three and a half hours, and I’m frustrated.

And I go, “Okay, where’s the microphone?” And she goes, “It’s the guy over there.” Now, the room was much bigger than this room, much wider, and the guy with the microphone was way over at the other side of the room.

And I go, “Well, don’t you think “we should get the microphone on?” And she goes, “Yeah, yeah.” And as I say that, this woman finishes. Nobody claps, because they didn’t know she started. And then the MC goes up and starts reading out my introduction.

I don’t have a microphone. She says, “Yeah, the guy is coming. “He’s on his way.” And now, have any of you climbed Kilimanjaro? Anybody? Yeah, you will know the word. It means slowly. This is the way that you walk up Kilimanjaro.

And this is the way the microphone guy is walking. And I’m way over there, there’s no way he’s going to get to me in time. And as he gets to about here, the woman goes, “And please welcome to the stage Eric Edmeades.

” Nobody claps, ’cause they couldn’t barely hear her. And I have no microphone, so I have to grab the handheld microphone, jump up on the stage. And I walk out, and I look around the audience, and I cannot believe I’m here.

For the first time in my speaking career, I am dreading being onstage. I don’t want to be there, I just want to go to my hotel room, have a nice bath, relax, read a book, not be here. And I look out at these 15 people, and I’m standing there looking at them, they’re looking at me, and we’re all wondering what’s going to happen.

And I suddenly think to myself, what would I do if one of my clients, one of my students asked me what to do in this situation? What if one of my students was on the stage, they took out their phone, and they go, “Eric, I’m on stage, and this is everything that’s happened, “and I don’t know what to do right now.

” And I would know exactly what to do. I go, “I know what I’d tell them to do, “but I’m not doing it.” I’m not doing it. And then I thought, “Oh god, that’s not who I am as a teacher.” I really try to practice what I preach, so if I think they should do it, I’m going to have to do it.

And I stop, and I go, “All right, guys.” By the way, a handheld microphone! How much does one of those things weigh? It depends on how long you have to hold it for. Three and a half hours, the thing gets pretty heavy, so I’m starting, oh, I can’t believe this.

And I go, “All right. “I think that in order for me to help you, “I’m going to have to prove to you that I know “something about marketing. “You came here to learn about marketing, “and there’s nobody in the room.

“That doesn’t say good things about me, does it?” Do I have their attention at this point? Yeah. They’re kind of going, “Wow, that’s an interesting thing to say.” And I go, “And I think the only way “that I’m going to be able to get you to hear “the important information that I have for you today “is if I can get this room full of people.

“If I can get this room full of people, “then you’ll probably pay attention for the whole “three and a half hours, isn’t that true?” Are they intrigued now? – [Audience] Yeah. – So I’m like, “So, I’m going to do that, “and you’re going to help me.

” And they’re like, “What?” And I said, “This is what’s going to happen. “In a moment I’m going to count. “I’m going to count down from three, and when I get to one, “you’re all going to jump up.” By this point, there’s now about 25 people in 1,200 seats.

And I go, “I’m going to count from three down to one, “and when I get to one, you’ll all going to jump up, “and you’re all going to clap, and laugh, and scream “really loudly, and then the people will come in.

” “And here’s the thing, I know some of you are thinking, “I’m not doing that. “And the reason you’re thinking I’m not doing that, “is that you think you’re going to look stupid. “But the problem is, the other 14, 15, 20, whatever.

“The other people are going to do it. “So when you don’t do it, you’re going to look stupid. “Are you ready,” I said. And they said, “Yes.” And I said, “All right, now.” The reason I’m telling you this, is there’s some people out there that think that the phone call they’re on right now.

They think that the conversation they’re having about the Guns N’ Roses concert is more important than what’s happening in this room, and I’m telling you that it’s not. And so when I count down from three to one, we’re going to do the exact same thing.

Does that sound good? – [Audience] Yes! – All right. I walked up in front, and I said, “Let’s do it.” One, or sorry, three, two, one, go. Oh my god, that’s incredible! Oh, it’s so funny! You guys, that’s amazing! Holy cow, I can’t believe it! I don’t even know what to think of it! That’s so amazing! All right, we’ll see if we got their attention.

So are you guys ready for some fun? – [Audience] Yeah! – Awesome. I am about to share with you one of my favorite things in the whole world to share with you. I have devoted this part of my life to giving people the gifts that I believe are the most valuable in the world.

I have been honored over the last three weeks that we’ve been here in Tallinn to have people walking up to me all the time and telling me the stories about how their life has been transformed from a health perspective.

People are telling me about the weight that they’ve lost and the pain and symptoms that are gone. That their children have even. I’ve had people come up to me and go, “After a month of watching your videos “every single day, my kids started getting curious.

“And now they want to change their food habits,” and so on. And I think one of the greatest gifts in the world you can give anybody is their relationship with food, is that true? – [Audience] Yes! – And you know who’s trying to take away your relationship with food the entire time? The food industry.

And so that’s my job is to undo what they’re doing, and I love doing it. And one of the other gifts that I really love to give people is the gift of communication. The gift of being able to communicate your thoughts effectively, persuasively, influentially.

And the challenge is, is that our society has done everything it can, not on purpose, just the way it is to train that out of us. And I think that that makes life a lot harder to live. I think some of you find yourselves having a intense conversation or a negotiation.

And every now and again, you walk away from that conversation and you think to yourself afterward, “I wish I’d said this.” Who’s had that feeling? I’d like it to go away. I’d like you to not have that feeling.

I’d like you to say the things that you want to say. I’d like you to express yourself the way you want to express yourself. I suspect that if you do that, it will change your relationship with you. It will change your significant relationships, your romantic relationships.

It’ll change your relationships with your parents, it’ll change your relationships professionally. It’ll change everything. And for those of you who are interested in getting an incredible professional advantage, I’m talking the biggest professional or business advantage possible, what we’re going to do today is going to be unbelievably valuable.

And I’m going to give you some of the sort of theory and science behind this. Now, this is going to be shocking for some of you, especially those of you that are younger. There was a time before the internet.

I know, I know. And then this will be even more shocking to some of you that are a little older than that. There was a time before television. Can you imagine? What did families do? They sat around the radio.

No kidding, families used to sit around the radio. And so what’s really shocking is there was even a time before the radio. And what did families do then? They sat around the fire. They sat around the fire, and I have been privileged to sit around that exact fire.

And what I mean by that, is that in my research for WildFit, I have had numerous visits with the Hadza bushmen. And the Hadza bushmen live very much the way most of our ancestors did for most of our history.

And they sit around the fire. And I want you to think about something. If you’re sitting around my fire 100,000 years ago and I share a story with you. I share a story with you, and it’s entertaining, and it’s engaging, and it makes you think, and maybe it makes you laugh.

But in that story, I tell you about the time that these big white rhinos tried to kill me. ‘Cause they really did. I’m not kidding you, it really happened to me. And I’m standing there, and these big white rhinos are running toward me.

And what I knew about white rhinos is that they don’t have good eyesight. In fact, they barely can see. They can smell and they can hear. And so the reason they were running toward me is that they could smell me.

And I knew as they were running toward me, and let me tell you something. Rhinos are bigger than you think. Have any of you guys been in that cafe with the big white rhino head on the wall? That is to scale.

That is what a big male white rhino, that’s the size of its head. Then you add the body. And they’re way faster than you would think. And when two of them are running toward you, this is basically how it feels in your feet.

They’re running toward you, and you’re doing this. Because they’re shaking the ground. What does every inch of my being want to do when they’re running toward me? – [Audience] Run. – Run. But I know that if I run, they’re going to hear my footsteps and that’s going to give them the ability to follow me.

And if I let them follow me with those big horns, I’m going to get some interesting piercings. Not good, right? And so instead of running, I stood there and stared them down, and waited. And they got about 15 feet from me, and they stopped.

And they turned around and walked back into the bush, and then they got curious again when the wind shifted direction, they came running again at me. And then they got about 10 feet, three meters, and then they stopped again, and they walked away.

If I had run, I would be dead today, or certainly I would have interesting piercings, one way or the other. And so imagine that we’re sitting around the fire and I share that story with you. And a week later, you’re off in the bush picking berries, doing whatever you want to be doing, and two white rhinos come running at you.

And you suddenly remember, “Oh my god, I’m supposed to just stand still.” And you stand still, and it saves your life. Who’s fire do you want to sit around for the rest of your life? Do you understand? This is why we have this thing called the stage effect.

For millions of years, your survival and your ability to thrive was completely dependent upon the stories being told around your campfire. It was the most valuable thing there was. Nothing could be more valuable than you sitting around the fire and hearing these stories.

And you started listening to these stories when you were two and three years old. And by the way, can two year olds understand, even though they can’t speak? Can they understand? – [Audience] Yeah. – Everything! They understand everything.

The other day I’ve got my little girl here in town with me, and my little boy, who’s not so little. My boy is 20 years old, and my little girl is two years old. And so they don’t get to spend much time with each other, and so they’re hanging out.

And I go to Zoe, I go, “Zoe, do you love Daniel?” And she goes. And I go, “Daniel’s your brother.” And she goes. And I go, “That means Daniel, that I’m Daniel’s daddy too.” And she goes. She understands it all.

And so we’re sitting around the fire listening to these stories, and they are making it possible for us to survive the most difficult circumstances, and they’re making it possible for us to thrive in the most difficult circumstances.

And so our DNA loves stories. That’s why Hollywood will spend $200 million making, do you understand that? Think about that. They will spend $200 million creating a story and they won’t begin to see any revenue on that story until after the $200 million is spent.

It’s risky, but they know that we like stories. We like stories because it is the primary operating system of the body. And once you begin to recognize that stories are the best way to write information in, then you can look at history and recognize that it’s completely true.

Every great revolution, every great revolution whether it’s a political revolution, a war uprising, a technological revolution, has been preceded by great speeches and great oration. I remember reading that President Roosevelt was trying to pass some legislation through the U.

S. Congress, and none of the congressmen would vote for this, because it had to do with changing their lives. It was legislation about congressmen, and they didn’t want to change it. He was getting nowhere.

And then he recognized that the world had changed and he could speak directly to the people. Radio, town halls, and so he started doing that. He started giving speeches. And do you know what’s amazing? Is when they put that legislation in front of congress, it passed with only three dissenting votes, because he’d gone directly to the people.

Speaking is one of the most powerful things we can create in the world. And by the way, can powerful things be used for both good and bad? – [Audience] Yes. – Adolf Hitler gave 8,000 speeches. He knew exactly what he was doing.

He wrote in his book, “Mein Kampf” many years before World War II. He wrote in that book, essentially, that the microphone was more powerful than the pen. That speaking was more powerful than writing.

That if you really wanted to stimulate people, if you really wanted to change their hearts and minds, you did it with great stories, you did it with great speeches. Speaking is one of the most powerful forces there is in our society.

It creates an advantage in business and your professional life that is far past any other advantage. Here, let’s test out a few things. Are you aware that in American corporate world, and I imagine this is probably fairly consistent in the westernized, civilized, corporate world.

In the American corporate world, people make slightly more money for each inch they are taller. Did you know that? They actually make slightly more money. They’re more inclined to get the promotion, they’re more inclined to make the sale.

slightly more taller. And then by the way, is there a gender pay gap issue? – [Audience] Yes. – Yes. And so there are all kinds of little tweaks in our society that are little optimizations. The gender pay gap, how big is that these days they say? They say it’s about 10%.

It’s about 10%. But if you remove the fact that for example, it came out. Do you guys know that Uber, Uber pays male drivers more than they pay female drivers. – [Woman In Audience] What? – Yeah. Okay, this is a way statistics lie.

Female drivers choose not to drive as many hours and they choose not to drive during peak hours, and they choose not to drive in dangerous neighborhoods. And so Uber doesn’t pay them any less. Uber pays them exactly the same, they choose to do things differently.

Women choose not to take jobs where they die. Men die in the workforce something like seven times more often than women do. And so when you remove all that stuff, the gender pay gap closes a little. It’s still there, but it closes a little, does that make sense? But these tiny little professional advantages that height, or maleness, or whatever, they’re tiny.

But the most massive, massive advantage you can give yourself in the corporate world and in the entrepreneur space is to be able to speak. If an inch of extra height can make you 0.01% more income, being a speaker, being comfortable sharing your ideas, being influential in the way you communicate can triple or more your income.

It obliterates all other advantages. It is the most powerful thing you can do for your professional life. The problem is, we don’t. Because we’re afraid. And the crazy part of it is, not one of you was born afraid.

Not one of you. Now, because I understand this whole fear, what we did before you guys came in here this morning is we took 15 envelopes. 15 envelopes and we wrote in those envelopes a few words, a couple of questions.

One envelope, one word, one question, and then we stuck those envelopes under, don’t check. We stuck the envelopes underneath the chairs, and don’t think we didn’t notice the beanbags. We stuck them underneath.

And in a minute, when I say go, you’re going to check underneath the chair, or underneath the beanbag, and you’re going to see if you got an envelope. If you got an envelope, I want you to check in with what happens in your body, and here’s why.

Because if you got the envelope, you must not open it. You will simply stand up, you will walk over here, you will come up on the stage. And then I’m going to have a handheld microphone, and I’m going to hand you the handheld microphone, and then you’re going to tear the envelope open, and you’re going to see the word or the question, and you’re going to speak for three minutes about that topic in front of this audience.

– [Woman In Audience] That’s awesome! – I will tell you that some of the words, one of the words is orgasm. Another word that’s in there is Brexit. Another word that’s in there, Donald Trump. So, who’s ready? Go ahead and check.

Okay stop it, there are no envelopes. Now, the reason I do that, did you find an envelope? I do sometimes have envelopes, so they might be stuck under there. The reason I did that, is there were a different, there were a variety of different emotions that came up in the room.

Now, I want a totally honest answer here, please don’t worry about looking good. I want a totally honest answer. There were a few people in this room that were absolutely, genuinely excited about this idea.

Who were they? Wow, welcome to Mindvalley University, ’cause it is not like that out in the rest of the world. That was a good 15% of the room. In the rest of the world, in a room of this size, it would be one or two people, and they would almost always be one of my clients.

It’s how it is. It’s how it is. How many people were like a little excited, but also your stomach was doing a little back flip thing routine, okay? All right. And how many were thinking, “I’m not the least bit excited, “and I feel like I might actually vomit.

” Who was in the category? And then how many of you were thinking, “Please no! “No envelope! “I won’t do it!” Anybody? And then there was a couple of you that thought, “If there’s an envelope, I’m not pulling it out.

” I know. And so what I want you to know is that I used to be in the category of that if I was sitting there in that chair and I found, and I reached under, and I touched an envelope, I would have immediately pulled my hand back and pretended I didn’t have an envelope, I kid you not.

I was so terrified of public speaking that if you called me on a Friday. If you called me on a Friday and you asked me to do a talk, no. If you called me on Monday, and you asked me to a talk on Friday, I would absolutely have said no.

Without question, I don’t care what the topic, how big the audience was, I would have said no. And when I said no, I would then have started feeling sick. And I would have continued to feel sick on Tuesday, and Wednesday, and on Thursday, and I would have woken up on Friday morning feeling sick, and I said no.

I don’t even want to think what would have happened if I said yes. That’s how terrified I was. But you know what’s so important about this? Not one person in this room was born afraid of communicating.

Not one person in this room was born afraid of public speaking, nobody. No matter how fearful you are of it today, no matter how nervous you might get about it today, not one person in this room was born afraid of public speaking, nobody.

It’s really important for you to understand that. Can you imagine what would happen if a baby came out afraid of public speaking? How would it ever get its diaper changed? How would it get food? What happens is, at first when babies are born, we are so thrilled by their noises, aren’t we? Baby noises, aren’t they incredible? I get home, if I miss Zoe’s bedtime.

Like if I miss it occasionally, I come home and she’s already in bed, I want to go wake her up. You can imagine my wife’s reaction when I say that. I go, “I’m going to go wake.” I will never go wake her up.

“I’m going to go wake her up.” “No!” But you know, in the morning now when she wakes up, she wakes up and immediately she starts talking. And she talks in some strange mix of English and Spanish, and now Estonian.

And it’s beautiful, and we love it, and most parents do. But then there comes a point in time, after the age of three and four, where the talking isn’t so great. Where you’re on a plane, and the child is being too loud, and that’s where you’re trying to go.

Indoor voice. Think before you speak. Children should be seen and not heard. And it begins. And almost every person in this room was subjected to at least some of this stuff when they were a kid. And that’s where your apprehension of communicating, that’s where your apprehension of speaking came from.

Because social conditioning started putting a cocoon around you and started telling you to control yourself. To not be so excited. Is it true? – [Audience] Yes. – And then we continue to live with that fear, we continue to live with that.

And then it gets even worse, because we go to school, and one of the things that teachers forget. Teachers forget what it’s like to think like a child. They do. Look guys, when children are born, they have no meanings.

They don’t know what stuff means. And so their entire job for the rest of their life is to assess meanings. Oh, I have pain in my stomach from hunger, and when I cry, I get fed. Look at that, when I cry, somebody sticks a boob in my mouth.

Wait a minute, why did I stop doing that? Anyway. But the fact is that children make a meaning. They make a meaning and then they continue to make more meanings. And the problem is, is that some of the meanings that we make when we’re children, they become rules that we then keep.

I spoke to the teens on the teen track here at Mindvalley University. I spoke to the teens, I told them a really embarrassing story. I’m going to share it with you. One day I was eating an apple. I was eating this apple, I was about six years old, and then I decided that I needed to use the washroom.

So I went into the washroom in our house. Went in, closed the door, put the apple up on the shelf. Went in and did my business, I won’t act that part. Finished up. Flushed, washed hands. Grab the apple, took a bite, opened the door and walked out, and my mom was standing there.

Now think about this from my mother’s perspective. All she heard was toilet flush, and son walking out with apple in his hand that he was eating while he was in the bathroom. How does my mom feel about this? Not good, right? So my mom goes, “Eric, you can’t do that?” And I said, “What?” She goes, “You can’t eat an apple in the bathroom?” And I said, “Why not?” She goes, “It’s dangerous.

” And then she got distracted, and went off and did mom stuff, and I’m sitting there with it’s dangerous. Why is it dangerous? And this was when I was six, so this was a few years BG. Before Google. And so I couldn’t go, why is eating an apple while you go the toilet dangerous? I couldn’t do that.

The question was just in my head, and do you remember? Back in the days before you could just ask the universe for the question, did you ever have that thing where you had a question bouncing around in your head, bouncing around, and it’s like the rest of your life kind of got filtered through that question? That’s what happened to me.

And so I was sitting out with some friends one day, and we’re in a restaurant. And we have the straws, you’re drinking out of a straw, and we were doing like kids do where you block off the top of the straw and you pull the liquid up, and then you drop the liquid in, right? It’s physics, basic physics, it’s fun.

And then I was doing it, and suddenly I was like. Oh wait. If you block off the bottom of the straw, the liquid won’t come out. If you block off the bottom and the top, the liquid won’t come out. If you block off the top, but you open the bottom, that’s the bizarre part, right? You block off the top, then it won’t run out the bottom, maybe we’re the same.

Maybe the danger is that if you swallow and open the top at the same time that you poop and open the bottom, you just fall out. I figured it out. She’s right, it’s bloody dangerous. I won’t be doing that again.

I’m telling you, for months after that I could be chewing gum, just chewing gum, and I go to the bathroom, oh, get rid of that gum. Wouldn’t want to have an accident where I slipped out of myself. And so children are doing stuff like that all the time, is it true? And so we forget that.

And so you’re in a class and you’re teaching, if you’re a teacher, and you want to teach the children a bunch of things. You want to teach them the curriculum, but you also want to teach them how to learn.

Is it true? – [Audience] Yeah. – And so you’re teaching the class and you recognize that one of the students, JB, is just not paying attention. All distracted by her recent nuptials. She’s just not paying any attention to my class, and so how am I going to teach her the lesson to pay attention? How am I going to teach her? I’m going to call on her.

You see, what I’m going to do, is I’m going to teach something. Like I’m going to teach the great story of the war of 1812. Most of you that are from America have no idea about this war, but this is where America decided to invade Canada and take over.

They invaded Canada with numbers seven to one. Seven to one they invaded Canada, and by the way, Canada burnt the White House. Did you hear Donald Trump talking about this recently? The war did not go so well for the United States, and I could teach you all about how they invaded Canada in the war of 1812.

And then at some point during the lesson, I am as the teacher going to go, “I have some questions. “When did the war of 1812 happen?” And a number of students are going to raise their hands. Which students are going to raise their hands? The ones that have been paying attention and know the answer.

Teachers will typically not call on the children that have raised their hands. Teachers when they ask you a question like that, it’s just a poll. They just want to know how many of you got it. And so if you raise your hand, they know you got it.

If you don’t raise your hand, you’re asking for trouble. I figured this out young, I taught the kids this, by the way. I taught them a trick I had in school, I’ll teach it to you. I went to school and I hated that, I didn’t like school very much, because I would typically pick stuff up on the first pass, and do teachers stop on the first pass? No, they teach it again, and again, and again, and it would drive me crazy, so I got into meditating.

They called it daydreaming, now I know it’s meditating. But I got into meditating and I would be doodling and meditating out the window. And then the teacher would call on me, and I didn’t hear anything, and then I would feel like an idiot.

And I would feel stupid. And so I learned that if you do this in September you can give yourself freedom for the rest of the year. What you do in September is you pretend to meditate. You pretend to daydream, you pretend that you’re not paying any attention.

You doodle, but you’re really listening. And then she goes, “What is H2O?” And you don’t raise your hand. You pretend you’re not paying any attention. And then she goes, “Eric!” And you go, “Water!” You just do that two or three times in September, you’re free for the rest of the year.

Free pass. Now the trouble is, is that when children do this, or sorry, when teachers do this, what they’re trying to do is teach JB the lesson. They’re going, “When was the war of 1812?” JB doesn’t raise her hand.

“JB, when was the war of 1812?” JB wasn’t paying attention. Now, in that moment, is she maybe going to get startled? If she gets startled, what kind of chemicals is her body going to produce? Cortisol, adrenaline even.

And if she produced cortisol and adrenaline, here’s something that a lot of people don’t talk about, but the minute you start producing cortisol and adrenaline, you step back in time in your brain. You go to the more primitive parts of Your brain.

The more scared you are, the more primitive you go. The idea is is if you’re scared, you become pessimistic. It’s safer that way. You see, if you’re walking along in Africa, and you suddenly see some lion tracks, that’ll startle you.

Tell me, it’s happened to me, it’ll definitely startle you. And in that moment, every rock that could be a lion starts looking like a lion, is that true? Is that safer than mistaking a lion for a rock? Of course it is.

And so when we have some adrenaline and cortisol, we become slightly more pessimistic and we lose touch with our proper brain. And so in that moment, even if she knew when the war of 1812 started, the answer is in the question after all, she might not know it.

Is that possible? And so I go, “JB, when was the war of 1812?” And she’s like, “1814?” And now she’s just done something called public speaking in front of one of the most difficult audiences in the world, children.

Children are the toughest audience ever. Children are not nice. Come on, I’m not talking about your kids. I’m not talking about my kids, I’m talking about the rest of them. They’re not nice! When are JB’s classmates going to remember, or when are they going to forget that she made this mistake? When? Never! JB goes off to Palo Alto, she starts the next big dot-com company, she’s a billionaire.

She flies to her 25th anniversary, high school anniversary. She arrives in a private jet, limousine picks her up. She’s got all the jewelry, and the cool stuff, and the great clothes. And she shows up at her reunion, and she walks in the door, and they go, “Look guys, it’s 1814!” ‘Cause they’re never going to forget, but the real problem is that the teacher intended to teach JB the lesson, pay attention in my class! But the lesson JB got that day was, public speaking is freaking terrifying! And for the rest of her life, maybe, she’s nervous every time somebody hands her a microphone, every time somebody asks her to do a toast, or prepare a conversation.

And this is what’s happened to so many of you as well at various points. I will tell you that I was so, so terrified that it would make me sick to even think about speaking. But the transition I’ve gone through over the last 20 years has completely changed my life, because of the stage effect.

I’m going to share some things with you. When I was 15 years old, I was homeless. And when I say homeless, I should point out that I was living in a place called Edmonton. And it was winter. Now, some of you live in places that you think of as cold, but you’ve not been to Edmonton.

I will tell you that in Edmonton in the winter time it is absolutely routine for it to be minus 20 degrees, minus 40 degrees. And for those of you that are Americans that are wondering what that means in Fahrenheit, minus 40 is the same in both.

It means fatally cold. And if I look at my life from that starting point, if I look at my life from being a homeless teenager on the streets of Edmonton, Alberta, to the things that I’ve achieved in my life since, and I’ll give you some examples, some of you know.

I was invited one day to do a tour of the original Industrial Light & Magic movie studios. For those of you who are not familiar with Industrial Light & Magic, it is the special effects shop that George Lucas created to make Star Wars.

And one day I was offered a chance to go do a tour of these studios. And when I got there, I found out some interesting things, that George Lucas had sold the studios to some private guys that were running it for about three years, and they weren’t running it very well.

And they were trying to raise money from investors for all kinds of cool movie technology and 3D technology. And I watched one of their investor pitches, and it was atrocious. I mean it was bad. It was the, “Don’t Invest in my Company,” presentation.

It was terrible! And so I’m sitting down with everybody afterward, and I’m not saying anything, ’cause I’m just a friend. I’m just a guest here. And then Gavin, my friend says, “Eric what are your thoughts on the way we should do this?” And I’m like, “Gavin, I don’t want to offer my thoughts.

“I’m not from the movie industry. “I don’t want to do this.” I wasn’t nervous of public speaking, you see, I just didn’t want to crash in on their party. And then they said, “Yeah Eric, what’s your opinion?” And I said, “Do you guys really want the truth? Like, “Do you really want the truth?” And many of you will know this about me.

How many of you have to any of my seminars, anybody? Am I nice? I’m not nice. And what I mean by that is that you might ask me a question, and the first thing I’m going to ask you is, do you really want to know? And so that’s what I said to them, “Do you really want to know?” And they go, “Yeah, we really want to know.

” And I said, “Well, the presentation sucked. “I mean, it was bad. “It was really bad.” And they said, “Why?” And I said, “Well, because of this, “and this, and this, and this.” And then at the end of my talk, I braced myself, ’cause I basically expected them to kick me out.

And they said, “We have another group of investors coming in “this afternoon, would you give the presentation?” No problem. I thought it was a big problem. And I’m not kidding you, two hours later I’m standing on a stage in the George Lucas theater, 140 seating private theater where THX Sound was debuted.

And I’m standing in the seater, and there are investors in there, and I’m giving the pitch. And then the investors at the end of the pitch, here’s what they say, “If we invest, will Eric stay and run the company?” I’m on a tour.

You know when you go to the tours, and they try to make it really realistic? They’ve made this one really realistic. In the end, the investors decided not to invest, and I got talking to my friends. And I went to the owners one day and I said, “Look, I think you guys are in a lot more trouble “than you’re letting on, and here’s my offer.

” And I offered to buy to company, and they said no, and so I flew home, and I was living in The Caribbean, in Turks and Caicos, and I flew home. And I got a phone call almost the minute I walked in my front door, and they said, “Would you come back?” And I said, “Why?” And they go, “‘Cause we want to take your offer.

” And I ended up buying the studio. And the first thing we did after that was work on, “Avatar,” and then we worked on, “Pirates of the Caribbean,” and, “Transformers,” and, “Elysium.” And then from that company we started a really cool company that literally built life-saving technology for the U.

S. Military. We literally saved lives. And that only happened because I had become comfortable with speaking. I got another phone call one day, and they said, “Eric, could you come and do “a talk here in Vancouver, Canada,” and I said, “That’s great, I don’t think I’ve spoke.

“I left Canada when I was in my mid 20s, “and I’d love to come back and do a talk in Canada.” And I gave this talk. And at the end of my talk, the woman says, “Would you come back and do “another talk during the Olympics.

” I’m like, “Sure, that’d be great.” I go home, she calls me a few weeks later, and she goes, “Eric, I need your help “with this event in the Olympics.” I said, “Sure, what do you need?” She goes, “Well, we’re setting up, “it’s the city of Vancouver, and we’re setting up “this host program where our, “every four days of the Olympics, we have a different group “of people coming in from different industries “in the United States.

“So the construction industry, the medical industry, “the legal industry, and so on.” And she says, “The trouble is is that, “we want to get the people from the visual effects “and movie production industry to come, “and we can’t get them to show up.

“We just can’t get them to show up.” And she goes, “Why won’t they come?” And I said, “Oh well, when you’re in the movie industry, “you just get invited to everything. “It’s just the way it is. “It’s the sexy industry, and you get invited to everything, “so pretty soon you learn you have to say no to cool stuff.

” I’ll tell you by the way, one of the coolest ways you can accelerate your manifestation in life, one of the coolest ways that you can accelerate your ability to manifest incredible financial freedom is to become totally okay with celebrating saying no to cool stuff.

FOMO can be one of the single biggest blocks to your manifestation. Fear of missing out can absolutely get in your way of creating an incredible financial future, and I’ll tell you why. Think about Richard Branson who wakes up in the morning, how many things can he do that day? Anything.

He can do anything that day, with who? With anyone. If Richard Branson called any of you in this room, and say, “Hey, do you want to come out with me, “go for a little boat ride, or something, tomorrow?” Who’s going with Richard Branson? He can call anybody at any time and do anything.

But what that also means, is every single day there are 9,000 incredibly cool things that he’s not going to do. And he probably had to get okay with that, because some of you when you have a fear of missing out, it’s painful.

Who feels a little pain when they’re missing out? That pain is something your subconscious mind will do anything it can to avoid. And so that includes holding you back from creating those opportunities in the first place.

So now what you do when you have a fear of missing out is you don’t have a fear of missing out. You have a new thing. It’s the celebration of missing out. I celebrate when I miss out. Just a few weeks ago, we had our first ever WildFest Conference.

We’d set it up, it was done, it was booked, and then I, no kidding, got the invitation to go to Richard Branson’s private game reserve in South Africa and hang out with him. And I had to say no. And you know how I said no? I said, “No, how cool is it that I have to say no to that?” Does this make sense? And so the problem is, these people in the movie industry, they’ve gotten really good at that.

They just say no to all the cool invitations they get. They just say no, they don’t have to do it. And she goes, “But how could we get them to say yes?” And I said, “I’ll tell you. “The only way I can imagine you’re going to get them to say yes “is if you book the last four days.

“You book the last four days of the Olympics “and you get tickets to the closing ceremonies, “’cause it’s the coolest thing. “And you get tickets to the gold medal hockey game.” In Canada and America, this gold medal hockey game was going to be one of the most sought after sporting events in the history of sports for North America.

And the woman said to me, “That is never going to happen. “Never going to happen. “Those tickets are the hottest tickets in the Olympics, “we’re never going to make it happen.” And I said, “I know. “That’s why I said, do you really want to know? “That’s the only way you’re going to make it happen.

” She calls me back two days later and she goes, “We got them.” She goes, “We got a block of tickets, “and we got them in the coolest section, “right there in the club section, we got tickets there. “Will you be there? What was my answer? – [Audience] No.

– Yes, absolutely, I will be there. I wouldn’t even want to say, “No problem,” in case she only heard the first word. Absolutely, I will be there. And then the rest of the industry showed up, because we’d made it so cool.

Then I went to go do a presentation, because that’s why I was there. I gave a presentation, 15 minutes. Not motivation, not inspiration, just boring-ass stuff about the film industry. Just stuff about how the work we did on, “Avatar,” went, and how 3D technology is changing the movie industry.

Nothing exciting. And then all of a sudden, this guy walks up to me, Wu Bo. Chinese guy, from Shanghai. He was one of the producers of the Beijing Olympics. And the way the Olympics work, is that the last city helps the next city produce.

So he was there helping Vancouver produce the Olympics. So he happened to be at my talk. He walks up to me, and he goes, “Eric, that talk was fantastic.” He says, “It’s the best one I’ve seen in the whole program.

” He says, “I’m working on a movie right now, a big feature. “A movie about the Sun Tzu, “Art of War,” scrolls. “And it’s going to be like a $200 million movie. “It’s going to be like Avatar. “And the government has already agreed to fund it, “but they’ve told us that we need to fund “a smaller movie first to prove that we can make one.

” He says, “Do you have any 3D movies “that you would like funding for?” Even if I didn’t, I just go to the bathroom, grab a toilet roll, and write the damn thing. I mean, if somebody’s offering you funding for your movie, yes, you have a movie.

Just practice, I just want you to practice with me. Right now, how many of you right now do have a movie. Okay, just a few of you. No just wait, actually, actually. Now, I’d say something different. I’ve got money for somebody who has a movie to produce.

How many of you have a movie to make? Excellent answer! Excellent answer. Two months later, he sent us a quarter of a million dollars to go into development on a project we were working on. Why did that happen? Because I’d overcome my rubbish, I’d overcome the garbage, and I’d gotten comfortable with speaking.

It has opened so many doors for me that I can’t even begin to tell you. Who wants to know my recipe for getting on stage at A-Fest? Anybody want to know that one? – [Audience] Yes. – I don’t know, it didn’t seem like there was a lot of excitement for that.

I’ll tell you the way it works. Some of you have studied inceptive marketing with me. So here’s what happened. I had made a decision not only that I wanted to get on stage at A-Fest, but I’d made a decision that I wanted my products published on the Mindvalley platform.

Here’s the bizarre bit though, at the same time that I made that decision, Vishen had made a different decision. And that was the Mindvalley no longer wanted to produce quantity, they wanted to focus completely on quality.

They wanted best of breed authors. In other words, they were going from 80 authors down to 14 authors. And I had made the decision that I wanted to be one of those 14 authors. Does this sound like an easy goal? No.

And so let’s back up. When we talk about marketing, when we talk about influence, it doesn’t work like it used to in the 80s. In the 80s, what you did for influence, was you just talked about how good you were.

You talked about your features and benefits, you talked about how great you were, you advertised yourself. That does not work anymore, do we agree? – [Audience] Yes. – It’s over. And now what we have to do if we want to influence people, is we have to think about them.

We have to think about them. We have to think about them, and talk to them. In fact, I want to do a funny little thing. I need some parents, I need parents. I need parents that are sitting beside each other.

Are you sitting beside each other? Have we played this game before? Okay good. They are now my parents, and I am a 14 year old child. And I would very much like to go to Disney World. Now, in the traditional world of children, how am I going to convince mom and dad that I get to go to Disney World? How am I going to do it? Help me out, coach me on the traditional world.

How would I do it? I’m going to go tell them what I want, right? I really, really want to go to Disney Land. Say no. – [Woman In Audience] No! – No, oh. Now what do I try now? – [Audience] Please! – Begging, begging, please! I’ll clean my room! Bribery.

Is it true? – [Audience] Yes! – Right, and then, oh, guilt. But all the cool parents are sending their kids. Will kids do this stuff? – [Audience] Yeah! – Absolutely. Well, I’ll tell you something. You might think that kids do this stuff, I’ve seen some of your websites.

You’re doing this. You’re just talking about you on the website. I want you to buy my product. Let me tell you how great my product is. You’re not giving them value. So if I think about it differently, wait a minute, who’s my ideal target market? My parents.

Aren’t they? All right, so if I wanted to influence them, I need to learn everything I can about them. What are my parents worried about? What are they thinking about? They’re thinking about me. They’re thinking about, am I safe? They want to make sure I don’t get somebody pregnant, that I don’t have the police bring me home.

They’re thinking that I want to get a good education. Is this all true? – [Audience] Yes. – All right, now, my parents are thinking about that stuff. Got it. Hey mom and dad, are you having a good breakfast? I just wanted you to know, I’ve been thinking a lot lately about my university education, and university entrance requirements.

I’ve been thinking a lot about that. Do I have their attention? – [Audience] Yes. – Yeah! One of them is choking now. Like, what? What? And it turns out, mom and dad, that university, the grades thing, you guys were right, that’s really important.

I’m going to have to step up on that area, because you got to have those grades. You know what else is fascinating though, is that it turns out universities aren’t interested just in robotic grades. They’re interested in interesting kids.

They’re interested in innovation, activity, involvement, creativity. And so I’m doing everything I can to learn about that, ’cause there have been some incredible people out there. Do you guys know who Nikola Tesla is? And of course Thomas Edison, and then you’ve got George Lucas, and Steven Spielberg, and Walt Disney, and Elon Musk, and Richard Branson.

I mean, these people are so creative! And I’m so excited about them! So right now, I’m doing like a project. I’m doing all the research I can on Walt Disney. You know that when he was broke, and he was just making cartoons, and his stories, and fascinating.

So if you have any books or blogs, or articles or videos or anything at all about Walt Disney, any way that you can help me learn more about Walt Disney, you just let me know. Who’s idea is it going to be? It’s going to be their idea.

It’s going to be their idea. And I think a lot about this, because most of us these days are so uncomfortable with communicating that we don’t have time to think about our communication before we communicate.

Isn’t it true? I am a big fan of having really clear, strategic objectives before I communicate. Before I walk on stage, I have a list of strategic objectives. One of them is always to have fun. It’s always like that for me.

I won’t go on stage if it isn’t fun, ever since Poland. By the way, in Poland, did I end up having fun? Yeah, because it was one of my strategic objectives. And so one of the problems is, is that if you’re nervous, and you’re freaked out, and you’re afraid, it’s hard to think strategically, because most people, many people in this room even, if they were told, “Hey, you have to give “a presentation in front of hundreds of people.

” Your biggest strategic objective is survival, isn’t it true? It’s just to get through it, it’s just to get to the other side. In fact, some of you will come up, and you’ll do a presentation, and you’ll do really well.

You’ll make people laugh, you’ll give some good ideas. You’ll walk off the stage, and you’ll have instant stage amnesia. You’ll forget everything you said. Who’s had that experience? That’s adrenaline and cortisol.

When you walk up on stage with adrenaline and cortisol you mess it up, and you don’t give yourself a chance to learn. So I’m going to give you a clue, one of the biggest clues you can have in starting to get really comfortable with being on the stage.

Never, ever tell the audience that you’re nervous. Never, ever show them with your body that you’re nervous. Never let them hear in your voice that you’re nervous, don’t do it. How many of you have gone out to do a talk, you’ve been a little nervous.

You’ve really kicked butt, like you’ve actually done really well. Once you got into it, you made them laugh, you started to feel pretty good. And then you got off the stage and it was good. And then people come up to you and told you how good it was.

And yet, somehow you were still nervous the next time. Who’s had that experience? The reason you had that experience is that you came off the stage and you walked around, and people came up to you, and they told you what a great job you did and you didn’t believe them.

You didn’t believe them, because you showed them that you were nervous. And so because you showed them that you were nervous, you believe that their praise of you, that their warm words for you are platitudes and lies.

What you have to do is you have to recognize that if you tell them you’re nervous, the reason you’re doing it, the reason you’re saying, “Oh gosh, I’m a little nervous today,” is you’re fishing. That’s why you’re doing it.

You’re fishing, ’cause you’re afraid you might not do that well. You want to set their expectations lower, and that way they’re going to give you better feedback. But the problem is, is the feedback will only feel good.

It’s like a drug. That feedback is like snorting a line of cocaine. It’ll feel good for a minute, and it’ll mess up your life. Please, never let them see you nervous. I had this woman Jessica, she came to one of my first ever speaking academies.

She came to the academy, and before she came by the way, she was so scared that even signing up, her hands were shaking. She was so terrified to be there. And then she did the program, and became incredibly comfortable and super proficient at speaking.

And so some time later, I used to offer this service where people could send me videos and I would do a video breakdown of their talk for them. And so I did that for her. She sent me one of her videos.

And I’m watching the video, and she rocked it. She did this incredible talk on mindfulness. Beautiful talk. Beautifully delivered. And she came to the very end of the talk, and then she did something that told the audience how hard it was for her, how nervous she was.

It was subtle, it was super subtle. I’m going to show it to you. You might not even see it, it was so subtle. But it kind of went like this, she finished her talk. She no kidding got a standing ovation, and at the end of the standing ovation, just see if you can see it.

Like you know in poker, you have the tell. When you’re trying to bluff, you have the tell, and so she just gave it away a little bit. Here it was. Everybody’s clapping, and she goes like this. Did you see it? I couldn’t believe it! I’m watching the video going, “No! “No! “You did this perfect talk!” And if she just held on.

If she just stood there and accepted the applause, then when the people came up and told her how much ass she kicked, how well she did, she would have believed them. But just that one stupid little thing, she won’t believe any of them.

No. You cannot show them you’re nervous. If you walk on stage, acting at least, if you’re not, acting confident, telling them you’re confident, and not communicating your fear, you will believe the feedback you get, and you’ll feel slightly better for the next talk.

And then you’ll do your next talk, and you will believe the feedback you get, and you’ll feel slightly better about the next talk. Five talks later, you will not be nervous anymore. You will let it go.

Does this sound sensible to you? I went to speak at my very first A-Fest event. Coming back to my strategy on how to get there. The ideal target market in my case was who? Vishen. And so I ended up at a conference where Vishen was.

And what I know about Vishen, because I’d done a little bit of research, is I knew a few things about him. One, is that he has a very selective way of putting his attention on things. He has a very high value system of what he’s going, he does not waste his attention, do you understand? So if he goes to a conference, he’s very clear about which speakers he already wants to see.

He knows that. And the rest of the time he’s working, he’s on his device, he’s making things happen. He didn’t know me, so was he going to come and see my talk? No. And so I’m sitting on a bus going on some tour, and I notice I’ve got Vishen nearby.

And I go, “Vishen.” I want to do a little more market research. Sometimes the best place to do your market research is with your market. And so I go, “Vishen, I want to ask you some questions. “I’m curious.

“What are you interested in these days.” And he goes, “Oh. “I’m super interested in bio-hacking.” And I go, “That’s amazing, “that’s what I’m speaking about tomorrow.” Now. Know your ideal target market, and then give them what they want.

As it turned out, I was talking about evolutionary biology and evolutionary psychology, which in my opinion is the foundation of bio-hacking. I wasn’t going to say that in my talk, but now I thought maybe I should address it.

And the other thing I knew about Vishen is that he really values solid educators. Have you guys noticed the quality of the people he brings for you to learn from? He really values solid educators. And one of the ways he measures them is, can they hold an audience’s attention? Can they give information in a way that the audience is actually going to learn, and actually going to change? And so I knew that if I could get ’em to come in the room, that I needed to deliver like that.

And so there he was in the room. And so I gave the talk that he needed to see. He walked up to me immediately and he goes, “Eric, you got to come speak at A-Fest.” Mission accomplished. Step one of mission accomplished.

By the way, I wasn’t doing a lot of speaking back then, and I said, “What month is it in?” And he told me the month. And I said yes, because I didn’t have anything in my calender. I was like, “Yeah, okay, I’ll do it.

” And then another guy, because I had done so well, walked up to me calling, and he goes, “Eric, can you speak at our conference in Vancouver?” And I’m like, “What month is it?” The same month, I’m like, “Yeah, what are the odds? “Yeah, yeah, I’ll be there.

” Same weekend. One event’s in Vancouver Canada, and the other one’s in Mykonos, Greece. So close. And so I go off to Vancouver, and I do my talk, and I get off stage. And I normally would like to stay, and autographs and take selfies, and all that kind of stuff that people want to do, but I could not.

I literally went from the stage to the limousine, to the airport, to the three flights to Mykonos. And here’s the funny thing I didn’t know, is that Mindvalley had arranged a hotel room for me. I didn’t know that, I didn’t know anything, I just went there myself and I had already booked my own hotel room.

The problem is, when I didn’t check into my hotel room, they were like, “Where the hell is Eric?” And so the next morning I woke up in my hotel room and I walked over to the conference center, and I knew I had to be on stage in about an hour.

And I went there to go and look at the stage, and do all my stuff. And Mia, some of you will be familiar with Mia. Is Mia fantastic and amazing? – [Audience] Yes! – Absolutely she is. And she and I had never really met before, well that’s not true.

About two weeks earlier, we had met on Skype. She goes, “Eric, the A-Fest schedule was full “before Vishen invited you.” She goes, “What are you planning to speak about?” And I go, “Well, I imagine Vishen wants me “to talk about WildFit, I think.

” And she goes, “Well, we already have Dave Asprey, “we’ve got J. J. Virgin, we’ve got Mark Hyman. “We do not need another diet talk. “You cannot talk about diet.” And I’m like, “I have no idea what to do now.

” And so what did I say to her, by the way, when she said this to me? – [Audience] No problem. – No problem. And then I got there, and I got ahold of her on FaceTime. And she goes, “Oh my god, Eric! “Oh my god, you didn’t check into the hotel, “and we didn’t know where you were, and we’re freaking out.

” And I said, “Mia, everything’s fine. “There’s no problem, I’m here.” And then I walked out, and she immediately calmed down. She came out and met me in the lobby and she said that it was just so amazing, because so many times speakers are frenetic and nervous before they walk on the stage.

Is it true? – [Audience] Yeah. – And in my case I was like, I was just so laid back. She’s like, “You know you’re on stage soon, right?” And I go, “Yeah.” And she goes, “Don’t you have to do “that nervous thing that people do?” “No.

” She goes, “Oh, do you do it like right before “you go on stage then?” I go, “No, I just don’t do that. “I don’t like that, I don’t enjoy it. “So I don’t do that.” “We don’t go there.” And she’s like, “Okay.

” And so then I walked out on stage, and I did a talk. And that night we were all at dinner, I was out at dinner and Vishen was there, Christina was there, a bunch of the speakers were there. And Vishen walks up to me and he says, “The Tribe so enjoyed your talk.

“Would you do another one for us? Now, I need to back up for a moment. I don’t do 20 minute talks. I just don’t. Like, I just don’t do that. Like I just don’t do that. Do you know why I don’t do it? If you would like me to come and speak in your company, and you want me to speak for eight hours, do you know how much time I have to prepare for that? I don’t.

I just show up, and I’ll speak for the eight hours. I mean yeah, I’ll do a little preparation on what your company wants, but I don’t have to prepare for a talk like that. If you want me to come on stage and speak for three hours, I’ll prep for half an hour, or to an hour max.

But if you want me to talk for 20 minutes, I need a month, because I have to choose the words so carefully, I have to choose the rhythm so carefully. I don’t have leeway. So everybody, people have come and asked me, “Oh, come and do a TED talk, come and do it.

” No. 18 minutes, no, I won’t do that. I just won’t do that. But in this case, remember I had a strategic objective to get published on Mindvalley. And so in order for me to get published on Mindvalley, I knew step one was get myself on the A-Fest stage.

And when Vishen said, “come and speak,” I didn’t even ask how long it was. I found out it was 20 minutes, and I’m like, “No problem.” And so I did my first talk in 20 minutes, first time I ever spoke for 20 minutes.

And Vishen comes up to me afterward at dinner. And he says, “Eric, the Tribe loved your talk so much. “Would you do another one tomorrow for 20 minutes?” Sure, I have a month between now and tomorrow to prepare.

And then I said to him, “What would you like the talk to be about?” ‘Cause he knows me a little at this point. He knows about my interest in business and entrepreneurship, he knows that I’m interested in health and nutrition.

He knows that I’m interested in evolution and biology. I’m a curious guy. And what’s interesting is, I have this friend David Wood, and when you go out to a meal in a restaurant with him, this is so cool.

He won’t order. The waiter comes over and the waiter says, “What would you like?” And he goes, “Anything. “You decide, surprise me.” How brave is that? In America. I mean, that could be lethal, really, but the fact is he does it.

He goes, “Bring me anything.” And you know what’s really amazing, is if the restaurant’s not too full, almost every time I’ve been out with him, they’ve brought him something that wasn’t on the menu, because the chef is bored silly with cooking the same crap.

Chefs did not go into being chefs to cook the same stuff every day. They’re creative people! And so when he says, “I’ll take anything.” The chef is back there going, cooking the same thing all the time, and the guy says, “Hey we got a joker back here, “he says he wants you to make anything for him.

“Pick something off the menu!” And the guy goes, “Forget the menu. “I get to be creative!” And he does something creative, and then they send the creative dish out. And then we’re sitting there, and David gets his creative meal, which somehow looks better, smells better, tastes better than everything on the menu, every time.

And then you know what? Almost every time the chef comes out and greets us at the table in his hat, the whole deal. And he says, “I want to know how the meal was.” Is that a rich experience? – [Audience] Yes.

– It really is, and I think our whole job in our lives is really to have rich experiences, and I love the way he did that. And so when I said to Vishen, “What would you like me to speak about?” Vishen says this to me, I kid you not.

And I want you to understand, Mindvalley controls things tightly to make sure they’re delivering. Like every minute is accounted for. First of all, I don’t know where he found the extra 20 minutes for me.

You never have an extra 20 minutes at a conference, ever, because speakers quite often go overtime, which by the way you should never do. Not ever should you go overtime. But sometimes speakers do, and they shouldn’t.

But the problem is, conferences never have a spare 20 minutes. I’m amazed at where this has come from. It turns out, he told me later, that he took it out of his presentation for me. And so then to him again, remember I said, “Well, what would you like me to speak about?” And this is what he said to me.

“Anything you want.” I don’t have to go from the menu! And I went back to my hotel room, and I said, “Oh my god, what could I do? “This is so incredible.” And then I broke one of my most incredible rules and that is never, ever break a topic out in front of a fresh audience.

You practice stuff, right? Forget that. I’m going to do something amazing! And I’d been working on a project, I’ve been working on this book called, “The Hindsight Window,” and it’s something I was super excited about, and I decided that’s what I’m going to do.

And the project had been mostly being worked on on my journal and my book, and I hadn’t really thought much of it, and I suddenly thought, “Wow, if I’m going to go talk “about, “he Hindsight Window in front of all these people, “I better register hindsightwindow.

com now.” So I went off and registered the domain that night, no kidding, and then I went out on stage. And I started like this, and I don’t remember it completely word for word. But basically I walked out on stage, and I looked out at all these incredible people, and they were so warm to me.

I’d already been on stage the day before. And I walked out and I said, “I am so excited about this next talk. “I want to tell you that I believe this talk “is going to have a major impact on you, “and you are going to remember it for years to come.

” Was I nervous? – [Audience] Yes. – Not at all. Not at all, that was my truth. My truth was I believed I was about to give a talk that was going to change their lives in 20 minutes. It was a talk that they would remember for years to come.

And do you know that I have had, and still to this day two years later, about once a week somebody still writes to me now, because they see it online. And they tell me, “Eric, your talk changed my life.

” But even bigger than that, after I gave my talk and I bumped into people, ’cause one of the things I love so much about A-Fest is that at a lot of conferences, you as a speaker, you come in, you do your thing, and you’re out.

But at A-Fest, it’s like community, right? So that means for the next couple days I’m on the beach, I’m out on the catamaran, and I’m hanging out with the audience, and I get to hear from them. And you know what? People came up and told me, they’re like, “Oh my god Eric, you really touched me, “I really enjoyed your talk.

“It was so funny, it was engaging,” blah, blah, blah. They’re telling me all this stuff, and I am believing them, because I wasn’t nervous. It’s so important that you do not show the audience your nerves.

Does this make sense to you? – [Audience] Yes. – Now. Couple more things I want to share with you about getting super comfortable with being on stage. Super, super comfortable. One of them is that you’re breathing has everything to do with how safe you feel.

The way you breathe has everything to do with how safe you feel as a human being. And I believe that this is a design of the Homo sapien’s frame, and it works like this. You’ve got lungs. And at the top of your lungs, the little hairs that extract oxygen from the air you breathe are more sparse up here.

And they’re dense in the lower part of your lungs. Now, if you didn’t know our history, you might think this is a terrible idea, right? I mean, you might think this is a terrible idea, because where do people spend most of the time breathing? Up here.

They breathe up here all the time. The trouble is, when you breathe up here, you don’t get quite enough oxygen. And if you don’t get quite enough oxygen, your brain gets oxygen starved, and then that triggers cortisol and adrenaline production.

By design though, it now seems flawed, because we spend so much time sitting down and crunching up our lungs, so we’re constantly producing this flow of adrenaline and cortisol when we sit at a desk for too long.

It’s one of the reasons. Have you ever seen the brain scans where they show a brain of somebody who’s been sitting for like 30 minutes, and they show somebody who’s been walking? The brain scan of the person who’s been sitting, it’s out.

There’s no flow in there. There’s no electrical circuitry going on. It looks like New York in a power outage. But if you look at the person who’s been walking around, it’s like fireworks inside there.

And I think one of the reasons for that is that when we sit down, and we crunch up our lungs, and we breathe only in the top, we switch back to reptile brain. And we stop being able to think really consciously.

And then a problem with that is, is that if we breathe like that, what do we say earlier? If we breathe like that and we produce cortisol and adrenaline, we become naturally more pessimistic. I wonder if this is why so many antidepressants are out there these days? Couldn’t be.

Couldn’t be related to that at all. But it’s a perfect design of Homo sapiens we are meant to be that way. Because for most of our history, we didn’t sit at desks. Now, I want you to imagine for a minute, if you and I are walking along and we stumble upon some lion tracks on the road.

We stumble upon these lion tracks in the dirt, where are you going to start breathing? How are you going to breathe? Will you breathe? What do you think? You tell me, would we walk along and see the lion tracks and go, “Oh look, lion tracks.

” Would we do that? No, no, we would not. We would look at them and we would only do one of two things. One would be to go. And stop breathing. Instant way to produce adrenaline and cortisol. Why? Because we want to switch to reptile brain as fast as possible.

We want the fastest possible reflexes at this point. Is it true? And the other way we might breathe is to go. Same thing, right? Same thing, we’re going to produce adrenaline, cortisol, which is going to move us to reptile brains so we are only going to be operating on instinct.

And when we are only operating on instinct, everything will look scarier than it really is, ’cause that’s safer, okay? That was perfect for most of our history. But you know what it’s not perfect for? The person who’s about to walk on stage and give the presentation, because I’ve seen them.

I’m talking professional grade, world famous speakers, they’re standing off on the side over here, and they’re going, “I’m going to do my presentation.” And they do this. And they’re breathing like this the whole time.

I feel scared now doing it myself. Don’t do it. I want you to know that when you breathe really fully, you communicate to your DNA that your environment is safe. This is one of the reasons that meditation is so incredibly powerful.

We can talk about esoteric things, and energies flowing around the universe. Yeah, fine. We can also talk about the practical reality of this machine. And this machine likes it when you breathe fully, because in nature the only time you would ever breathe fully, is when there is nothing around to threaten you.

Does this make sense? And so before you walk on the stage, while you’re preparing for your talk, you breathe fully. When you breathe fully, you will make your body feel safe. Next thing is your eyes. They say the eyes are the windows to the soul.

Well, I would put to you that the eyes are also absolutely connected to your sense of wellbeing. When you are afraid, you use your eyes in a very focused way. Again, we walk along, we see the lion tracks.

Will we gaze at them, or will we stare at them? You go, “Oh look, lion tracks.” No. It’s going to be, “Lion tracks! What do we want to know right now, quick, what do we want to know? What direction are they going in? That’s useful.

How about, how big are they? Do you have any idea? How many of you have ever seen a lion, like in a zoo or something? They’re bigger with no glass. How many of you have seen a lion from a four by four in Africa? Aren’t they bigger in the in the four? How many of you have seen a lion walking along? Few of you, hey.

You’re just walking. You’re walking, and there’s a lion there. Your DNA knows what a lion is. Quite a few of your ancestors were digested by lions, so your DNA knows. And so you look at that lion print.

You want to know what direction is it going in, how big is the lion, how many lions are in the pride? Do they have cubs with them? And by the way, most importantly of all, how fresh are they? And by the way, in case this happens to you, ’cause you know it might.

If you see the lion tracks, if you want to know how fresh they are, you just do this. And then if sand trickles in, then they’re within 15 minutes. And at that point, your eyes are not going to gaze either.

They’re not going to gaze and, “Oh look, the lions are going that way. “Oh cool.” Your eyes are going to go. And they’re going to look for everything. Well, guess what? When people make themselves nervous, they start doing that with the audience.

And they looking around like that, super fast, and focusing in on stuff. And they make themselves afraid. I want to share with you a really powerful distinction. Do emotions affect our body? – [Audience] Yes.

– Does our body affect our emotions? – [Audience] Yes. – It’s a feedback loop, isn’t it? It’s like Tony Robbins. He says, “How fast can you change the way you feel? “In a heartbeat! “Right, change your physiology! “If you want to create massive action in your life, “change your physiology now! “Level 1,000!” That feels pretty good, by the way.

He’s not wrong. The fact of the matter is, is that if we look at somebody, we can roughly tell what emotion they’re experiencing based on their body, is it true? – [Audience] Yeah. – But tell me the difference.

If I say there’s a depressed person over here, you’ll tell me, “Shoulders are slump, face is slack,” right? If I tell you there’s an angry person over here, shoulders are tense, fists are clenched, face is clenched.

But if I tell you that we have two people here, one of them is excited, and the other one’s nervous, tell me the difference? What’s the difference? There isn’t really. Do they both have sweaty palms? Are they both breathing up here? Are they both vibrating inside? Yeah.

There’s no actual difference, they’re the same emotion. They are actually exactly the same emotion. I will put to you that excitement is simply nervousness about something cool. Right? And nervousness is just excitement about something scary.

That’s it. And so what that means is, the person over here getting ready to come on the stage. The person over here getting ready to come on the stage, if they’re creating movies and pictures that are scary, then they’re going to be nervous.

If they’re creating pictures and movies about how cool the whole thing’s going to be, then they’re going to get excited. Does this make sense to you? – [Audience] Yes. – So when we combine all this together, and we recognize that in order for us to feel really good, we want to breathe fully.

And I want to share a distinction with you about this. I share this every now and again, and it’s a little controversial. Are you guys okay with a little controversy? – [Audience] Yeah. – I want to suggest to you that, and some of you may have seen me say this, I think there’s a YouTube video that Mindvalley published where I said this, so some of you it won’t be a new idea.

Maybe you heard it from somebody else too. But I want to put to you that I don’t think cigarettes are addictive, chemically. So there are two types of addiction, right? How many of you have ever found yourself addicted to a video game? Where are all the Candy Crush people? Yeah, my wife and I, we almost had to call a divorce lawyer, Candy Crush.

So can a video game be addictive? – [Audience] Yes. – Yeah. But that’s not an external chemical addiction, that’s an emotional addiction, or an internal chemical addiction. So when you stop playing candy crush, what happens to you? Your husband loves you again.

No, no. He never stopped loving you, he likes you again. But when you stop playing a video game, nothing happens inside, is it true? You don’t vomit, you don’t get a headache. When you stop drinking coffee, and you’ve been drinking coffee for all your life, what might happen to your body? – [Audience] Headaches.

– Headaches, and in extreme cases, heroine-like withdrawal symptoms, including fever, shaking, vomiting, temperature. It’s incredible. And If somebody quits heroine, there are the symptoms. If somebody quits cocaine, there are the symptoms.

If somebody is addicted to alcohol, and they quit drinking alcohol, it’s called the DTs and it’s the same thing. When somebody quits smoking, what happens? Nothing. Nothing, they don’t get a headache, they don’t vomit.

They have an oral and a finger fixation just like a child does when you take their dummy away. The next time you see an adult with a cigarette or an e-cigarette, I want you to create a picture in your head of what it really is.

It’s them walking along like little Jessica Simpson, or no, no, the other one. Yeah, Jessica, the little one, right? This is an adult with a cigarette, it’s this. That’s all it is. They’re just doing it ’cause it feels good, like they may as well switch to a dummy.

But the one problem is the dummy won’t solve the real addiction for them. The real addiction they have is to deep breathing. That’s the addiction they have. The addiction they have is to taking a nice deep breath.

There are some other things, like personal significance like, “Damn right I’ll do this, no matter what anybody says!” Then they feel important. By the way, it might kill you. There’s some adventure. But the biggest thing that they’re really addicted to is the deep breath.

Because when you take a big, lung-filled deep breath of air, your body knows that the environment is safe. You would not take that big lung-full of air if there was a lion, or a hyena, or a snake, or a spider, or a lawyer.

You wouldn’t take that big lung-full of air. And so what happens, come on. Grab a cigarette with me. Put whatever in it you want, but grab a cigarette. All right? And then just act it out with me, we light it, and then watch me first.

You light it, and you go like this, you go. Okay, everybody do this with me, ready? Here we go. No wonder they do that after sex. I mean, doesn’t that feel good? Breathing like that will make you feel calm, so what I want you to think about is any time you need to go on stage there are a bunch of things that are going to make you feel better.

Breathing deeply, using your eyes in a soft, gazing way. When a bushmen is sitting in Africa, making stone tools or carving an arrow, he’s gazing out at the horizon, and then looking down, and gazing out.

If there was a threat, he would stare. If he’s relaxed, he will gaze. So we breathe deeply. We gaze. We see it coming out beautifully. We never let the audience see us nervous. And the last thing that is so important, is we start the talk with a predictable laugh.

How many of you have ever done a talk, and the minute you got the audience to laugh the first time, you instantly felt better? Who’s had that experience? And many of us have had the experience by accident, but what if we did it on purpose? My friend Jack Canfield, you know what he does? He’s so funny.

What he’ll do before he goes on stage is he’ll have slides of all the funniest comics he’s seen for the last couple of months. And he just plays the slides, and everybody starts laughing. He didn’t even have to say a word yet.

But he feels good, they feel good, what a great warm up act. I saw Eddie Izzard. Eddie Izzard, the comedian. He created the first ever public Twitter wall that I saw at an event. He put this huge screen up, with the Twitter feed, so the audience could write to him on Twitter.

And they put it publicly. And it was hilarious the things people wrote. The audience had tears down their face. The audience was the opening act! He found a way to make them laugh, and so what I want to suggest to you is that the last peace for you is to be predictable in that first bit, know exactly what you’re going to say so that you can create a predictive response from the audience in the first 30 seconds, does that make sense?

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4 Tips To IMPROVE Your Public Speaking – How to CAPTIVATE an Audience

So do what you can, where you are with what you have and never be satisfied. Anticipation is the ultimate advantage in business and in life. Like, you’re not 100% sure what could happen if you keep going.

You can do it tomorrow is going to be better. What do you tell people when they ask you you know, how can I present like you? How can I get better? The thing that really really helps is that I’ve learned about the perspective to change my perspective, so, for example, I show up to give and I always remind people that the most important thing about being an effective presenter, an effective speaker is you have to show up with a giving attitude, you have to show up to give, you know something, you’ve seen something, you’ve done something, you’ve tried something that someone else thinks others need to hear that’s why they invited you to speak.

The problem is the number of people who show up to take, to get and you can see it, it’s very plain to see people ask a question and they say, “You’ll have to buy my book” or you could just tell me the answer because you know the answer because you wrote the book, right! But clearly they’re trying to drive book sales, it’s a taking mentality.

Every single slide of their PowerPoint has their Instagram, their email, their website, their Facebook. Well, clearly they want you to follow them, they want you to reach out the last slide is their website and their email.

Right? They have a taking mentality. They come up and the first thing they do is tell you their credentials “Hi, my name is, you know, Dr. Bla-de-bla I have six PhDs, I’ve worked for 55 companies, I advise CEOs and generals” and let me tell you a little something it’s about them.

It’s very easy and very quick to discern who’s the giver and who’s the taker. The best speakers 100% of them you look at all the top TED folks you know, Sir Ken Robinson, Amy Cuddy, Brene Brown. Right! Dan Pink, all of them.

All of them are there to give. None of them want anything from anybody, not even your approval. No nobody… I don’t know any great speaker that stands in the backstage that goes “I’m going to get a standing ovation” you may get one if you earn it.

if they decide that what you’ve given them is of value that’s not the reason you show up, you show up to give. How many of you guys experience fear when you speak? How many of you by a show of hands know that public speaking is fundamental to your industry, your career? By show of hands how? How many of you by show of hands honestly speaking experience a little bit of fear when we talk about public speaking? Raise your hand and over the last three years, I’ve had the opportunity to travel the country and deliver presentations like this and what I’ve picked up on is that there are certain patterns, there are certain patterns and certain skill sets that if applied can make a public speech amazing.

If you follow these principles that we’re going to talk about today I think I don’t care what industry you’re part of, I don’t care what work you’re in, I don’t care what year you are, I don’t care how old you are I believe if you apply these principles today you can literally transform where you are and take the journey to where you want to be.

Straightforward, I believe there’s three principles. Three A’s of public speaking. Three things that I wanted to leave you with today and I believe if you take action on it you’re going to be like, “Oh my god, I’m glad I came.

” So number 1, authenticity engages. November 2017, I was afforded the opportunity to give my first TEDx talk and man, can I tell you I was excited. You got to imagine, a young professional starting out ready 26 years old and I want to make this very clear so I’m thinking to myself and what I used to do is when I prepare I would give a talk at least 100 times before I give it.

Write that down. I give it mentally, I give it out, I talk to people conversationally, in the shower, I’m like, “Okay, this is okay. I’m going to do this, right?” And I think to myself PowerPoint or no PowerPoint that’s all I’m thinking.

I’m like, “Okay, if I give this presentation should I, should I use the PowerPoint behind me or should I just use me instead of using the PowerPoint. So I’m- I’m researching and I’m watching I’ve watched more TED Talks than you could possibly imagine and I’m like, “Okay, they do this, they do that.

” Okay, I’ve seen good ones with the PowerPoint, I’ve seen good ones without and what I notice is, I said, “You know what, I’m going to ask my closest friends and family I’m going to take a poll. 12 people that I love, that know me well.

I said, “Sister, should I use a PowerPoint?” she goes, “Yeah, something to back you up, use a PowerPoint.” I go “Mom, should I use a PowerPoint?” She says, “No PowerPoint, use you.” I say “Bro, should I use a PowerPoint?” He goes, “Yeah, you need the stats to back up what you’ve done.

” I said cool. I go through the entire list six – six I put the list down and I go, what was I thinking with an even number. I’m getting ready for the biggest speech of my professional life. Right? And professionals, people that I love are telling me no PowerPoint – PowerPoint and it’s six – six and I’m like how am I going to break this tie? And I’m like wait I didn’t ask one person I didn’t ask myself I did not ask myself what I would be most comfortable with to present.

When we talk about public speaking and why I say authenticity engages listen to me here you have to know yourself before you go and seek advice. You have to speak from the gut before you go and ask because when you’re talking to an audience, an audience can feel realness and you have to be yourself.

If you can’t be yourself you will never engage in the way in which you want to that I have to listen to me first in order to really deliver a message that informs and inspires. Number 2, awareness Awareness connects the speaker to the audience and this is what I mean.

And so one of the speaking events comes- comes about and… I get the opportunity to- to speak in- in Sioux Falls, South Dakota. And before the event you know, you want to be early, you want to be ready, know your audience, know your crowd I hear like all this partying type thing going on and I’m like, what’s going on? And I go down and they have.

.. they have an open bar and they had the open bar for hours they were lit guys, they were lit. Right? And so listen, I go to the event I’m in my mind, I’m thinking it’s going to be a professional motivational this is what you need to do and I walk into a party and so as a speaker I’m thinking, “Oh my goodness” like I was prepared to do one thing, I flew all the way here and there’s literally a party in the audience like.

.. the wave, the energy is like, Hey, I hope this guy’s cool I hope he’s going to, you know, have a joke and I’m like… that’s not the content that I deliver so I get up they call me up and I walk up just like this and they’re as quiet as you guys are.

They’re literally staring at me like, what’s this guy about? Right? And at that moment, I decided right before I got up I said you know what, I’m going to tell a story and I said before I begin I just want let you guys know I’m.

.. I’m coming from Sacramento and I hopped on the plane and I met an individual and we were chatting it up and he thought I was going to give a presentation in Colorado and I told him, “No, I’m actually giving a presentation in Sioux Falls” and the look on his face was blank and he said, “Excuse me, where?” and I said, “Sioux Falls” then he said these three words and I’ll never forget it.

He said, “Are you sure?” and I said that and there was a man sitting right where you’re sitting. And he literally laughed like he was at a Kevin Hart special. He lost it. I’m talking chair went back. He’s laughing so hard, it’s about a crowd of 200 that everybody.

.. you guys ever caught this, when somebody laughs so hard that you have to laugh the whole crowd literally just starts busting laughing. And I start laughing from the stage I’m like, man if this is how it’s going to be let’s have a good time.

And at that moment I realized something because the old me would have been so stuck on the preparation part that I would have never had the audacity, I would have never had the awareness situational awareness is what I mean.

When you speak or present sometimes things will not go as planned and there’s no way to plan for it. And what you have to do is be fluid and malleable and ready to rock with the situation. And if you have situational awareness what often can happen is you can play on what is happening I said huh, open bar, alcohol, social event, I’m coming with motivation if I switch it just like this and tell a joke and let them know I’m not all serious up here the audience will be on my side.

Number 3, audacity Audacity informs and inspires. You have to be bold in order to give a speech that’s going to last. How many you guys experience fear when you speak? Fear of an opinion of other, fear of being criticized, fear of not being good enough, fear of tripping up on a word, fear of what you look like.

We know that fear drives most of us and I’m here to tell you that audacity is what you need, boldness is what you need. If you want to deliver something and absolutely be transformative I’m passionate about this, I believe this because I live this.

I’m telling you, you have to be bold. You can’t half-step into your presentation you have to be bold you cannot half-step into your presentation and one of the ways in which we do that is we deliver a story.

Story includes power. Stories are powerful, they’re the most powerful thing that you can do when you open your mouth because the brain operates in pictures and a story has the ability to paint the picture in the mind of another individual.

They did a study about TED Talks, in the top TED Talks I’m talking the million, the million hits. The top TED Talks, 85% of them were story centric. Stories can be crossed over to any industry at any time whether you’re telling your personal story, whether it’s Martin Luther King delivering a speech, whether it’s a president of a country.

A story is the thing that allows- has time sit and let’s you go like this Huh. A story is powerful right? Never tell a story without making a point but never make a point without telling a story. Like use the story to drive home what you’re trying to do.

It crosses every industry, every… anything that you want to do a story will get you there.

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